I am so sick and tired of people insulting me in my life!
By cream97
@cream97 (29086)
United States
March 21, 2009 8:55am CST
I understand that as long as I am living people will like me and not like me. I also undertand that people are going to say good things about me and then they are going to say bad things about me. I don't even have to be doing anything to them for them to say whatever they want about me either. I know that. I have been thinking about my life since I have been living. I am now 30 years old. And, I have had so many people insulting me. And I feel as if these people were very wrong for insulting me. I have never done anything to them to make them say something so mean to me. I have been insulted by these type of people: My dentist, an receptionist, an volunteerer at The United Ministries, an kindergarten teacher, an admissions counselor at Early Head Start School, my rental manager, my mother-in-law, my sister-in-law, my manager at a job that I used to work at, and many of so called friends and relatives. I have even had strangers insult me. People that I don't even talk to like that.
I am tired of being mistreated there is no excuse for someone to do me so wrong. I am a very nice person. I am compassionate. I live everyday of my life, trying my best to treat others the same that I would want to be treated.
I am wondering why do people stay insulting me. I have seen many people that need someone to talk down to them more than I need someone talking down to me. These people say things to me like I am their child. They will say what they want to me and they don't care if it hurts my feeling or not. And trust me, they know that they are hurting my feelings!
I am a great person, I have my faults, we all do. But, I try to be kind to others even if they are being mean to me. And I am tired of it. I want people to stop telling me what I need to do. If they are not in my shoes and walk my life with me, then they have no right to put their unwanted two cents in! I know many men and women that are unfit and immature. They will do drugs and smoke, party and do all of the bad things that you can think of.. And here I have people knocking me down as if I am such a bad person. I always wonder why people stay insulting me so much. My husband told me that the reason that I am experiencing this is because God is trying to make me learn something. He says that God will keep putting people and issues in my face until I learn to stop letting it bother me.
Has anyone ever told you this about yourself? Do you think that what my husband is saying is true? Why do you think that people keep on insulting me? I know that you all have never personally met me. But, believe me, I am telling you the truth about how I really am. Please share your comments. Thanks!
I am tired of being mistreated there is no excuse for someone to do me so wrong. I am a very nice person. I am compassionate. I live everyday of my life, trying my best to treat others the same that I would want to be treated.
I am wondering why do people stay insulting me. I have seen many people that need someone to talk down to them more than I need someone talking down to me. These people say things to me like I am their child. They will say what they want to me and they don't care if it hurts my feeling or not. And trust me, they know that they are hurting my feelings! I am a great person, I have my faults, we all do. But, I try to be kind to others even if they are being mean to me. And I am tired of it. I want people to stop telling me what I need to do. If they are not in my shoes and walk my life with me, then they have no right to put their unwanted two cents in! I know many men and women that are unfit and immature. They will do drugs and smoke, party and do all of the bad things that you can think of.. And here I have people knocking me down as if I am such a bad person. I always wonder why people stay insulting me so much. My husband told me that the reason that I am experiencing this is because God is trying to make me learn something. He says that God will keep putting people and issues in my face until I learn to stop letting it bother me. Has anyone ever told you this about yourself? Do you think that what my husband is saying is true? Why do you think that people keep on insulting me? I know that you all have never personally met me. But, believe me, I am telling you the truth about how I really am. Please share your comments. Thanks!7 people like this
24 responses
@alexandra777 (643)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
In my opinion, your husband is right. I heard a similar line from my own hubby. He said i keep going through the same irritating situations because God is teaching me how to stay calm, to think before i speak and react to certain matters. We are blessed we both have husbands who lead us towards God.
Cheer up cream97! We can not please everybody. Just pray and ask for God's loving presence to help you deal with those situations. Let us ask God to help us forgive those who have done us wrong. And pray that the people who insult you will also come to know what a loving God we have!
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
21 Mar 09
Well cream if the way you behave in MYLOT is a implication of how you are in real life then persons will continue to insult you. I have always contributed to your discussions but you never reply back to my answers. You skip and dance around it. Yes God does put things in our ways in order to grow us spiritually and mentally and there are times when we don't learn from these lessons.
Take for instance the story of Job he was spiritually test but with his mentally growth he overcome. Are you willing to overcome and if there are ways for you to change are you willing to change that ways too. Too many times we see ourselves has being perfect and yes we will acknowledged that we have faults but are we willing to mend those faults we allowed it to grow on us and because it has become one in our life we see it as nothing but persons around us see it as a burden and the only way to show us is by throwing it back to us in the form of insults.
To me insults can be good and it can be bad it depends on how one looks at it. I remember in the office of one of my client I was talking to a young lady and her response to me was that I chat too much. I was really hurt but in between I have seen things happen and I have learnt from it. The other day she said something to me and I was not in the mood and I raised my hand to her and told her that I am not going where she is taking me. Everyone in the office was upset about it even my client. She told me that it was not it was not a caring attitude but when I told her couple of weeks ago about the incident with this girl she was all in agreement with her (i.e about my chatting too much).
What I have learn with this two scenario is that you have to be strong and stand up for yourself. So my dear my advice to you is to be strong and if there is indeed a fault that need to be change then change it. My fault is that I love to talk and with this I am doing my best to minimize it at the office.
Yes indeed God put us in situation but he always has way out for us. 1Cor 10v13
Kerry
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
22 Mar 09
my dad used to always say that if you draw the insult from so many,you must be doing something right that they're jealous of,to get that much attention.
screw them.do what makes you happy.
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
23 Mar 09
Hey,
Even though there are many people who are insulting you, make sure that you always take this quote into mind "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will NEVER hurt me". Just try hard to remember that, and just take it easy. It doesn't matter what people say, if through out your life you have been insulted. Everyone has their faults as you said. Don't worry if people insult you, it doesn't matter. lol just put it behind you, don't take into account what people say. If they insult you, it may just be because they are jealous of you or what you can do, they might want to just put you down for the sake of it. Take into account what I have written, don't listen to them, live your life as God has instructed. Take care!
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@myskysky (38)
• China
22 Mar 09
I'm sorry to hear about your suffering experiences.Yeah,pardon my offensive words,it's true that you must have something wrong.Maybe the reason is that you're too friendly or folksy.And may be you care too much about others' words which don't point against you.I know you're depressed and don't know what to do.Take others' words easy and live for yourself.When you feel sorry do things you like and talk to your friend or your husband about your feeling.Be in your shoes and walk your life.The sun will rise no matter it's rainy or sunny,the beautiful days will come sooner or later.I'll pray for you!
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Do you believe in Law of Attraction?
I think you are expecting people to hurt you. Another word, you are not expecting people to be nice to you.
Stay straight, keep your head up and say:
I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me!
Expect the best and you will have it.
When walking keep your head up, don't check the ground.
Smile to yourself, you are the best friend for your body, love yourself.
Smile to insight...you don't deserve to be insult by anyone, just believe in yourself...
HUGS
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@shubhosarker (99)
• Bangladesh
22 Mar 09
Hi cream 97 how are you? I read your problem ANd felt that you are frustated.Look cream this is a big world,lots of people,lots of mind and they are different from each other.The big fact is you are alone in this world but shearing some enjoyable moments with others. nothing else.When you are sorrow you find noboddy to share your sorrowness.Am i right? So try to stop making all your friends happy. you know you cant do this because many people many minds.how long you can make them happy?Am i right or wrong?Try to be happy yourself.Do what ever you want to do.Nothing wrong with that.This is the rule.And this is how the world is working.If some one insult you and you know that they are wrong inform them abuse them let them know that they are wrong.dont find your fault all the time.Because you dont sign any contract to make people happy.Do you?So be happy ok.whatever happen you are the perfect man in this world.Be confident.Ok bye and let me know what do you think about my opinion.Bye............
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
22 Mar 09
Hi, I do feel sorry about the way you have been treated by others. However i partly agree with your husband in that Issues keep coming up and bothering us until we stop letting them bother us. Please do not give any importance to what people say and if you feel that you are being taken advantage of and being insulted by the others, you must tell them off firmly and show that you are not going to take things lying down - all the best to you
@Niah1976 (739)
• Paranaque, Philippines
21 Mar 09
Hi friend!
I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe we really can't please everybody. No matter what you do, there will always be criticisms. What is important is that you are willing to correct whatever it is in your life that's needs to be corrected. Just don't mind those people who are insulting you. Just go on with your life and do good. Just pray for the enlightenment of their minds. Just leave it all to God and believe me dear, God will surely take care of everything in your life. Continue to live life happily. Don't waste your time thinking about the things they are saying about you.
So cheer up!! God bless u friend
@HelloMickey (1655)
• Hong Kong
22 Mar 09
Hello cream97
Don't be sad. Many people face this problem too. If you are sure you are right and you don't hurt others, you don't need to bother yourself. You life should be filled with beautiful memories.
Though I don't believe in God, but your husband is RIGHT. You God is trying to make you learn from it. You should always feel happy that you have such a considerate husband, these happinese should cover all those bad feelings from others.
People treat you like that just showing you, we are all human, and we are not perfect. So we treated people wrongly, we said wrong words. We might not mean to hurt others, but we are not perfect and we are not clever enough to discover we have already hurt others. So forgiveness is very important, if you can't forgive, then you must learn how to forget. Forget those who really hurts your feelings, their words/act are really nothing. At least, they don't give good memories to your life. So forget them! ^.^ Be happy.
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@bbtort (47)
• Singapore
22 Mar 09
I am very sorry to hear that there are so many mean people in your life. Trust me. This will never end. Some people are just mean by nature. So let them be. What is more important is you know who you are. A nice, compassionate, friendly and good person.
I totally agree with what your husband says. The reason why this keeps happening to you may be due to the fact you are mindful of what people say. Allow me to share how I overcame this problem. I learned this at a very yound age. I told myself, these people are nobody to me. Therefore, their opinions are of no value or meaning to me. One ear in and out the other ear. People are entitled to say what they wish. So I have no right to stop them from saying mean things. I take it all as rubbish. I only pay attention to people who are important to me (such my hubby, good friends and family). What they say matters. As these are the people who truly care for me. Even if what they have to say are hurtful. At least it comes from the bottom of their heart and they mean well.
God will keep testing you in this aspect till you overcome your weakness. So I wish you all the best. Put your mind to it and you can. Cheers!
@kimberlynnF (170)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I'm sorry you are going through all this... but I have to wonder what it is all about. Sounds like you have a lot of people down on you if your list is correct. If it were just one or two people I might think it is them... but if so many have a problem with you I think I would just come out and ask what their problem is with me. Maybe you just think people are down on you.
I mean, are people calling you fat and lazy? Are they calling you a bad mom (if you are a mom)? You don't tell us much. It just seems out of the ordinary for a whole list of people to be down on one person, like you are public enemy number 1.
If people are truly mean to you, then just put them in their place. Give them something to chew on... like your fist...no.. not really... just confront them and make them explain themselves to you.. like "what have I done for you to insult me?".. or "that sounds like an insult." something like that. Maybe the people don't mean a thing by what they say and you are being overly sensitive. You sound like a nice person to me... so it would be hard for me to think people are out to get you.
If people are truly being mean to you... ignore them.. or tell them you don't appreciate it. Maybe God wants you to stop being a door mat for people to step on. That might be the lesson you are to learn.
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@momoftwo (94)
• United States
21 Mar 09
Since you are asking for our two cents here. Here's mine.....
Something good comes out of everything. It can be very hard to see it or even understand it a lot of times but it is there. Sometimes without even realizing it we look for the negative instead of the positive. For example: someone may say "that beautiful flower needs a bigger pot", do you think they are complimenting you on the beautiful flower you have or do you think they are implying you don't know what you are doing because it is now time for a bigger pot?
God is there to answer our prayers so be careful watch you pray for. A lady once told me to stop praying for patience because the only way to gain more pratience is by having more trying situations given to you.
In the end it's none of our business what others think or say about us. It only matters what you think of yourself. So keep being the nice, compassionate person you are keep respecting others.
best wishes
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
21 Mar 09
It happens to me also sometimes. I think one of the thing that taught me is to be calm and quiet. Earlier I was very short tempered and used to get frustrated easily. With repeated experiences I started to know about patience and now a days I am very patient and I am able to tolerate these things. I also think that God keeps on putting these people and issues to make us be patient and to be calm. I think silence is one of the best weapon. Avoidance is another strong weapon that can shake any strong person.
@moondancer (7431)
• United States
23 Mar 09
cream, I'm so sorry to hear that people are treating you this way. This is really an unexpected thing as I never thought you were being treated so badly. It's a shame that people don't tend to their own business and their own worries than to be intruding into the life of another.
Many people have no right to throw stones. They need to take care of their problems and let others take care of theirs.
I don't know if that's what is going on cream. No one really knows what God wants but him. I suggest that you tell others to take care of their own lives and to leave you be. They have no right! Like you said unless they have been right there with you for a month or more( this is from me...a month or so) because they have no idea what you must be dealing with unless they have been there for at least a month to really know what you are dealing with. They have no right to speak up about it or you.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I agree with your boyfriend to a point, not that God is trying to teach you something but to be a little tougher with the damned mean comments people are making to you. Be out with it! Tell them how the comment hurts your feelings! If that doesn't shut them up then ask them outright, are you in my shoes? Do you know all about my life? NO you don't so I suggest for you to keep your opinions to yourself. In other words, stop being a push over! Give it back just as good as they give to you and I betcha the comments will stop!
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
21 Mar 09
Hi cream97,
This has got nothing to do with God, people have problems being nice to you and that is their problem, coulbe be that they are just juealous of you and you have to stand up to them, bullies will always bully you untill you stand up to the bullies and thy will stop, I would not let anyone talk to me like that and if my dentist talk to me like that too I would put a complaint and not go back gto him. Nasty people will always be nasty, its not your fault but just stay away from them.Hugs.
Tamara
@suzzy3 (8341)
•
21 Mar 09
Stop being so kind to everyone,the trouble is if people see you being kind and affable they take it as a sign you are weak and a bit simple therefore they can say what they like.Some one I used to know had the same problem because she told people to much of her personal business and in the end everybody was putting in their two penneth worth.Stay being a nice person but let the others get on with their life and harden up a bit,you don't have to be the mother theresa of the road,Stop taking any notice of the bad things that come your way,with draw from people a bit.We all suffer from other peoples opinion at work and in life,I have a policy if someone insults me I stop talking to them or ask them what they mean by what they have said.put the boot on the other foot,you have not mentioned what you mean by insult.Stop trying so hard those who like you will not insult you.People only insult you if you let them.Go different places and meet new friends.with a new way of living harden up.xxx
