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You sound like a very compassionate person. It sounds like your inner self has been telling you that this person is not who you need but maybe you want to override that feeling. I did that for five years. It never did work. Eventually, I moved on and have been with the love of my life for a long long time. Ask yourself why you want someone back that does not make you feel as important or special. You don't have to keep calling someone who wants to be with you, they will be calling you. I hope this is not too harsh. I wish you peace and happiness.

You are understandably hurt and going through "the process". First you will be sad and inconsolable. Then, you will be angry. These are all steps in the grieving process. If you really think you want to get back together with him, you should think long and hard about if that is truly what you want. Here is an article: http://hubpages.com/hub/Make-Up-After-the-Break-Up Obviously, you should sub "girlfriend" with "boyfriend", but the same principles apply. I hope you feel better!

sometime when dealing with others issues from thier pass. but if the you were feeling isnt wrong. feelings are never wrong. but he need to help himslef to deal with whatever his did, and you need to think really hard about going back with him.

It's good to overview of the thing.

I think both of you should talk and have real conversation.Its much better,but I think both of you should be emotionally stable before seeing each other,because it can lessen the tense and pressure.

I feel sorry about your current situation. But I don't feel or suggest you to get him back to your life. I know it looks very odd to you at first sentence, but read through my whole message - you will come to know that I have a point. Even if you get him back to your life again, he may never feel that close to you as he will doubt that you may dump him again in future. This is a matter of trust. Once lost in a relationship, it can never be revoked so easily. In absence of trust, you can never be happy with him again! Again, about apologizing to him, this is perfectly alright. If you feel you have done something wrong, and if you are sure about your mistakes, go ahead and apologize to him. That way your mind will be cleared of that guilty feelings. You can start concentrating on some other aspects of life later. Be cool, everybody tend to make mistakes in life in this world! It is a common behavior of human being to err, but understanding their mistakes and rectifying them is the one greatest aspect that everybody should develop! You are starting on that direction, Good luck to you.

He obviously hasn't gotten over his ex and you're right when you said that you felt like you're the substitute. But hey, that's life, if he can't get over his issues and carries those issues with you (or his other relationships) it's bound to fail. 6 month-old relationships should be fun, caring, full of passion, and all you want to do is to be with the guy. It's a moment of adjustments, trying to see if your personality and his could fit well. Breaking up in this duration is normal for most relationships. Perhaps you feel guilty because you thought you could change him or perhaps help him with his issues. Heck, girl, you're not a super hero. When it's over, it's over. If you know deep down your heart you did not do anything wrong, don't apologize. But I'm sensing maybe there hasn't been a closure yet, that's why you're all jitty and stuff. But as you said, you can't deal with all his crap, so don't force it. Go your way, and someday (when both of you would be ready) your paths would meet and then you'd get to talk. But for now, just let it be. Nevertheless, you had mentioned (and I'm not so sure about the info) that you just broke up last Friday? and now it's Monday? So, nothing is final yet. Perhaps it was just a quarrel or so. But should you guys be together again, tell him straight to keep his issues out of your relationship. Tell him to grow up!

It really depends on you if you want to apologize or not. But for me, if my opinion is concerned, I think it's just fair and you don't need to apologize for him. As such, you're in the process of moving on. Keep yourself busy as this will help you forget him in the long run.

Was the main reason why you broke up is because he was making excuses of the "crappy" things he do to you because of his former relationship? If that's the case then I don't think you should get back with him. If a guy really loves you and really wants to be with you, he will do anything he can not to hurt and disappoint you. He will not make excuses just to save himself and instead will make you feel special than the previous relationships he had. I hope you will feel better soon!

i understand you very well. I passed for that and i still feel the pain for over 3 years now. What i can say to you is what I didn´t do and maybe if I had done it would have worked out. Don´t show you´re so sad, try to figure out if you really love him and if you do, work on yourself to be wishful. Love yourself first of all.

I think you need to give yourself some time to just be single. Don't worry about your Ex boyfried or any other guys for that matter. Just go on with your life and do what you enjoy doing. If there is a guy for you and you were meant to be it'll happen regardless of what you do! Do something fun! Keep yourself busy with something! If it has to be Mylot just get on mylot all day every day! Just keep yourself busy so your not thinking about him anymore.

Actually I broke up with my boy-friend recently too,The reason is that we study in defferent places ,He finds another girl,He said he did not want to be lonely.We have been in love for six years.I love him so deeply that I lose myself in the past.so this thing is aslo a big hit to me.But now I decide to live for myself.He is not a real man ,he is not worthy to be remembered by me.I should cherish friends around me.If you think your boy-friend is a good person,love him and apologize to him first,there is no self-esteem between lovers. wish you good luck!

hey. i was broken hearted twice... guilt comes when your weaknesses in your past relationdhips prompt you. but be not bothered... what is significant is that when you accept all your shortcomings and make your future relationship successful. loving is learning...

I'm so very sorry about your recent break up. I will say its very hard to give any advice not knowing that much about your relationship... and I hate to be blunt, but don't call him. If he wanted to talk to you, he'd answer the phone or call you. I know 6 months seems like a longtime, but in the scheme of thing, its not. Yu still may have a lot of feelings for him, guilt, whatever theymay be - no matter how long the relationship, those feelings will always follow. Fill your time with as many friends, good music, family members, laughs and just general good times as you can! I'll promise you that you'll get thru this! Good luck with everything girl!

Yeah like dneg said just wait before you go telling him you want him back the reason being. part of getting over someone is regret and yes your going to miss somethings about this person but just getting back together with someone is never a good idea wait till you know the old wounds are healed and make sure you are really interested in him enough to stick with him if you go back out with him and then you find out your not ready you could really mess things up. just wait a wile and see if you really truly miss him enough to try again. and yes apologize but apologize for the right thing. apologize for not understanding that his traumatic experience effected him so greatly. if you do decide to go back out with him suggest a nother method of contacting you like myspace or an instant messenger service until he's ready and comfortable talking on the phone.