what's your opinion of wives falling in love with somebody else?

As a human being, we have no control over our feelings but we can definitely control our actions. Having a romantic or even lustful feelings with persons who are married is not a sin. Sometimes we feel something that we don't think about. Right? You can really say that you have committed something wrong if you have really done something, like literally put your feelings into actions. You can fall in love with whoever but you should never do anything that would harm you as a person. Falling with a married person is not healthy but I don't consider it as a sin. But having an affair with a married person is totally wrong.

To fall in love with another man is not right but sometimes a person can't blame herself because the love just comes and not planned or even forced.Love is a gift but once it is felt to a wrong person then it should be overcome.It's not easy though but little by little it will be overcome in due time.If there are women who changed husbands or having relationships with other men and even have children from them, then, maybe they are the ones who don't value more on morality or because their relationship with their husbands did'nt work.There maybe situations like this but we don't have the right to judge them.Only God can judge them because He knows the desires and intents of their hearts.It might not be right to our standard but, maybe it's not our business anymore.Thanks for posting..

No, it is not as scandalous as it used to be. But it is still a sin. To lust after or have thoughts of an affair, is still wrong. If you have thought of a person in that manner and you continue to dwell upon it. Then you might as well have had the affair. Weather you put it into action or not. I think that is one of the problems with our society today. It is all about, do what feels good, don't worry about the consequences now. You know there is a difference between "loving" some one, and being "in-love" with them. Yes in some ways you can controll who you love, if you are in a loving relationship, then you shouldn't have the need to look elsewhere for affection.But, if you are going out looking for that affection that you are missing in your relationship with your partner, then you have already had the affair. That is how God sees it. If you need affection and are not getting it with your partner then it is time to sit down with him/her and let that person know what is going on with you. Now, don't get me worng, I have friends that I love very much. I care about them, and hurt for them when they are hurt. But I am not "in-love" with them. I think that there is too much that everyone says, "oh, you aren't hurting anyone, go ahead and act on your feelings. No one has to know" Someone does know, he knows our every move, our every thought, and every word before we say it. It does hurt some one, it hurts God when we act like this, and not only does it hurt him, it hurts our relationship with him. I look around and I see all of this and more happening, and I think to myself, what kind of future will children have when there isn't any clear messages set for them, and the see all the crap that there is on T.V and magazines. My 8 year old asked me yesterday as we standing in line at wal-mart, "mommy, when stars break-up, do they always put it in the newspaper, so that everyone else knows what is going on with them? I looked at her and was trying to figure out what sparked this question, then right before me there is a magazine thats says "The break-up" Talking about Brad and Angelina. People see marriage as disposable anymore. Thats not the way it was meant to be. NOW, don't get mad at me and start yelling at me just yet. There are situations that a marriage should end. Abuse for example, I very much agree that if one spouse is being abused, it should end. But to get married, and then a few months to a few years later to say you know, this isn't really working for me, I want out. I do have a problem with that. A perfect example. I have a family member who has been married 3 times, and is working on the 3rd divorce as we speak. This has all happened in that last 8 years. I think that maybe we should get back to the fundamental reason why we marry, and if you can't see yourself growing old with, and caring for that person throught thick and thin for better or worse, then maybe you should reconsider your decision to get married, or atleast put it on hold, till you can work through those feelings.