He left, he's still gone ............. I'm lonely .....and missing him...

hi there....we have almost a same situation...my fiancee is in US navy and he got a very hectic schedule especially his job on the ship he quite plays a major role...im originally from Guam but now staying here in San diego with him...i just moved in here last new year,i still dont have friends except my partner's coworker's wife who's living far from us and i dont really want to bother people so much. i really miss my friends and family in Guam im a very workaholic back there and im a very busy person i got a daytime and nightime job but now i dont work yet cuz im not really that too much familiar around here and i dont drive here my car is in GUam and my fiancee's car is a stick and i dont know how to use it...i moved here cuz we are getting married this month and would you believe that he goes to deployment for a week or so and im all by myself here at our unit...we live in a very nice place here downtown very nice neighborhood,restaurants and bars just a couple of block but i cant go just by myself...i miss him a lot everytime he's gone...what im doing is most of the time i just watch a tv or learn some new recipe,sometimes i go to the closest mall here and shop,or i dont really do all my choirs in just one day i try not too finish everything so everyday i got something to do...i dont want that i dont have nothing to do at all...But maybe try to tell your husband to call you more often...my partner calls me every night except if the phone is down inside the ship or if someone's using their limited phones on the ship we try to just talk online...im planning to go enroll in a music school my fiancee is 42 years old and he's in the band before even before he joined the navy and were talking about me learning to play an instrument so later on maybe we'll put up a band...he's a great guy even he is 17 years older than me we really does a lot of things together that;s why i really miss him every time he's not here like right now im all by myself its been a week already...just not try to think too much and keep yourself busy and find some hobbies..

My hubby just left town for China on Monday. This is his fourth time flying to China for business. Initially I thought I will get used to it. But up till now I still have problem sleeping everytime he's not in town. Then again, work is work. I fully support him. On my part, life goes on. And I use this time to visit my grandpa, god-parents, cousins, and meet up with friends. And if I want to, sometimes I'll take a book and go to a cafe by the beach. Take the opportunity to do the things you usually can't find time to do. Re-discover yourself. Take a course. Learn somethings new. Enrich yourself and your life. So that you'll have things to share with your partner.

I can imagine your situation. My husband is truck driver, but has been lucky all these years. He hauls heavy equipment and cranes so the most he's ever been out of town is 2 nights. His work has been cutting back hours and talking of layoffs. I try to keep in mind that he is the top senority driver there, but we are both worried. He has a great job history, so I know he could find a job with no problem, but it would probabaly be over the road. I don't know what I will do if this happens. When he is gone now, I can't sleep in the bed without him. I sleep on the couch with the phone beside me. I am a nervous wreck. I can't be that way for weeks at a time with three kids.

It is very important ot keep busy. Plan an activity for each day. Try not to feel sorry for yourself as he is doing what he has to do for you and the family. I would phone him more often as this would help with the distance between you. Also send him a little note to tell him how much you miss him. Treasure him when he does come home. I am widowed and I know what true loneliness is. My husband is never coming home to me. what I would give to hold him again and give him a hug.

My husband works in town, and has some 12 hour days, which leaves me at home without a car. It can get really boring in the winter months, summer I can spend in the garden and canning and freezing. A friend of mine comes and picks me up and we go shopping or go walking together. I know it is not the same for you. Do you write your husband? Or send him a card or something for fun. It gives you a little more contact with him, when he gets your letters. Plus the letters are there when he is lonely. If you are really lonely, then ask him the next time you talk to him, what a good time would be to call to talk with him, if you get lonely. As the grand kids to stay over and keep you company, if they are able. Good luck to you.

My boy friend's working place is a little far away from mine, we usually meet on weekends.sometimes,two weeks once.But we chat on line every night and call each other. Even though, sometimes,i still feel alone,usually,i like to write my feeling,or call my friend to have dinner togather,listen music or reading book. Hope it's useful for you.Be happy:)

Hello moondancer I hate to hear that you are lonely.I live alone and I don't think that I am lonely.I don't have anyone that visits me except for my children and great grandchildren. They come to see me on Christmas.I look forward to their visit every year.My son is working in another state.He gets a vacation twice a year and he comes to visit.The rest of the time I am alone.I am used to it so it does not bother me.I watch television or since my daughter gave me a computer,I spend time on it.I talk to my sister once or twice a week on the phone and we meet in town once a week most weeks. We eat lunch and go to different stores to browse around. We do our grocery shopping and other shopping.I hope that you can find ways to keep from being lonely. Blessings to you and your husband.

My husband has to go out of town once in a while. When he goes, normally, he is gone all week. It isn't a very long time really, but I get lonely at night. He calls me at least once a day when he is gone. When I am feeling lonely, I will either call my Mom or watch a movie with the kids. Or do one then the other. When he is ut of town, my daughter normally climbs into bef with me at night, she sayd that she does it because she misse Daddy and wants to smell his pillow. It doesn't bother me because I don't feel so alone. I can't say that I enjoy it when he goes out of town, but it comes with his job. I can't complain, and won't because at least he is working.

I can understand your feelings.You shall start writing a diary,narrating every events of the day like telling it straight to your husband.That will make you feel as if he is with you.More than that try to get into your favorite hobby and pass on your hard times.Waiting has its own beauty and for your loved husband it is more good.Enjoy the experience and don't feel down at any time.Cheers!

I know how you feel my boyfriend has been out of work and I know when he finds a job I will be sad because I am used to him being here with me during the day. I know that I would like him to stay home and make money online like I do but it seems he is not very driven to do it. But like you said yourself at least he has employment there are a lot of people out there right now that need jobs so consider you guys lucky. Take care and happy mylotting to you.

I have broken up after a long-term relationship.I was sad and depressed. I eat terrible food in terrible quantities.For instance,ice cream,cakes,cookies and potato chips all become comfort foods that I consume in excess... I soothed my broken heart by going shopping-buying new clothes and new shoes ,maybe apiece of jewelry-to make myself feel better. I went to a bar to dance and drink .I drank too much and threw up ..... I yell scream and cry... But now I learn that I forgot that pretending to be happy don'tmake me happe . I forgot that I can't just forget the past.. I learn that sometimes the things we want to forget are the things which we most need to talk about. If you would be love .love and be lovable...

hi there, i understand what you feel coz im feeling the same way too... my husband works overseas and his contract is for a year...he left january 2008 and came home december the same year but now his back abroad again so im gonna see him after a year..its really lonely though we talk every night after his work..i still cry sometimes but what can i do.. i have to show my support and make sure he feels happy and relieved whenever he talks to me...when im lonely, i keep my self busy.. i go to malls or just spend time surfing the net..

It is hard being seperated from your family. In the military we deploy a lot. Sometimes we go for 6 months and sometimes longer. We always try to email, send letters, and do a webcam. It just depends! I also think getting hobbies and staying busy helps the time fly. I hate the loneliness when it creeps up on you. Sometimes I know you just want to cry. But remember that counting days will make it seem like time is dragging. The best thing is stay busy. That is the best advice I can give;-)

you can turn to internet,friends.pets

I call my friends or I try a new activity. This way, I'm busy and don't feel lonely. It's hard, though - for the longest time, my husband and I were together whenever I was off work, and now he's gone a lot between his job and the courses he's taking. We text message each other a lot though.

I think what u have to do is think that he's far from you in terms of distance,he needs to find a living. you may watch t.v., listen to the music and chat with online or leave offline messages when you feel lonely, u may also chat with your friends .

Well I am very sorry to hear this. I couldnt stand it if my husband had to work out of town. I like him home every night. It makes me feel safe and secure. But it is good that he has a job you know. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do and I am sure that he hates being away from you like this also.

i just take a look at photos of my lovelady which we took in our outings....

hello!i am an army wife and i know all to well the lonley feeling we have been married for 5 years and have a 2 yr old daughter he has been here for 9 months of my daughters life!he is a stranger to us...he is currently deployed for the 4th time for 15months.keep ur head up,remember there r people who have it worse.