am i good enough???

Being a wife does not only entails the physical aspect (house chores). We wives, specially the stay-at-home ones, should strive to develop our minds as well so that we can communicate sensibly with our spouses. Read books or magazines. Watch informatice shows. Try to learn something of what his interests are. Or you could also develop a talent you already have, and be good at it. It will boost your self worth. I have been a housewife for 26 years now but I have not stopped learning something new. It makes me excited to share with my husband, and I know he appreciates that we could talk something else aside from domestic concerns.

a good relationship is based on mutual respect understanding and love. i fyou dont have these things then you are in wrong place. it does not matter what standing you have in life if your partner respects you he/she will never make you feel inferior in fact they will make you feel worthwhile and give you strength. I'm sorry but it sounds as if your husband is not in same place as you when it comes to your marriage. please be strong and remember you are just as important as anyone else and your voice should be heard and your opinions counted. good luck and take care :)

You are trying to hard. Start living your life for you. When you are happy, he will be happy. Respect yourself and he will respect you more. If you feel you are not good enough, he might start feeling that way too. By the way, what you are going through is very common. When my BF makes me feel that way, I talk to him about it. That usually helps. I was married for 9 years as well, but we never talked. He made me feel like a nothing, and I let him. Don't make the same mistake I made. Take care. By the way, welcome to My Lot!