sorry kids there's no money

I, fortunatly, am not there... and I'm so sorry to hear about your situation and everyone's situation for that matter... I know things are rough. This response is honestly of no use to you b/c I don't know where to start. My daughter is only 2 so I wouldn't have to say anything to her for the most part. All I can say is I wish you the best in luck, may you make the best of your situation and find what you need soon! You and your families will be in my prayers!

I have actually been there it is rough especially with younger kids because they dont fully understand when they asked for something we had to tell them that we dont have the money right now but when daddy gets a new job and we get back where we are supposed to be then we will talk about getting it we never made it out to be the end of the world either

I think it's best that we don't stress our kids out over our 'adult' problems. They can't do anything about it and they don't know how to handle that kind of stress because their maturity levels aren't there yet. if they start stressing about something above their maturity level, they will act out. A job lay off shouldn't be their worry. We're suppose to protect them and make sure they're taken care of, and that includes protecting their sanity, so to speak. We don't want our young ones to start going into a depression or come up with ways to make money(which can end up even more stressful). You can keep teaching how money works. If they ask for something, don't say you're struggling to make ends meet, just simply say you can't get that. You need to get things they need not want. make sure you follow suit in your own life. Don't come home with a new purse...lol. If they get upset because they can't have what they want, just let them know that when they grow up and have a job and, then they can get it if they still want it. lol. i'm joking but it does work. That's the story I always heard growing up. Try to discuss the necessity of the item they're asking for. figure out why they want it...at that age it's usually because so-and-so has it. It's good to teach them how to spend wisely and such. But it's more important to teach them all the things they can do without money and that material items are just things. Teach them to be creative and make do with what they have. When they ask for something, let them know you can't get that for them and offer an alternative if applicable. Just keep in mind that our problems shouldn't be their problems. they need to know that money doesn't buy happiness. i've said it in another similar post, but i totally blame the media for brainwashing so many people into thinking the more they have the happier they'll be. it's been a lie for so many years---the rich are happier and better than the poor. it's simply not true.

just have to tell them, there isn't no more work, and that mean no more money to get them things they want, yeah i found this to be hard with my kids when i first lost my job

Reading your story ,I just thought of my family.My mom is a woman that who donot want us to know her trouble.But sometimes,we need a lot of money to satisfy our interests.At this occasion ,my mom would tell me that she has a lot of difficulties .I can understand her trouble then ,but I really feel upset.I can understand you just like my mum,but do not worry about this .If you do not let your child know ,he would never have the sence of saving and struggling for himself.

I will tell it to my children,though i will feel a little sad about that.Children will grow up one day and they have to learn how to live a life in the future.Keeping the truth from them won't be benefit to them. I will teach my children ability and opportunity are both important to all of us,so we must try our best to do everything well.Don't let the chance slip from your fingertip! I will encourage my children to pass the difficult time with us.Tomorrow must be sunshine:)

we have had to deal with that over the years with my hubby and what we have done is told the girls that daddy has been layed off (or whatever) and he will be home a bit more but every thing will be ok. we just need to be careful with our money (which we usually are anyways).

i think it`s very hard for kids under 10-11..

My fiance is actually laid off right now, but our daughter is only 15 months old so she doesn't understand it. I know a lot of familys in this predictament right now though. A very large company in my area shut down today, and they aren't sure if they will be reopening. For now they are on lay off mode. Many familys are having to cut back. I would simply let the children know that our money is going to have to go to bills, and important things that we need to live. And that money will be spent on things we need, and not things that we want. I would then explain to the child the difference between what a need is and what a want is. I think that doing it that way is he easiest way.

i grew up poor so i guess i have always known there was no money.. i dont have kids but i think you just have to start young and try to explain it every chance you get i guess..

Making examples is the best way to explain to kids the value of money. I don't have a kid myself but I think like one (a lot of times, okay! most of the time LOL) This is how I will put it for the even younger kids: A kid will ask for food, eg. ice cream. I will take out some coins to buy him an ice cream from the ice cream truck. "Do you know where my money came from?" I'll ask. "Where?" he'd reply. "From work." I'll continue. Then I'll ask "Do you know what happens if daddy doesn't have work?" "What?" he'll ask. "Daddy won't have any money." Then I will follow up, "do you know what happens when there is no money?" "What?" he'll ask again. "There will be no more ice cream." I will then let him realize for himself how the analogy works and will hope that he'd understand. he he he! That's just how I would do it. Cheers!

We teach them by teaching them money is not what we live this life for. I find that when parents are worried, children are worried. When parents are in control and provide for their children on a regular basis children do not know if there is not as much money as mom and dad would want. I really think it's based upon the values you raise your children with, and how you yourself handle the situation. Even on one salary or such parents can find a way to make life worthwhile and fun to live. My own grandfather lived through the depression and he grew up very happy and content. His own children grew up with that message, as did I. You live within your means, you change your focus from "money" to "living" and you do so with "Simple Abundance". I have taught a class for years now on using the principles of Simple Abundance and one of the most difficult things for students to do is to change how they view life. We've been conditioned in the modern day era to want want want. When we change this focus we open up the way to contentment regardless of our monetary station in life. I also have used Tolle's work in my classes and it's great for working through the ego. It is the ego that flares up in this situation and says "Oh my gosh, what are we going to do, we're doomed, we're going to starve, etc etc etc". When we stop this we can be as Tolle teaches "the space for this" and we live through it. If you find that you have to cut back on certain things that were once a regular, perhaps it's toys, a particular brand name, I'd simply tell the children this is how things are right now. Remember, you are the parent and what you say in your house goes. Of course, I'm a suscriber to simply teaching children to enjoy whatever they have, when they have it, and their life as it is. My own children are very young from this marriage and I can't say I've had to tell them anything as of yet. They know they will be fed daily, have warm clothing, and get something extra now and then. Namaste-Anora

I tell my children everything but on their level. I keep explanations short and I only tell them what they need to know when they ask. I would let our six year old know that daddy is looking for another job and until he finds one we can't spend extra money.

My Dad Did It In A Way That When I Asked If We Were Going On Holiday This Summer [We Usually Go To Lebanon Every Year, Unless Theres War), He Simply Said We Cant Afford It. Then Mum Said, Dad Company Is Letting Go Of People So He's Nearly Finished His Job Contract, And Is Going To Have To Find A New Place To Work. We Lost 80 Grand Beforehand And Thats Why It's A Problem. But Back On Topic; Depending On How Old Your Child Is You Tell Them In Different Ways, Like You Said The Older Children Would Understand. But I Remember An Age Where Everything My Parents Told Me I Would Tell My Class In Primary School ;S So Maybe If Things Are Going To Get Better, You Dont Have To Tell Them, Because If Theyre Not Really Old Enough To Understand Then They Dont Need To Know. But Then You Have The Problem Of Them Asking For Stuff I Guess. Sorry I Wasn't All That Helpful :/ o.o This Turned Out To Be Long.

ya it will spoil there future