How to console a mother who has lost her 25-year-old son?
By sharay
@sharay (2769)
India
March 21, 2009 2:49pm CST
It has been nearly a month since i shifted to this new place, where there is a lady staying downstairs who just lost her 25-year-old two months back, he died of testicular cancer, she is an extrovert and speaks a lot out of which half would be about her lost son, she loved him so much, she said, "he was more closer to me than my husband", this sentence made me understand the wonderful love they shared, i could not tolerate see her crying inbetween talks like that, i am much younger to her (i have one daughter, she asked me to defntly have one more child), she has one more son who is 28 years old, but not he is not as close to his mother like the younger one was, so she somtimes feels alone and depressed without the younger son, she was asking me like, "why did this happen to me, he was such a wonderful sweet person, the whole area around here knows about him and loves him", i am just out of words, i just ask her not to cry and to come out of it, she still has one more son...but nothing could console her, this has become an everday issue now, how am i to console her, say what so that she could gain the confidence and faith and interest in life back, she says she no more believes in God
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@wanglu1919 (119)
• China
22 Mar 09
I'm so sorry to hear that and bless to the mother@_@
My friend, you are so kind-hearted,best wishes to you@_@
Half a year ago,I met with the same situation as you. One of my mother's friend has a handsome son who is also 25 years old. Her son is a student aboard in Australia,and she was told by the embassy that her son is disappeared! What a shock to everyone! He is so fine and we can't find him now.Nobody knows where he is and whether he is alive or not.The only thing I can do is console her.The one is her only son and she doesn't have daughters.What a pity!
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@hollysun (97)
• China
22 Mar 09
Hi sharay,i'm so sorry to hear that.But i don't know how to console her except praying for her,losing loved ones is really a sad thing,i think there are not good medicine for her pain,except time.Maybe some time later,she will recover from the grief.Wish her quick recovery and live a happy live again.
@sharay (2769)
• India
22 Mar 09
Today, in church, my prayers were especially for her to recover her as early as possible and the message was also about God being the potter and we being the clay and that he knows what to do with them, we are just rqd to keep the moisture intact in us for him to mold us
@MAHESH2008 (844)
• India
22 Mar 09
I think it is just impossible for any body to console her. It is only the time which can change her feelings and this definatley takes some time. It is always happen that peoples in such situations ask god why he was so cruel why he has done all these to him. instead of son her life can be taken these ar few words keep stroming in her mind but will become normal after some time may take few months . I dont think others can do anything in it.
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@zachary2191 (15)
• China
22 Mar 09
hi,sharay,i think to be a good listener is enough for her, she just wanna relieve her sorrow.u feel upset during ur dialogue, because u r a very warmhearted people.Sincerely wish she could gain the confidence soon and resume a normal life.
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