Do You Keep Your Rings

no, i would not return them i hope he doesn't expect her to. they were a gift. i'm sure she she earned them.

Your darn right, I am keeping the rings. I don't have supid written across my forehead. I'll even be nice and let the ex hubby keep his ring.

i think you should keep them, because your husband has been part of you. trashing or getting rid of you wedding rings will mean you did love at all. so i believe you still have the right to keep it and it means a great respect of what you had before. so keep your ring it will just be symbol of a memory.

No I don't think the woman should feel obligated to return the rings. If anything she could sell them to get the money, as no doubt she might need every cent she could get. Have no idea what my mother did. My parents were divorced when I was only a year and a half old, the marriage only lasted about three years or a bit more. She might have done the classic thing a lot of women/men do when they divorce....flush the rings down the john...LOL--I'm sure you've heard of that one

I don't feel that she should give back the rings because he gave them to her when they were married. They are hers to do with as she pleases. If an engagement is broken off by the woman, I think she has a moral obligation to give back to engagement ring but, if it's broken off by the man, she has every right to keep the ring. But, when they've already been married, those rings are hers to do with as she pleases. If she wants to give them back, she has the right to. If she wants to keep them or sell them, she has that right, also. I believe that view would hold up in a court of law. The rings aren't considered "communal property". He GAVE them to her. That's my view on it, anyway.

After many years of marriage my wife and I called it quits. She kept her ring, I kept mine. I never thought about asking for her ring back, that seems rather tacky to me.

I think it depends on the person. I myself, would give them back. I wouldn't want the constant reminder of what WOULD and WAS for some amount of time. It would make me feel like a disappointment.

$5000 for rings is quite a bit of money. The rings were given to the woman though and she should keep them. I have my wedding band from my first marriage. I told my youngest son that he could have it when he weds.

Well if the marriage sort of ended mutually and if you can still be friends, just pass it on to your children, or keep it away in a box. I would also understand that if the marriage has been bitter, the urge to return or throw it away. But a more matured way if the relationship is bad is to just return it to the person.

As the engagement ring is a sign of the promise that the couple are trothed/pledged to get married. This couple did get married therefore IMO the ring is the woman's to keep. Only if a wedding never took place could this be a problem.

I personaly would probaly give them back. I would not want to give them to just anyone and yet I would never wear them again. I think it would be more closure for me and I do not feel that I would want to look at them anymore either.

I know that engagement rings, you have to give back, but once the marriage took place, even if it fell apart, the woman should keep the rings. But if it is incompatibility, maybe she could give the rings back so that he can propose again after they realize that they were not incompatible at all. But if there were no chance in hell, she should keep the rings - after all, if they had children, well it would not look good walking around with no ring on her finger.

I think she should keep them. If she has a daughter to pass them down to, great, if not, maybe she has a son. They were given as a gift and a token of love, just because it didn't work doesn't mean she has to return them.

i think if the marriage was ended, its up to the woman to keep or return the ring. but i think the woman should keep the ring as it was a gift given by your husband prior to your marriage. so its woman's personal belongings now she can do whatever she wanna do with the ring. happy posting!!!

Well personally I feel the best interest in this would be to talk it over with your Ex, and see what he feels is best. Sometimes they do not care if you keep them, and so you could always hold on to them, and pass them down to your children if you have any. The worst thing I can think of unless it is OK with your EX would be to sell them in despite of something like that as well. But personally if it was me, I would discuss it with my EX if I could and then go from there.

If the woman initiates the divorce and there are no children involved, she should give back the ring. If the man initiates the divorce, why should she give the rings back? The reason why I say "and there are no children" in the case of the woman is that she might want to leave the rings to the children that they created together. When my Mom and Dad broke up, she gave her rings to my sister. If there were no children, there would have been no reason to hold onto the rings.

I kept my ring but it was not worth that much by any means. It is a gift regardless of if the marriage lasts or not. Now if the marriage never happens the ring should be returned but i think after a divorce a woman should keep the ring i mean in most cases that ring was something she had for many many years and wore everyday all the time so it is hers.

The only times I've ever heard of the rings being returned were either if the engagement was broken off or if the ring was a family heirloom. I've never heard of the rings being returned just b/c the couple got divorced. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]

They're a gift. I don't give back gifts and I don't expect someone to give me back a gift.

I do not think the rings should be returned. The rings repesents the marriage, and are tokens that the marriage was satisfied. Therefore, there was no contracts broken, and the rings should stay with the wife. If the marriage didn't go through, now that is a different story, and the rings should be returned.