If you heard someone crying in a parking lot, would you stop to help

@venshida (4836)
United States
March 27, 2009 5:26pm CST
I was walking to my car today after work, and I heard this woman crying really loud. I look and notice she was the only one in the car. When I got closer I notice she was on her cell phone. I thought maybe I should ignore her, but I just could not so I stop and ask her if she was okay. She said yes and kept on crying. I drove off, but on my way home I thought about her hoping whatever issue she was dealing with she would be okay. Would you stop if you had this experience or would you just ignore the incident?
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19 responses
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
30 Mar 09
yeah i would stop and ask if they needed help, and if she was with a guy i would call the cops and let them know and check on her
@venshida (4836)
• United States
31 Mar 09
Yea, it's the right thing to do.
• United States
31 Mar 09
let me change on thing, if i saw a guy beating the hell out of a female then i would actully jump in and help her and beat the crap out of him. and then allow her to get a few good hits in
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I would have left her alone. Since she was on her cell phone crying, literally she was not alone, she was in fact talking to someone. It was probably a personal matter, and she was in her car so that she could be alone. Now, if she was just sitting in her car crying and not on a phone, I may have asked her if there was a problem I could help her with.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
31 Mar 09
I understand her being on the phone, but her screaming was extremely loud.
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
If I heard someone crying in the parking lot I would stop.I would ask first if what happen to her and why she was crying?
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Mar 09
good for you.
@yenwie84 (1344)
• Malaysia
28 Mar 09
If I am in that kind of situation,I think I would just ignore the woman,because in my country,there are people try to attract another's attention then they will rob them. I don't dare to even bother this kind of incident,because anytime I will put myself in danger.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Mar 09
sorry to hear, its like that in your country.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
28 Mar 09
She was obviously crying over a personal issue if she was on the phone. Where I'm from that's something you leave alone because its not your business. I'm sure if she needed immediate help and her life was in danger she would have said something.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Mar 09
It sound heartless to me to leave someone alone who is screaming.
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
[b][/b]i will do the same thing you did, coz if i'm on that woman's shoes, i will feel consoled that someone showed some concern on me, even if he does'nt know me..
@venshida (4836)
• United States
31 Mar 09
I agree. If I were crying hysterically and someone offer assistance. It would make me feel good.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I would have done the same thing although I'd be rather skeptical if it was after dark and I was alone. Not that I wouldn't want to help but we live in a big city and crime has picked up since so many have lost jobs. I'd have some concern it was a set up of some sort.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Mar 09
If it was at night. I probably would of called security. I would not approach her.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
i have heard so many things about safety in parking areas. i think i will not stop and help someone even if it is legitimate. at least not in that type of circumstance. it is just too risky...
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
i would stop but i would not immediately just approach the person and ask if she is okay. i would wait for a while if see if the person needs my help. if i think that i would need to approach the person to give some help i would try to have the courage to do so. if i can't just do it myself i would just tell some people who i can think can help the person to ask what is going on. but it is not easy to approach the person to offer help.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I did hesitate for a minute, but I knew I had to follow through and see if I can help.
@j47lee (740)
• Canada
28 Mar 09
Some people do not appreciate it when you ask about them when they are emotionally unstable..... she was probably having personal problems in her life... i know.. if i was having problems.... i would like to be left alone... instead of strangers bothering me...
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I understand wanting to be left alone, but would you scream hysterically in a public parking lot to draw attention to yourself. I am not talking about simple crying.
• United States
28 Mar 09
I guess it would depend on if it was a guy or a girl. I probably would not stop for a guy. If the person was alone I would probably stop to see if I could help. I think the only problem that I would have is feeling very intrusive.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Mar 09
A guy crying, I don't think I would help.
• Malaysia
28 Mar 09
Human cries always evoke my curiosity. I would run to the direction of the cries and check what the crying is all about. I do this on humanitarian grounds as that person might be in great danger and needs help.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Yes, I believe we are all a family in this world, and we should hep each other.
@carann (260)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I would at least do what you did. I jsut would feel terrible if I didn't at least ask if they where ok. I did do something one time that I felt good about that was similar. I pulled up to a gas station and saw the hood of my x's car up. Then I saw the guy that shut it wasn't my X. The person had something in there hand. I got out of my car walekd up and said what the **** are you doing with my car? The guy was shocked and all he said was I was just going to use this and put it back. I said yea right and grabbed it. I went into my x's work and showed him and told him. He later told me it was a cable that helped start the car and it wouldn't have started without it. And said I can't believe you did that for me. I know it was my X but it still made me feel good.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I would of felt badly if I walked away.You were brave.
• China
28 Mar 09
Mostly,I won't stop to help because there are so many cheats around us.But I still will judge to find if I should help him sometimes,especially for children and old people.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I have weakness for kids and the elderly so I would not hesitate to help.
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
28 Mar 09
By nature I'm a pretty "softie" of a person. I think I would have done the same thing you did. For all you know she could have been mugged in the parking lot and waas calling for help in which case I would have definately stayed with her if she want me to until help arrived. You also never know if someone was having a medical crisis and would need help, so I think what you did was a really caring thing for a person to do. I don't think I could walk by someone like that no matter if I knew them or not and not be able to make sure she was alright. I think you did a really nice thing and it's nice to know there are still people that are still out there who would stop and help a stranger who was in distress. So many times these days people don't seem concerned about other people and will just walk by without giving it a second thought. Godd for you for doing that.
@chimrani (1426)
• India
28 Mar 09
YEs my friend it my moral duty to stop and help the person who ever crying.I can not see a person crying.love thy Peoples as thyself
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
27 Mar 09
That's a good question. If it were me, seeing that she's on a cellphone, I'd probably just let her be. If she's in trouble, she has her phone to call for help, and that might be exactly what she was doing. It could have also been a personal issue. Perhaps her boyfriend was breaking up with her. It's not really our business to interfere with that. But it all depends on the situation. If she looked like she was in a panic, and I couldn't see a cellphone, I might stop to ask if she needed help.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Hello venshida! What you did is just right. If it will happen to me, I will do the same thing you did. I mean I want to know if the girl needs my help by asking her. Probably, because she's holding her phone, it might be love problem or family problem.
• China
28 Mar 09
Of course I do! because I want to know what happened to s/he,and what can I do for s/he.If he have some difficulty,I Will help s/he immediately. also,I believe everyone will do such a thing indubitability.because we alwaye have mercy on the person who need help!!