Children Hitting Other Children
By Boofybutt
@Boofybutt (316)
United States
March 27, 2009 9:38am CST
About a month ago, my daughter hit my son so hard she broke his glasses. They were eating dinner and she just reached across the table and punched him for no reason. Then a week later, she punched him again, in the jaw, so hard he had to sleep with an icepack on it. A week ago, she bit him. She said she did it because he hurt her feelings. Then when they got off the bus last night, the bus driver told me that my daughter had hit another girl. When I asked my daughter why she hit the girl, the response was "she sat on my coat." I don't know what to do about this problem. My husband's solution would be to spank her, but I feel that since the problem is her hitting, wouldn't spanking her just make her think it's okay to hit? My daughter is 5, she is in kindergarten, and she'll be 6 the beginning of June. What can I do to get her to stop? I've told her it's wrong to hurt people, I've told her hitting and biting are bad, what else is there? I have asked her what makes her think it's okay to hit, but haven't gotten an answer from her, she just starts crying. I could really use some advice here. Thank you.
2 responses
@Anne19 (300)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
I think we have almost the same problem. And i don't even know what to do with my daughter anymore. Sometimes, I spanked her but most of the times I let her face the wall for 5 minutes but it still doesn't solve my problem with her. If you found a solution to this, please share it to me and I'll appreciate it very much.
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@Boofybutt (316)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I've tried the corner also. I'm not sure, maybe somebody will have a solution, or maybe it's just a phase (one can only hope and pray). If I come up with the solution, I'll definitely let you know.
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@Boofybutt (316)
• United States
29 Mar 09
So far, my telling her that hitting on the bus was going to get her kicked off, and if she hits or bites her brother he's going to do it back, has worked wonders. Of course, I don't know how long that's going to last, but it's working for now.
@MysticTomatoes (1053)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Spanking does not teach a child that hitting is okay. I don't know where some of these "experts" get their information but nothing could be farther from the truth. Back in the day when we were young, most all of us were spanked and what did that teach us? respect. It taught us to respect and listen to our elders and if something happened, then we got punished for it.
I side with your husband on this one.
@Boofybutt (316)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I got spanked growing up too, my husband did not. My husband also does not spend anytime with my children other than to yell at them, my children have a lot of respect for people, and not because they were spanked, but because they were taught respect. My husband, however, does not have respect for anybody. Now, normally, I would go for spanking, simply because had it been my son that hit it would work to get him to stop, but since that did not work the first time she hit my son, I doubt it's going to work if we do it again.
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