Why is it that most men don't change their name?

I don't know of a man who has changed his name for his wife.But I do know many husbands of being called names by their wives.

Haha...I never heard about a person who changed his last name after marraige.I see many girls adding their father names to their names and after marrainge changing it to to their husbands.I also changed my name to my hubby's.I think women like to do that and love it.

I think why most men don't change their name is that it is trdaitional and it will also have legal effects if the husband changes to his wife's surname.

i dont know also why is it that when a woman get married we have to changed our surname ,, LOL

I also don't know why woman need to follow their husbands surname. I even don't know when that started or if there is any law that mandates such changing of surname to your husbands once you are married. I wonder why is there a need to do that when divorce and annulment are allowed? The only reason I could think is that maybe because it is part of tradition and the woman needs to be united to the man all her life. The man is the one who handles the family and he is usually more powerful and more recognized than the woman. The woman's main role is to take care of the children. Also another reason is that the kids need to have one surname as well because their mother's surname will be their initial. The woman having accepted the man as her lawful husband must be bound to also accept the fact of changing her last name into her husband's as a testify that she is willing to be part of his life. Anyway whatever the reason is I think one benefit to women is that in case they don't like their last names it can still be changed by getting married unlike in men, their last name is their lifetime name. In Philippines there are a lot of not so good to hear last names of men hehehe!

in my contry,women donot need to change their names after marriage.most of time,their children after husband's name,but on some accasion,children can afer women'name. i think change the name is the traditon,and i believe in some place men'name should be changed for his wife's name.

Another terrific question, Deejean! I continue to use my maiden name for all things financial. Which means that I continue to use my maiden name in most instances. The choice wasn't political, rather my financial and business identity was well established by the time my husband and I got married. It wasn't worth the potential glitches to change it. This is a topic that female, business-owning friends and I have discussed frequently. The hyphenation has much to do with blending the realities of financial/business identity with the tradition of taking the husband's last name. To the best of my knowledge, the tradition began as a necessity given the fact that women had no legal rights prior to suffrage. In other words, the woman was the property of her husband, and the surname reflected that. Do I know any men who've taken the wife's surname? No, I don't. However, I do know one husband who gets really ticked off when he is called Mr. (my last name). As an aside, the surname-property rights issue is best demonstrated in Irish history. The prefix of "O" is typically considered to indicate a geneological lineage to a particular Irish clan. Though, much older than that is the ugly nobility-serfdom reality. The O'Brien's were clan and under the patronal protection of the property owner Brien. The O'Connors were clan and under the patronal protection of the property owner Connor. The O'Reilly's were clan and under the patronal protection of the property owner Reilly. For many other cultures the serfs simply bore the mark of their noble, with that 'mark' being the surname. Gee, I'm so glad that I live in the 21st century!

I will have to look up your original discussion. I'm very glad I found this one. A lot of men don't change their names, because they want to be the head of the family, whether they want to admit it or not. Also, the changing of the name has been a FEMININE thing for so long, that a lot of men fear being thought of as un-manly if they take their wives names. However, there are a few out there who don't care about the tradition, and my husband is one of them. He offered to take MY name, but I asked him to please keep his, because for as long as we had the same last name, people would think we were Mrs. & Mrs HIM (His first his last as per Mr. & Mrs. John Smith), and it would be the same old crap. By us keeping our own names, people would KNOW that I didn't take his name. I thanked him very much for his intentions though, and told him how much I love and appreciate him for doing that.

deejean06, In a patriarchal marriage, it is normal for the women to be adopting their paternal family name and lineage. However, it is never mandatory for them to change their family names to that of their husbands' family. As it is just being practical and less cumbersome on identity documents i.e. birth certificates, identity cards and passports. However, matriarchal marriages still exist in this world and it is especially evident in single child Asian families, and some Asian traditional societies where the lineage at the maternal end must continue. So, it is really not surprising especially in countries like China and even Japan. Ref: http://www.second-congress-matriarchal-studies.com/gatusa.html http://www.chinatravel.net/forum/Lugu-Lake-The-Last-Matriarchal-Society/1579.html

I think it is just traditional for women to change their names to their husbands. I guess that is almost alwyas the way that it is done. I think there are people who do hypenate both names but I have never heard of a man taking a woman's name. That would seem to be alittle non traditional and not particuarly masculine.

In the United States, it's been the cultural tradition for the woman to take the man's name, which is why that was the norm until sometime in the 1970's I believe it was, when some folks started to combine both names by hyphenating them. I don't personally know any couple where the husband took the wife's name but I'm sure there are cases.

My ex husband changed his name with his new wife. He didnt really want to but eventually decieded it was best. We were still legally married when they their son was born, we had been apart for about a year when he was born, and since we were legally married his girlfriend at the time (now wife) wouldnt put his name on the babys birth certificate just in case I wanted to cause issues (which I didnt) but his divorce lawyer said to avoid any issues to use her name. So when they got married instead of her changing her name and then the babys name he just took hers. Now however I have 3 kids that have a name their mother nor father has....

men are mostly the head of the house and also the breadwinners. their desicion are really important. the family status and recoznition depends mostly on how the father/husband does.a suposse you met your school friend they would ask you " what does your father does". i firmly believe that wife should be submissive to their husbands and this will lead to a happy married life. i am not supporting mens over here, but here to remind them that man do hold a great resposiblity jobs.

why? I do not think.

I did take my husbands last name. I guess I took just because of the tradition. I do however have a friend that her husband took her name because he did not like his last name. My daughter says even when she gets married she is keeping her last name.

Why? I do not think ,I think men can changed his name