I think my ex-girlfriend is jealous.. What should I do ?

@NrgDfenZ (1810)
Belgium
March 15, 2009 12:35pm CST
Hi all I have a bit of a problem.. Well it isn't quite a problem yet, but it's annoying.. Let me explain the issue.. Last week I met a fantastic girl, that I've been seeing now regularly, and I think there could be a future for the two of us :) But the problem is that my ex-girlfriend is being extremely friendly.. She hasn't been so friendly in ages, not even when I had a relationship with her.. Well I once said to my ex, that she would always be in my heart and no one could change that, I think she has doubts with that now, and she is being extremely friendly to be sure she'll keep that place.. She also sometimes says mean things, but I can forgive her for that.. I really don't know what's up with her.. I mean I love her, I will always love her, but in a special way, she was my first girlfriend, and I dont think she realizes that my new girlfriend is more important to me now.. The only problem now is that I don't know how to explain her, and it's killing me, I don't want to fool her to let her think she still has a chanche with me, nor do I want to hurt her feelings.. It's just so hard... Well thanks for listening (reading) anyway.. I appreciate it.. Thx
2 responses
pulangpluma
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
I think it is very kind of you to still think about her feelings otherwise you would not be in that predicament. However, you should try to tell her how you feel about her extra closeness and let her know her place (that she is now probably just a special friend) and ask that she gives you a chance to make it work with your new love. Ask for some space. I think how you said it in this post is OK. Tell her as you wrote it in here. I believe she will get hurt in the process regardless of how you say it but you have to say it otherwise it may cause problems with your new relationship. Listen to what she will say or how she would defend herself. Ease her but stand firm in what you want to happen. Goodluck
rebelmel
@rebelmel (1386)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I think you need to tell her that she needs to back off for now. You don't want to scare this new girl away because she thinks that you and your ex are buddy buddy and that you might like her still. Because I am telling you, that WILL happen if your ex is being overly friendly and it will cause this new girl to be jealous. Once things start to work out with you and this new girl on a serious level, you can maybe suggest that your ex meets the new girl in some sort of NORMAL situation (tell her to go to a party that you two are going to, or a show, or a bar, whichever way works best for you) But whatever you do, make sure you take the feelings of the girl you like the best into consideration before you try to make someone else happy. If your ex's happiness isnt as important as the new girls happiness, don't make a mistake. Make sure that she can tell that her happiness is what matters.