Just a thought, why women want marriage?

You are absolutely right it is all because of society. Single moms is not acceptable in the society and a large number of abortions are reported everywhere owing to this. Once a women is married there is no such problem and position of women is considered respectable, respect from the society is one thing which every female wants.

Personally, it's very much up to an individual on what she wants for herself. Look at the single mom who gave birth to 8 kids with more at home. That's what she wants and she's not afraid or bothered how people look at her or their opinion of her. Most importantly it's what makes you happy. I never wanted to get married because of all the affairs I see around me. I wanted to stay single forever. And then I met my hubby. He gave me hope. He is my Mr. Right. And I got married. Because he makes me happy, every single day. Even on days when we have conflict, I am still happy. As we know that after a talk we will be ok. Go for what you want, whatever gives you happiness.

women have more of heart and emotions and i think they want commitment and security.they donot go for flirting as much as men and want to tell the whole world that she and her hubby is married and that they are not available.

This is my thought on the marriage matter. I believe one should get married because they love this person & want to spend eternity with this person. That is real love not just for the so called security of marriage. Marriage should not be entered into lightly. It should be harder to get married than to get out of marriage. For there are so many abused women in the world married to their abuser. I believe all couples thinking about marriage go to a counselor to find out what each one wants out of the union. Some couples might not marry. Some men wants a wife to take care of them as a slave & then there is the women out there that want a man to take care of her as a sugar daddy. These kind of people should not marry at all. A marriage is a sharing in love, life and happiness along with the tough times too. And if a person is not ready to be with this one person only that person should not marry either.

You are right. Part to be blamed is the society. It's sad really. It's funny how society choose to have freedom of rites but they only accept limited choices of others. People go on preaching that they have the rite to make their own choices but fail to acknowledge the choices of others. They accept the idea of procreation but not on all the other 'non-traditional' ways to procreate. Weird isn't it?

because of the society~ If women didnt get married at the suitable age people around them will talk about this behind their backs... That is awful!!!!

Women in general would like to walk down the isle in their pretty gowns towards the arms of the man that they love. Ideally, in our culture, a woman should bear a child when married and not out of wedlock. Though it is already, somehow, accepted by society, a stigma of being unmarried is still there. Generally, women deep down feel fulfilled more when they get married and have kisd with their husbands. This makes them feel more secured.

Marriage is a wonderful experience, if one understands what it entails, and there is nothing to replace it in terms of complete living. At the same time singleness can also be a happy experience for those who know how. And the single state is not the prerogative of the male. No two women's wants, desires, ambitions, outlooks are the same. What we have to get rid of are those prejudices which so easily take hold of us, and allow people to live the lives they want to lead - single or married.

It's not just because of what society dictates, but also the emotional feeling, the psychological impact of having a union blessed with God or someone great, it brings about the sense of security that this person you are with has committed to do his/her best to keep the union strong. Yes, it may be just paper on the outside, but on the inside you'd feel he personally chose you and was willing to go through all the public display (and the spiritual display) to show the world he is in fact willing to spend his life with you. Indeed, actions speak louder than words. He may not be always true to his word, but in this life where it seems women do the work (even the courtship!) it's heartwarming to see a man act as someone responsible enough to take this life with another (and not just forced because it's what's comfortable - living together). People may say it's not practical to get married, but it's not marriage that's not practical, it's people wanting to show-off too much. What matters is that the two, together with the parents (if they're still around) and 2 godparents (to assist them in their married life) and the Priest/Minister/Imam to bless them physically and God/Allah there spiritually to unite two souls who dare share a life together and commit by it. Marriage by some may not last, but I guess they just didn't see their commitment as something that important to strive for. It's not marriage's fault. It's human nature.

I think that a lot of woman are taught at a very young age that when we grow up your supposed to got married when your in love, and when we grow up those things stick with us, so if we are not married by adult hood we are some how inadequate, and our lives are incomplete, and immoral, but I think that theres nothing nessaserally wrong with not being married, as long as your monogamous and committed to the person your in a relationship with, but even I sometimes have to think twice about my views because I was raised by strict parents that believe in traditional values, and they grew up in the 50ty's where most woman would never consider being with a guy unless they were married, but I feel like times have changed and a woman should be able to do whats right for them, and not be made to feel like shes done something wrong or immoral, because things dont always happen the way we expect or hope, but we can still find happiness and contentment.

This is one of those questions where one would never know the answer.. Let me tell you from my perspective : When i was a kid in school, i never wanted to get married. I just hated men and i thought that they were all a**holes. They never seemed to treat women well and i just didnt want to spend my life with anyone of them!! When i grew up and went to college, i saw that there were lot of on-campus romances going on. I used to look at them and wonder why they wanted so much to be with each other and whether they would eventually end up with each other.. Now i have met my boyfriend and i have fallen hopelessly in love with him.. i just want to spend my entire life with him and now i understand why i want marriage.. i want to announce to the world that he is mine and i am his.. A marriage has a stability and respect that no other relationship (i mean BF-GF, or open relationship or live-in relationship) can give.. And i want us to be married...

Ok how about a profound statement:.. ready hate to say this because love god and all this BUT: in the bible got took a rib out of adam and said this is what man needed and BAM women was there.. A women can live without a man trust me on this but a man need's to be complete that's right when got a rib from adam a man being looking how to fullfill his heart and mind and who is.. A woman can live along a man would die without a women touch..BECAUSE WERE NOT COMPLETE PERSON.. sorry but that's how I fell thank you....

Personally I don't think single moms are "not norm". I think women want to get married because they don't want to get lonely in life. Maybe they just want someone to love them and still remain like that when age catches up. Maybe to have a shoulder to cry on and stuff like that... I don't want to be emotional and all but that's what I think.

I object to your questions like "why women want marriage?" I am a woman and still single. I am not agree on this because i myself never wanted to get married. I am afraid because many couples now were turn into break up relationship and I do not want that my marriage will go over like this. Today's generation is so different compared before because I've noticed that gentlemen now are not in serious when they will go into relationship.

Although we are in a modern society right now, it is still better to get married first before having a baby because in our country,when the child is born he/she carries the surname of the mother, unless soon he is adopted by his father or until her/his parents get married after the pregnancy. And I think it will have a psychological effect on the child when he/she starts schooling classmates would wonder why they have the surname with his/her mother.

I have to agree with you that young women want what society expects of them. I have been married and divorced twice and don't plan to marry again. I would like to find a man who would be a companion to me, and thought that I had, but I am not so sure on some days!! lol I have a son who has been with his girlfriend for 8 years, I think, and isn't married and they have 2 children, and lost a third to SIDS in 2002. I have a daughter who also is not married with 3 daughters. She was once married for a year, but NOT to the girls' father. I have 2 other daughters who are both married. One of them just got married a year ago and has 3 sons. I don't think they felt they had to, it was something they wanted to do. My other wanted to be married before she had children. So each has to pick and choose what they want to do for themselves, and for what makes them happy. I think, for the most part, it really doesn't matter anymore in our society.

Simply because most women wants security a marraige can offer. They wanted belongingness and a build a family they can call their own. I guess not only women want marraige but men as well, however, in general it's mostly the women that pushes marraige.

I never wanted to get married. I fought with my husband, saying that there is no point in getting married.And started to tell him the pro's and contra's. But he wanted to be sure I'm his, and wanted it to be sealed on paper. So, we did it, after 3 years of him explaining me why he wants us married and convincing me that this is going to be fine, that we're going to have a good life, that he's going to take care of me. I did agree, not with full heart, though. Only after our kids were born, I saw the real need to be married.To give the kids a social status.That's it.

i think maybe woman want to settle down and have a comfortable home when they are aging. this is native motherhood .

HI MY FREIND LOTTER i being a women can tell that,women want ant marriage coz this society either in our country India or any other countries,is still male dominating and it will remain like this .I know that todays women is achieving great heights in every field ,but still we women are physically weak than men and this difference cant be denied,and so we need some protection to live life safely ,then it may be the protection of ,father ,brother ,husband or son.And as we all know that after a certain time prd father and brother cant give us that protection so the best option is the husband .This is my opinion and u may not agree by this ,as every one has its own opinion.