Being independent to one's family is much acceptable than a dependent one.

Hi! I have been independent since I was 18 years old. It is just by accident. Because my family have to transfer in the province and I am here studying. so I have to work in order for me to survive, because they don't send money to me. And even when they went back in Manila, I was still independent. For married people, it is okey to live with parents, as long as you do the share of work and expenses. And not just stay at home doing nothing. take care

Hi cupcyke, wow .. Your discussion just come in the right time I have a friend suitable for the topic My friend got married last ocotober, and I can tell that he was my role model that time My friend shared with me about his plans for the marriage life Starting from why he decided to get married, how he'll treat his wife and how he'll become a good husband And he also share how he'll manage his money for living, by working hard and save more money But then .. What I see now is completely far from his words My friend is completely depend on his parents wallet He spend most of his income on koi fish .. What the ? LOL Well it's like fish in the first place, then his wife on the second place Hahaaa.. And when his family needs something, he'll call his mom and ask for some money I shouldn't make a comment about this, but seriously, I'm completely disappointed with him Right now, I still live with my parents My parents still pay for some of my living, but I pay my own personal need, like clothes etc, by myself Sometimes I also buy my parents some stuffs I'm not yet independent, but I tried to be one Thanks .. :)

I think its alright if you still live with your parents as long as you can still contribute on paying the daily expenses that the family needs to settle but, if you already have a family of your own, that kind'a adds more challenge to it. Aside from helping the family wherein you live with, you also have to handle expenses that are for your own family. Sometimes, not all have big salaries that could cover both the expenses of the family that they are living with as well as their own family that they already have. It would be best if they would have rather started their own family at a time when they know that they could stand on their own without being dependent. We know they could still live close-by or still live with their parents but, wouldn't it be alright that even if they do live with their parents, everyone wouldn't be troubled about expenses at all.. sometimes, that's the cause of misunderstanding. "You put too much on that family of yours, you forgot that you already have a family of your own~!"

it always depend upon the situation...if they are below eighteen (18) they are not yet independent..that's american settings..But here in my country in philippine setting as long as the child is still on their parents house or accountability as long as still parents is giving them shelter as long as their kids is still studying even she or he is already above eighteen then she or he is still dependent is is not still awarded such dependent because emotionally and mentally they are not yet capable to earn a loving..but when they lived home or get married to somebody else then they are no longer dependent they have to live for their own as separate family..

I think being dependent with our parents for our needs is a no no given the fact that you are still capable of working. By capable I mean here that the person is physically, emotionally and mentally fit to work. It is never a reason that a person is young or has not completed education in order to find a work. There are still works that do not require to much education as long as you can read and write. I and my husband once hired a nanny who just finished grade two. I know that some mentality includes close family ties wherein it is okay for parents or relatives to let some young kids depend on them and I have nothing against that. What I am just after is that they should never be a burden to others. I was never a burden to my parents and I believe every child should never be a burden. Parents should teach their kids how to live and find a living for their own. Financial dependency should lasts once parents are old and not capable to work or they are already weak. Kids should be the one providing their parents need if they are together in one roof. If kids are not yet allowed to work then they should help their parents in household chores. If the person is already married and still depends on his or her parents for their needs then he or she should be looking for a job while staying with his or her parents. We should always know when to depend and when to work on our own. As an independent girl, I usually provide needs than depend on needs from my parents. It feels better when you have your own money to spend on things you want.

Being independent is great because you can do anything's right for you. you can also explore your self to the challeges in this world's are. when i am 20 i decided to be independent which is Far From my Family it was so hard for me to Far beyond from them but i always think this is for Good, not only for my self but also to them because i want to support there Needs daily. I came from Poor Family but it's not a big deal. I love them much.