girls are hard to understand

I agree with you,we all konw the "Mars and Venus",men and women are come from two world,so we don't konw girl's thinking.But you should not easily give up if you really love her,you could try again to talk about the marriage with her,not matter what way!I hope your story will have a happy ending.Come on,fan!

sir she also hav to feel for u dont attach urself to her that she start taking advantage of you dont talk to her for two to three day and then how she react and tell me

wow, a girl saying that they dont under girls. i know that its hard to understand them form a guys point of view. but what i dont understand is why your have a hard time. it could be some thing that she's not ready to do just yet. so how long have you been dating her? its kind of weird that she wouldnt explaine her reason for say no to you. personally i dont understand why she would do that to you. your hot and i would think that your a good person. its just one of those things that you might want to give her time. so are you two living together?

It might seem like it has been a long time for you and your girlfriend to be together however she might be looking at things in a different way then yourself. Different people move in different directions and also at different paces. She might not be ready for a commitment right now but that doesn't mean that she will never be ready. Marriage is a big step to walk into. It takes time and perhaps more nurturing of your relationship before things progress forward. Just be patient. I realize that it seems hard to understand a woman. I am a woman myself. We can be complex individuals. As women we sometimes don't understand you guys. I guess that it what makes life interesting. We are all trying to figure each other out and trying to find the answers. I do wish you much luck though.

Hi,i think a girl who fall in love is so easy to please,you can do anything which you two put in time and energy,even just a phone conversation can make you happy.I think your gf maybe can't fell any security from you so she refuse you or maybe another one.As i see you can show the respondsibility for the life to her.Girls often have not safe from her significant other.

I'm sorry to hear that, Fan! Ouch...yeah, there's nothing more demoralizing than being rejected by a great girlfriend/soul mate. BELIEVE me; I know exactly where you're coming from. Without wandering into the area of derogatory, I too think that girls can be hard to understand at TIMES. Girls as well could argue the same thing about men. It is certainly not the "Mars and Venus" or whichever planet the talk is about, because that is certainly not true. A guy can be like a girl, a girl can be like a guy, and a guy can like a girl and a girl can like a guy! The problem I think you're having here is a little too fast a move. First of all, a few quick questions: how old are you (please be honest-I'm not a stalker, I assure you), and how long have you two been going out? She may have been feeling pressured by being asked to marry you. I think she may have wanted a more subtle and less serious relationship-that is, more of a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship, and less than a life-long commitment. I do have to say, you have my utmost pity for what has happened. I know how hard it is, and how hard it can be on a person. So, what I think the best thing to do would be to try and fix it. Don't make yourself feel worse by trying to connect w/h her again, because she'll MOST likely reject you, given what you were saying ("never speaks to me from then on", etc.). I think you should ask her, however, WHY you were rejected. I'm sure she won't get angry, but make sure that she doesn't blow you off. Feedback, even in negative forms, is good for future actions. Next time you'll know what NOT to do-in this particular case, that may have been proposing too early. I hope things work out, buddy; hang in there...rejections like that hurt like the dickens. In the meantime, is it alright if I send you a friend request? You seem like a nice guy with interesting discussions-I do enjoy reading them. The best of luck to you, and see you later! Sincerely, -Fresh Writing

You need give her sometimes to consider.Give yourself sometimes to face.Best wishes.

Girls like boys are hard to understand. There are lots of factors why a girl refuses a guy. It doesn't indicate also that the problem is in you, it could be the other way around. Don't force, love can always wait. If you love her, you can wait.

Im sorry to hear that you were refused.As a girl myself,I admit that some girls are hard to understand in some way or another,but not all girls are hard to understand.It depends a lot on how much you know your girl.What made you think you knew her well,but sorry to say she didnt talk to you since you asked for her hand? Perhaps you need to have a serious talk with the girl if she speaks to you.Good luck.

That's sad to hear man. I agree that girls are really hard to understand because we are a man. I think she is not yet ready to accept your offer, but I wonder why she doesn't explain to you why she refuse you. Ask her about it. If she refuses to then tell her what you feel and think. If you think that she doesn't love you anymore ask her. If she doesn't want to be with you ask her. You need answers man and you deserve an answer from her. Good luck man. Best wishes.

It seems to me you were just friends and you fell in love with her. women are more able to have a guy as a friend than a guy have a woman as friend. even you may have misunderstood your feelings for her because you loved her as a friend. your first decision should have been to talk to her about how you were feeling and gave her a chance to understand that you have moved on in your feelings then maybe she could have responded without fear. if she was a truly close friend then you should give her time then call her and tell her you are sorry for letting your imagination run away with you and that you would appreciate her friendship back in your life. good luck :)

WoW! Well, I guess she's not yet ready for a marriage life but she should tell you what's the reason why she refuses. That hurt so much! Well, you should move on. I know this one is so traumatic but eventually you will recover soon. Good luck!

hi fan2009, yes i agree. Thank you for sharing your experience. Sorry to say i have not any point on it now to reply hope you understand. have a good time.

girls are hard to understand... this is because your interpretation is wrong. why do you think that girls and boys cannot be friends..? it cannot be love always. some times a boy and a girl can be very good friends but they don't wish to get married. well, if you felt that you had a desire to marry her, you should have told her earlier. may be she never thought about it. you need to sort out this matter yourself. but don't think that every girl- boy relationship ends in love.

Did you courted her by the way? I think from the way you described her is that you two were very close friends and you proposed to her to get married. Maybe she just considered you as a friend and not a lover. Maybe you should have courted her before you jump in to proposing a marriage. I think women should be given ample time to think things over before just jumping right in front of her and proposing like this at her.

I think she is not ready yet for marriage, in men's point of view its definitely difficult to understand girls, but did you know at some point girls too find men difficult to understand. This maybe because there is a gap in between them, perhaps a proper communication should be between them to be able to be understood and understand the other. If she refuses maybe you can ask her, or if she doesn't revealed her reasons perhaps you must be able to wait for while and court her again.

you must make sure if she really loves you.

Hmmm..... I guess you were just too fast. Did you think or talk over what she wants to do or something? It is not that they are hard to understand, it is more on the part where one should think what the person wants to do in his or her life. I guess this goes more on questions that you really want to know. A person should not be afraid to ask this and that if you really want to be with that person. So, I suggest take things slow, I mean sure you love each other for a very long time. Talk to her, like uhm, apologize first then ask her, once you get the apology approved, that is the time you ask questions like, what does she want to do, what does this and that, something more of plans for the future so that, you can do something about it, share your thoughts as well. It is just a suggestion. But, it worked on my friend when I told him this advice. And I was right, it was too fast. Hehehe. I don't know her reasons mate, but just try things slowly. Don't rush, some girls don't want to be rushed.

yeah sometimes girls are hard to understand i agree of that lolz

it is illogical to think that because you've been together and everything seems going well, she is happy and i am happy, and when we decide about marriage, it then follows you both agree?...when do we beside when it is the right time to get married? and guys, can we just simply decide abruptly when to ask her about marriage? simply no, the question is not about girls are hard to understand. we all both hard to be understood. but in that situation that you are giving me an example, is putting marriage into a condition. that marriage is obtained when it seems our relationship is doin well. we are happy with each other and as a result we can now marry. well then it up to you, if that is marriage. for me, if girls are hard to understand and boys too as well,better understand yourself first.