Have you ever denied a friend request or deleted someone from your friend list?

I understand that some members on myLot prefer to devote their time to communication activities and don't wish to spend time with clean-up or management of their user profile. If you are willing to tolerate abuse or inconvenient activities against you or your account, then so be it. In the end, you are the one who is affected. Thanks for sharing.

While this might be the case for most, there are some real trolls out there. Not everyone is kindhearted or even concerned about the myLot community.

I know what you mean, I just ignore those rude people and they stop when they see I am not affected. All we have to do is be nice and members would be nice too..

I don't know exactly myself but, I guess those that I get to be friends with have also too many friends to send everyone their referral links or any other offers, most of the time building up as SPAM..

Wow! You've been around for quite some time, you have many posts, and you don't get SPAM...What did I do wrong. I am glad that I haven't had to contend with such problems with comments left in my profile. I would not hesitate to take action in that case either.

The majority of the time, I find myself following similar guidelines. I never just accept a friendship outright. I always do a background check first. I rarely make a request myself. I only make a request when I am very impressed with the quality of a member's comments or if I receive excellent advice. Cheers.

If they haven't been active in a long time, then there is a good chance that they have moved on from myLot. Tidying your profile can help improve they way you interact with your other friends if it makes it easier for you to notice their activity.

It's true. If not, there's just too much human clutter? Haha!~!~

Yes, it is more difficult in the beginning when you are building a reputation. That can be said for most areas of life and not just while on myLot. Persistence and perseverance helps one through initial difficulties on myLot. I am glad to hear that things have turned around for you.

Thanks bayernfan for the BR award.

Problems on myLot are a fraction of those experienced on other boards that I have frequented. I think that the way that the friendship/contact system is set up, helps alleviate specific difficulties. There are many excellent people who make up a portion of the membership on myLot. Those sending viruses need to be reported.

That is a very prudent set of measures that you use. I often find myself employing those same tactics. With the way that myLot handles incorrect or problem posts, one must be cautious when dealing with newbies. Much time and effort can be wasted if you get involved with the wrong member. Thanks for sharing.

I think that you follow a popular approach here on myLot pweety. I wonder if some members believe that those who choose to use these features aren't nice?

Relationships are a two way street. Sometimes it may be difficult to communicate in a timely manner when we are busy, but online relationships have to be nurtured just like offline relationships. An attempt to recognize a friend's efforts is often necessary even if it doesn't take place immediately. It was very considerate of you to message that member and explain why the friendship wasn't working out. Cheers.

Apparently this spam PM phenomenon is widespread. You are entitled to your opinion, but I disagree with your final statement. You don't always know a member well when you accept a friend request. A member may not be as they initially seem, they can change behavior or they might even engage in activities that you disagree with and weren't initial aware of. Some people choose to abuse the ability to contact you once they become your friend. I am glad that myLot allows these features, even if I only use them sparingly.

If you are new here, then it may take some time before you encounter similar issues to the ones that we are discussing. I was under the impression that the ability to view another member's profile was there for that reason. What is the point of having a profile if not to project or present your personality so that others can get an idea about who you are as a person and get to know you better?

I try not to turn these issues into a personal matter. I don't believe that friend acceptance/denial or additional/deletion has to be a matter of being nice or mean. When I am not on myLot, I don't become fiends with someone I come into contact with just because they ask. I have a limited amount of time that I choose to spend with those who share my interests, engage in the same activities as I do and with whom I have the most in common with. That does not mean that I am not courteous or civil with others nor does it mean that I refuse to engage with others outside of my closer circle. If being accepting of everyone no matter what is a strategy that works for you, then great. I fail to see why some people have a problem with exclusivity when it comes to relationships and interaction between people. I do not wish to imply that you are doing this here with you comments bloglog, but I would like to note that any attempt to prevent the imposing of limits on personal/group relationships is in imposition in itself.

That's what those features are there for.

Well, I can see where you are coming from. I oftentimes don't spend enough time on myLot to track what other members are doing anyways, so focusing on only a few, close friends would be advantageous. however, accepting friend requests makes it easier for others to track your posts if they are interested in what you say even if the feeling isn't mutual. If you don't mind me asking, while obviously not for friends, what is your main reason for being on myLot?

I don't believe that you can categorize someone as a friend if they choose to continually abuse you. Someone who cheats or breaks the rules will tend to cost you too once their punishment is handed down. Your posts get deleted and your earnings become reduced when their activities are removed. It is wise to avoid such members.

If a member on myLot is breaking the rules, then their posts will be deleted and any replies or contributions that you made to their activity will be removed as well. Having a member like that in your friend list is likely to be detrimental to you. MyLot conducts conversations in English. If a particular member's grasp of the language is lacking, then it is going to be very difficult to communicate. MyLot is all about communication. Abusive members, especially those on your friend list, deserve to be binned.

To be fair, I checked out your profile so that I would be able to make informed comments. I do not wish to single out any individual or make specific comments that would make it easy to identify any member. Therefore, this discussion was created to handle this topic in a general manner. I have extensive experience with online forums that extends over a long period of time. I have seen many things and I have learned to recognize certain behavior and avoid certain problems. Although I do not discount the time that you have devoted to myLot, I don't consider 12 months as long-time membership. Furthermore, I don't consider a 159 post count, many posts/replies aren't included in the post count, as insignificant. Your profile displays your activity, so I can see the amount of discussions that you take part in as well as the type of discussions that you have chosen to participate in. A multi-year member with fewer than 5 posts, is a red flag to me. When all the activity in their profile is friend requests and there are little to no interest selected, then I ask questions. When this is combined with a theme displayed in their profile about money making schemes, then I become cautious. I don't take the decision to deny a friend request lightly. I don't deny friend requests or delete friends on my list often either. I also don't actively snub new users or less active members. Your profile is reflective of who you are and, whether one likes it or not, others will make judgments about you based on it. It may be wise to treat your profile more like a business card or resume. You are, afterall, making a presentation of who you are to others through your profile.

I accept most friend requests also. Maintenance and tidying up the profile becomes that much more important when you have been around for a while and your lists have increased in size. I am of the belief that cleaning and maintenance are necessary activities to keep things organized and to allow for ease of operation.