My boyfriend and I just shared to buy a house, Do you think is this a proper way
By yenwie84
@yenwie84 (1344)
Malaysia
March 15, 2009 9:13am CST
I am in dilemma now. I just don't know whether I have made a right choice or not. I have shared to buy a house with my boyfriend. People always say it's better don't commit in anything we are just couple with someone especially when the relationship is just boyfriend and girlfriend. What do you think?
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6 responses
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Actually, it is only you who could determine if your decision was right or not. If you think that your relationship would lead to marriage, then that is fine. If not, it is not the proper way actually because when you decide to break up, one of you will give up its share. Either you buy his share or vice versa or sell the property. Good side of it, if you end up marrying him, then at least you already a house.
@maianpon (25)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
You're certainly right about how people say that it's better not to commit in anything with someone who's just your boyfriend/girlfriend, but it's not for other people to tell you whether you made the right choice or not. You know your boyfriend better than other people, and you are the one who knows the intensity of your relationship. You alone can answer your question. What other people say doesn't really matter. What matters most is your own judgment. So if you feel that it's wrong, then tell your boyfriend you're not ready for that kind of commitment. But if you think that it's the right choice, then go for it. :)
Just be sure that your decision won't give you headaches in the end. :)
@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
15 Mar 09
Hello,Yenwie! No,it is not a right decision since you are financing your boyfriend who is not your life partner so far.Who knows whether your relationship would continue and convert it to husband-wife.Postpone the proposal of purchasing the house till you marry him.After marriage you may finance your fiance,nobody would deny.thanx.
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
15 Mar 09
Hi Yenwie, I think the complication comes only if the two of you decide to separate for one reason or other. If the separation is amiable, then it's fine; you can discuss on how to dispose of the property. If not, it will be a headache!
@hustonphotography (569)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I say it depends on the situation. How long have you been together? If you have been together for years then it might make since to do something like that. But I do see your concern. Have you seen the movie "The Breakup". They were boyfriend and girlfriend. When they broke up they had to sell their place and split the profit. If you do breakup you might have to do something like or even go to court to let the court decide who gets what and what happens to the house.