Do you have to support family? I want to move!
By Jenniferp
@Jenniferp (210)
United States
April 16, 2009 3:21pm CST
I wonder this because I hear it so much, that you do. I really feel like I am in the twilight zone lately. My 17 niece is getting married to a 20 year old with a horrible history of stealing, he dropped out of school in the 10th grade. They have no money and eat with my mom every night. Her parents are throwing this big wedding in a church, she is wearing a gown (almost 4 months prego)...I am shocked, but okay, whatever! I get a call from my mom asking me to throw a shower (apparently it doesn't look good for grandma to throw the shower), considering this is so traditional and all, okay! I find out that our list is not 20, but 44!!!! I am becoming more and more angry that I have been put in this position... I am buying my kids clothes off ebay, I really cannot believe that I have been asked this. I mentioned not thinking any of this was a good idea to my mom and she was like "What!!!???". I swear I feel like this is the twilight zone. Do you think that you should always go along with whatever in the name of family support?
5 responses
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
17 Apr 09
YOu shoul;d ask your mother if it is a wedding shower or a baby shower!lol. Don't be pushed into anyhthing that you do not want to do and cannot afford to do. Is anyone lese helping out with this expense? It is obvious that you are not happy with the wedding so you shoul dhave refused to do it. I will bend backways for family but to host 44 is a bit ridiculous. don't do it.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
It's always been nice to have your family with you,
to support you all the time. But when it's time for them
to need your support and help. The question is are you willing
to lend your support? Sometimes it's just a case of give and take.
Sometimes, there are things we don't want to do but we have to.
@sandymay16 (1617)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
oh my, you're in a situation that's not nice because the couple to be is still young and very irresponsible. I said that because if they have to think it would be okay not to have a bridal shower and all. Sometimes traditions are not nice especially if we're not the ones directly involved but we have to get involved.
Just say no to them your mom and your niece that you have also to think of other things more important. Or suggest that guest would bring something sort of a potluck. And the would be couple should be scolded I think.
@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
17 Apr 09
well. i'd like to support my parents and the family. but under other family members work as hard as they can. if under this they still can't fulfill all the task i will support them. that's what i did before. but my younger brother broken this and i do not willing to support it any more. he do not willing to work and never earn any money to the family. i'm really fed up with him .
@alharra (507)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I gotta be honest with you I wouldn't threow the shower. Noy unless other people in the family contribute to the cost. The fact is is that you don't have the money and it isn't your responsibility. Your niece does not need a shower- it's just an excuse to throw a party after all.
