Your mother calls at the last minute and says she is coming over for a visit....

I'm the same..my house is not a mess but there are always things that can be done..lol..I guess I would try to clean up a bit before she come. I would be the same if anyone were coming over though.

Other than picking up things like a glass left on a coffee table, or a couple of books in the floor, I'd leave it all alone. I don't have children, so my place is never totally out of order, although I get it messy plenty of times. I'm sure if I had children it would be much tougher. However, my mom used to freak out when her mother came over. Her mom is a neat freak, and my mom felt like she had to keep her house up to her mother's standards.

my mom just sprung out of nowhere, without giving me a phone call or a text, she'll just knock in my door step and walla....haha i don't have to fret about it since i am very organize inside and outside my room, even the way i dress myself.

HAHAHAHA! I love that last line you wrote. But, if it were MY mother, I'd tell her I had a doctor's appointment and make some kind of lie so I don't have to see her. My mother is the worse when it comes to examinations of my life. I have four children I raise by myself and it's not easy; especially with the baby walking around. Because of that, whenever I'm at home with the younger ones I'm ALWAYS cleaning up after them. So, if I'm to do my life correctly, I should have the two older ones clean for me so when their at school, I'll just have the babies to watch. Not! Mother walks in the house (even after I've cleaned for days!) and she still has to open her mouth to critize me for having this on here, that over there, the walls have smudges, the windows need cleaning, the cabinets are messy, there's clothes on the floor in the laundry room, dishes in the sink, stuff on the counters...blah blah blah blah blah...SHUT UP, WOMAN! Yes, I once lost it when she came over and showed her what a mess REALLY looks like by clearing out several shelves. She just calmly picked it up for me. It's worse when right before they leave, she has to show my dad what's been broken since they were last there. Duh...I do have three sons... So, to answer your question, I'd rather I go over there so I can critize the way she keeps her house. *Pleiades

I don't think I would freak out. I would expect my mom, or any member of my family, and close friends for that matter, to know what to expect when they come over. With short notice, I would try and make sure there wasn't anything too gross or out of place...maybe take out the trash and light a candle, wash up any dishes in the sink. But, other than that, whatever. If your mom is a clean freak, than if she comes over and things are too messy for her, I'd simply say, i'd have cleaned up more if you would have given me a little more notice that you were going to stop by. If it bothers her that much, maybe next time she won't call last minute!

TRY AND get the house cleaned up as soon as possible as I know my mum would look at me different if my house was untidy and messy as my mum is very clean and when I was living with her it was always like that so if my house was dirrty (which it never will) I would quickly clean everything up and maybe just throw it all in the wardrobe taahaa.

How busy are you? Do you have small kids? If you do and your house is not as neat as you would like then she should understand. If she does say something tell her she is free to clean up any time she wants. Unless your house is really dirty you do not need to make excuses.

If my mother called saying she's coming to visit I'd guess she probably wants something, and tell her not to waste her time because I don't want to see her. But let's pretend we're talking about someone other than my mom! Knowing me I'd probably tidy up a bit, spray some air freshener or light a candle, things like that, then regardless how spotless I think the house is, I'll still apologize for the mess, and hope that nobody expects me to have a perfectly clean home with 5 little kids running around.

I had an Aunt like that. She came over one day, my house was relatively clean, but there was a cup in the sink. She said to me, "Oh, if I knew you had all of this work to do, I wouldn't have come over". Give me a break one silly cup I would say to my Mom, in a situation like yours, that I was just beginning to clean up, and hadn't yet finished. Would you like to go to lunch, and I will finish the cleaning when I get back? Acknowledge the fact that your house is not up to her standards, and that you were in the process of cleaning it. Hope all goes well.

It depends how long you've got until she gets there. I think I'd do a quick clear-up - like clear surfaces of clutter, and then sit down with a cup of tea and hope for the best! Oh, and make sure the kitchen sink is clean!

Depending on how much time I have, I would probably scramble around trying to clean things up a bit. If I don't have the time to clean I would probably ask her to take me somewhere because I don't have a car, and take her out to lunch or something. I really don't have to worry about her coming to see me because she never does. The only time I see her is on holidays, birthdays, or if I am at my sister's house, and she comes there.

My mother was always welcome no matter if my house was not up to snuff, LMAO!!! I love her & she would never judge me or my home. For she knows I am a clean & neat person. My moms floors was so clean you could eat off them & her toilets was always germ free, she kept her bathrooms spotless & cleaned them everyday.

always get a call at the last minute! I try to clean as much as possible. But dont worry much about it as she knows me!!!

Try to clean the house specially those area that your mother will see and use. But don't make yourself tired, it is not good that you will rest when your mother is at the house.

Lol well if it was my mother I honestly would not care since we dont get along and the fact that she would actually come to visit would mean hell froze over lol but lol that another topic , to answer the ?, if my mom did come I wouldnt do much and if she didnt like it I would just say hey what do you expect you raised me LOL , but seriously I was raised to make sure that your kitchen and bathroom are presentable , the kitchen you can get awy with , I mean you cant wash a dish everytime yo use it lol and i have 4 kids and no dishwasher so I get a "kitchen pass LOL" but the bathroom is the most important cause I was raised in the country and I was always told that you can always tell what kind of person they are by how they keep their bathroom I think my mom just added the kitchen thing but I can see why she would , but now if your talking about my stepmom I still wouldnt care and neither would she she always says she comes to see my family and not my house lol tho now that the kids are older they help out more so its not bad ( unless you look in my laundry room lol ) but hey with 6 ppl in the house there will always be laundry ;) hope my rambling answered your ? lol ~M~

lol this has happen to me a couple of times. My mom use to just show up at my door. I hate when people come over without calling. She use to do this alot of times when my husband and I just got married and we got our freak on. It never failed as soon as we would take our clothes off she would either call or knock at the door. I wouldn't answer lol. Got to love caller ID. Now a days my house is always set up with booby traps (kids toys) so if she calls I just make a cleared path way so she can walk and when she does get here she helps the kids pick up their toys lol.

I'd give my life if my Mom could come visit, but alas, she passed away in 2006. I wouldn't care what the house looked like, and I know she wouldn't either. Treasure every moment you have with your Mom, and don't worry about the trivial details. It's the love that counts. Give your Mom a hug for me. :-)

I would pretty much relax until she got there! My mom is a clean freak too and unfortunately she passed the quality right on down to me! Not that my house is perfect by any stretch of the word. I wouldn't be uncomfortable with her stopping in a any time with or without notice!

Well while I know that my mom does judge me on the cleaness of my house, I would still try to tiddy up the place. In my house the majority of the mess comes from the abundance of toys that my children leave all over the place,LOL. I find though that most of the time my house is clean becuase if not things get lost, especially with two young children.