Daughter in law OR a Wife

I would say being a good wife is way more important than being a good daughter in law. Who is to say that the daughter in law should change the way she is to please the inlaws? As long as you are a good wife and have a good husband nothing else matters.

Being a good wife is the most important. By loving, supporting, and staying by your husband, you are being a good daughter in law. If you have a mother in law that doesn't see it that way. Then she needs to work on being a better mom. The man is the head of the household and it is our job to trust he will lead us in the right direction. Now I'm not saying a wife should by any means not stand up for what is important to her, but by keeping the lines of communication open and showing your love and respect for him, he will in turn see what's important to you and be a better husband to you.

i know every one will say that both being a good Daughter in Law isnt important to me...dont get me wrong though, I am not saying that I dont care about my Mum in Law but whether or not she or anyone else in the family likes me isnt somehting I concern myself with...if they dont like me, they dont like me..what matters is whether or not my partner does ya know...thats all I care about

Good day.. I think being a good wife is more essential than being a good daughter in law. I mean you married your man and not his mother. Your not obligated to be a good daughter in law but your obligated to be a good wife. Though it doesn't hurt to balance both but if you need to choose one. Choose being the good wife.

Being a good wife is more important. I did not marry my husband's parents I married him, it is him that I promised to love and support. Not his parents. That being said, I do try to be a good daughter in law but honestly it is lower on my priority list because att his time in my life, they can take care of themselves and so I concentrate on my husband, myself, school and my home then them and what they want from me. I am blessed that I have great in laws, they support my hunband's and my chioces, and understand that we have to take care of eachother first only then can we give attention to the other things in life.

i don't feel that be a good daughter in law is important . you love your husband than her mum right? this is one thing, i won't really bother about my mother in law cause he got so many daughter and son, and she don't even bear it in mine . one thing respect is important non matter what she is your husband mother mean your mother . respect it show you respect your husband too.. so be a good wife it mean you need to take care and concern of his son it mean a lot to his mother . because she had already put all the responsibility to you to take care of his son and is time for her to relax..

It takes two to tango. Even if you are perfect, your partner or mom-in-law should also be perfect for the relationship to go smoothly. But I feel your relationship with your husband will be more important than any other as it is your life together.

I would think that if your being a good wife then you are a good daughter in law. And as far as the mother in law she should be happy the daughter in law is treating her son well and if shes not happy about that she has some problems and needs to butt out. You have to live with your husband not your mother in law.

Your husband is your partner for life. I get what you are saying but your loyalty should lie with your husband. If you side with dad in law against hubby...not good. Your husband is who you'll have to live with...not dad in law. If there is a real conflict of interest...call a family meeting.

the answer is really quite simple. who do you wake up next to every morning? who do you spend yer LIFE with?? be a good wife..

Both are simultaneously related to each other. If you are part of family, then automatically you are good member and if you are good member then you are like by everyone either by your husband or by your parent as well.

It can be very confusing at times, but you have to make the choice on what you want to be. My mother in law and I don't always get along, we don't see eye to eye on alot of things, and that can cause conflict among us. I feel being a good wife is more important to me. I don't have to live with my mother n law, i do with my husband. I don't care what she has to say about most things because we are two different people, and we all have our own ways of doing things. My mother in law may not agree with me on how i do things with my children, but that's my choice, they are mine, not hers. What matters most is how happy me and my husband are, if we are happy in what we do, then it shouldn't matter to her.

hi shiwangi, i think you should be a good daughter in law first. i thought this because if you will love your love's parents then your love will definitely love you and you will be become a great wife in his heart.......

I think being a good wife more important that being a good daughter in law because....your husbands dad didnt say vows to you when you got maried....your Husban is your main priority when it comes to any of HIS family.....Remember, you wouldn't even know the Father if it wasnt for the son you married...Im saying compromise one for the other...but, if need be address your husband is the one who put that ring on your finger and said he loved you..NOT THE FATHER IN LAW....but always remain respectful in the eye of the father in law but your hubby comes first

For me it should be both, you need to be a good daughter in law and you need to be a good wife also.

Definitely be a good wife. That is your number 1. If being a good daughter in law doesn't coincide, then you should speak to your husband.

Both are necessary. But it is earlier to make a good wife and difficult to make a satisfactory daughter - in -law. But somewhere I feel you can make both ends meet if applied a little trick. Look your parents - in - law are for not many days. If they are happy that their daughter law- in - law is too good it is a great pleasure for them and your husband is your husband he would understand the situation and should help you out.

Being a good wife IS being a good daughten-in-law whether you receive credit or not. As long as the husband is happy and satisfied in his marriage his parents should be equally happy and satisfied.

Being a good wife all the way. you dont have to live with your in laws. You live with your husband.

It is my belief that just like everything else, we act different based on our surroundings...hence different at work than at home, different in church than at home. For example it would be acceptable to talk about politics at home where its probably not okay to talk about it at work...same with religion. It's not really about being who others want you to be....it's just about sensoring yourself around certain people to avoid confrontation. By all means, still remain real to yourself and your family, just beware that sometimes you can't stop things from being said and done. Mothers are very protective of their sons. Trust me, I've gone through some rough times with my Mother-in-law only because my husband went through quite a bad time with his ex-wife...she was purely rotten. Don't get me wrong I have a great relationship with my husband's family...but they will always remember all the horrible stuff she did and there will always be some comparison..even if only on a small scale.