I was wrong
By TLChimes
@TLChimes (4822)
United States
March 23, 2009 8:20pm CST
Well, no I wasn't but that's a whole other discussion.
So what about you? Do you admit when you are wrong? How about the other guy? Does he admit to misjudging you? Does he admit that he was wrong? Do you meet in the middle?
Is it easier to let it go when they own up to being wrong, or when you honestly take the blame when you mess up?
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11 responses
@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
24 Mar 09
It was my fault
I would always be the first to admit when I am in the wrong, I think anyone that can put their hands up and admit they are wrong, show a strong sense of character.
I would always try to resolve any difference with someone by talking to them, Although I do come across a lot of people who would never admit to making a mistake and maybe that is the biggest mistake someone can make.
I just can't sometimes understand the people that will argee a point when they know they are worng. Maybe it is a sense of pride or something ?
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Some folks think they are right and will go on and on and on and on until either you throw up your hands in desperation and say ok! or until you accidentally seat them blind folded in the middle of rail road tracks. Oh wait we can't do that last bit.
I don't even think they realize when people stop caring or listening to how right they are.
I know one who argues everything I say... even when I agreed with them to start.
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@mummymo (23706)
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25 Mar 09
I am NEVER wrong so why would I admit it?????lol
Actually I am usually really honest - too much so for my own good and am usually the first one to stick my hand in the air and admit my mistakes - unless it is with the other half and then once more I am never wrong! lol xxx
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
25 Mar 09
i do take the blame IF its my fault.. but i refuse to apologize for something thats not or that people think is.. so many people just want to blame some one else or twist things to where they think its some one elses fault when its just them avoiding it or taking offense because some one dared to point out when they screwed up..
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Yeah I know a few of those who like to twist things a bit.
And I don't think we should have to take the fall for some one else's malfunction. I am learning to just let those who won't see the light... go on sitting in the dark... with out me of course.
Good friends have taught me that.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
26 Mar 09
to be big enough to admit you're wrong is good. i am one of the person who will admit that i am wrong and will say sorry.
depend who the other person is they often wont admit they are wrong, but push the blame off on someone else. i have no problme meeting someone half way or in the middle.
but i will not take the blame for someone else. i am often misjudge by people. and if they cant take the time to really get to know me, oh well it's thier lost not my. i could careless what anyone think about me, it's my close knit family and friends that matter
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@cndn420 (2062)
• Canada
25 Mar 09
i always admit when im wrong, it definitely takes a lot for someone to admit they were wrong and own up to that mistake and people appreciate that and it really says something about the person.
my boyfriend also admits when he is wrong and it makes our relationship easier in the sense that there's no small things that drag on and on when they could have been resolved so long ago
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@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
24 Mar 09
IF (and that is a big IF) I am wrong I will be the first to admit it
I am not perfect and sometimes (not often) I am not right about something
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I try hard to know when I'm wrong but I've noticed I'm a bit strong willed when it comes to things or people I care about.
And if I don't think I'm wrong I'm not going to say I am just to please another. But it's amazing how many people think you should just say "I was wrong" even if they aren't... just to keep the peace.
@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
24 Mar 09
if I am not wrong I will not say that I am just to please someone
that doesnt accomplish anything
I have a few times had to walk away from a person/situation and let them learn from their own mistakes
you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink LOL
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I find it much easier to let it go when they own up to being wrong. I admit to feeling rather self righteous when I take the blame and that is not very nice of me.
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
24 Mar 09
oooo are you human? Fore-shame! I'm kidding... there is a school of thought that says that a bit of congratulating our selves when we do right (like taking the blame) is a form of teaching ourselves to do the right things. It's not like we get to pick out a sucker from the candy dish so instead we get a mental pat on the back. Some people think that isn't healthy but I think it's part of who we are and if we don't take it too far then we are OK.
Thank you for an honest answer.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
24 Mar 09
If I really am wrong and I realise then I apologise and I do so in a way that the other person is sure that I am really sorry.
I have had it happen then that the other person just huffs off never to be seen of or heard of again and others that have become resl friends just because they never thought anyone would ever apologise.
I have also had a time when I apologised but the other person insisted that it was them that was wrong and that it was not my mistake but theirs.
It takes all sorts to make a world and if things sort themselves out all well and good - if they don't, well maybe it was for the best in the first place.
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Yes, I most definately admit if I am wrong. I also admit when I've misread something or misunderstood something (if I'm speaking with another). Even as a teacher I've admitted when I'm wrong, especially when using Think Alouds in the classroom.
If I am reading something and do not understand I ask for clarification first before I make an assumption. I feel it is fair for the other person and I would expect this in return.
However, when I am right and know that I am right, I do not simply give in with false information, or just so the other person can feel better. That's never been my goal as a teacher. It's not fair and it's a terrible disservice. I do try to find new ways of explaining, and sometimes that may involve literally showing by example, but I do continue to try and show the truth.
I do believe strongly that when someone cannot be corrected or resents it that it is their ego speaking, not their true self. The ego has a lovely way of creating a false sense of reality in that it will tell you that you've been slighted, humiliated, or whatever else it makes up instead of accepting that perhaps it is ok to hear the truth of a given matter. The ego does not like to be wrong, that's the plain and simple truth of it. Thus, I try not to be too hard on those who are continually resentful if I present or show where they wrong on something.
I think all and all we simply have to do such with as much compassion and love as we can. With some human interactions we can meet at compromise, but in others we must be willing to know what is right and what is wrong. For example, we can meet in the middle about how we tie our shoes. However, we cannot compromise on the posted speed limit.
I find that I don't really keep track of those who have been wrong or not. I take each episode as it occurs and let it go after the moment is over. I am beginning to understand that the more we live in the present moment, the less we keep up with who did what to us five minutes ago because it doesn't matter.
Namaste-Anora
@mummymo (23706)
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25 Mar 09
I do think Anora that this response although in some places fantastic is also quite arrogant in some ways - I do hope that you do not take that personally or resent it but to assume that you know what is right and others don't and you must keep finding new ways of showing them that they are wrong whilst it is their ego that makes them resent this??? Isn't that hypocritical? If they believe they are right and do the same then surely that creates a vicious circle which will never end? Perhaps it is better to agree to disagree and not keep pounding away at someone who does not agree with you and does not want you to keep trying to show them your truth?
There are people who are probably far more educated and cerebral than either of us who will continually debate who is right or wrong on every subject under the sun and if they are not united that one answer is correct then how can you be?
I am sorry if this seems harsh as a response I just could not believe that anyone can assume that they are always right.
I do hope that your daughter is doing well after her surgery? xxxx
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@mummymo (23706)
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25 Mar 09
Not really Anora. first off I am glad not to have cased offence - I always try to say what I feel but in a way that won't cause hurt or offence if I can possibly avoid it. I think my concern was more that you assume you are right and others are wrong - it is very rarely that we can say with 100% certainty that we are right and there is no possible other way of looking at a situation, even in the classroom or a work situation , neither of which apply here. I think that if 2 people do not agree - especially in the context such as this then after it becomes obvious that there is going to be no agreement then they should agree to disagree and put this issue to one side OR they should agree that they do not get along and give each other space. They shouldn't go on preaching at each other and try to make the other see why they are right and the other is wrong. There are enough people who would either agree or love to continue debating an issue that someone who obviously doesn't want to be 'educated' can be left in peace. xxx
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Mummy-
None taken. I do so in the classroom. It's my job as a teacher to point out if my students are wrong. I also do it in IEP meetings. It's my job to make sure teacher's understand the IEP, and yes I had one teacher who said she was going to refuse to follow the IEP. I had to tell her she was wrong. It wasn't easy to do so, but it had to be done and she wasn't someone I enjoyed getting into it with. That's what I was referring to.
And as for the ego, I never said we were without it. We all have it and we all have to deal with it. I hope that clarifies my point of view on this subject.
Namaste-Anora
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
24 Mar 09
how about this one do you know people that even if they are wrong, who are so stubborn they will argue with you so much that you just give up even if you know that you are right and they are wrong, but they will argue so much that you end up not caring about it anymore.
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Don't they just drive you nuts? They won't let it go... they won't just move on... they say the world will end if they don't get you to think their way... they don't even want to see things another way...
Ok, I admit to knowing such a person and knowing that it drives a person nuts to talk with them.