Do you have a hard time getting along with your sister?

The most lame excuse for being a nasty person is "I can't change who I am"[i][/i] maybe she is like the many self centered people in this world that knows it would be too time consuming to change themselves so they are working their way up.. starting with you :) take it as a compliment... you are closer to perfection than she is! lol!

Nope! My sister and I get along great. Now, when I was little, I am sure I annoyed the heck out of her, sometimes, as we are six years apart (she is my big sister) but we always get along. Younger siblings usually have issues, it is just how it is, but we had a business together for a while, too, and did fine. I trust her to the limits and love her more.

I'd say! My sister and I have never really gotten along (her choice) and after she moved out of our mom's, due to them having a falling out, I didn't see her again for 10 years. That was almost 8 years ago. At the end of last month I gave my sister a call after finding some information about her online. I could have gone through our dad to try and get it, but he probably wouldn't have given it to me anyway. It was the longest conversation we had in years...it lasted a whole minute! LOL Oh well, I wasn't calling for me anyway, I was calling for our mom. Maybe I'm a bit wishy washy but I feel they should reconcile and have a mother daughter relationship that most families have.

My brother and I get along well when we are apart.Im happy everytime he comes back home from work during holidays.(He works in another city and doesnt go back home on weekends).We tend to quarrel easily when we spend time together.He's two years younger than me.Sometimes,I paly the role of BIG SISTER.He doesnt always listen to me.In fact,we dont talk about many personal issues.If you think you cant talk about anything personal with your sister,then dont talk.That doesnt mean you dont love each other.

Maybe for your case it's a cultural thing, like how older sisters act like that. But--okay, I admit, I give unsolicited advice to my twelve-year-old little sister, but it's not like she doesn't need it. I rarely give it to her, in the first place, because she's doing okay by herself. I like believing that we get along--not always, but we tend to see things the same way sometimes. Like how we like our music or our food or our life choices or our schools. We don't interfere with personal stuff, because that entire aspect is for ourselves to think about, and not each other's, get it? We'd run to each other when we have a problem. But as long as we're okay solving problems by ourselves, we don't disturb each other much.

My blood sister, as well as one of my step sisters and I get along just fine. I wish that I knew my blood sister better. I also have three stepsisters whom I would be surprised if they even knew I was existed. I was 19 when my blood sister was 12 and we did NOT get along then by any means.

I have a sister a bit like that, but we get on fine. I listen to her more often than telling her my stuff, unless she makes a point of asking. She too thinks that her way is the only way, and I'm the eldest! lol. She's the middle one of three girls so perhaps that's why she's the way she is. It's not worth falling out over things, but it would be nice if they practiced what they preached, huh? Brightest Blessings, my friend.

We are all hypocrites in our own way. The thing is, it really hurts most people for them to admit that. No one wants to admit, either, that for better or for worse, those traits we Love and hate in others, are reflections of our own self--we must know the thing personally (or at least personal feelings and thoughts of it) before we can judge it in another...

I guess, my dear, the loser in this ...is your sister, because you are the wiser, and more sensitive to your relationship! You have figured her out & are the one making the concessions to keep the family, a unit! You are a wise owl, and I guess have to be the peacemaker (as in the past discussions, families are important)! Sometimes us younger sisters, have to be the "older" sisters in these relationships.....I have the same one with my older 1/2 sister, and I, like you, have spent more time skirting subjects that are of contention, just to keep sanity! I guess it is the role that we have been handed, and sometimes I even feel "smug" and "wise" when I divert another bashing from my darling sister, Dale!LOL! You go, girl..you are being the best you truly can be! Cheers!

My sister and I are really close and get along really well most of the time. We weren't always so close though. I'm 8 years older than her, so growing up, we never had the same interests. I was in high school when she was in elementary school. Whenever I got married and moved we became closer. I've seen our relationship really grow over the past few years especially. We've been through a lot of ups and downs with our family and that has really helped to strengthen our bond. Plus, my husband and I are expecting our first baby in June, so she's really excited to be an aunt. We do butt heads sometimes, but it's mainly because we're so much alike. Hotheads. lol

I myself am not close to any of my brothers or sister I really do not speak to any of them. I just prefer to keep it that way. I am the black sheep of my family and I can not measure up to their standards. So I just avoid the drama and let them live their life without interference and they let me live mine and keep what they have to say among them selves lol.

I don't have a sister but my two grown daughters can't stand each other. It breaks my heart to see this because there are times in life when family is your major support. If these two ladies could let go of the past I think they could tolerate each other.

Maybe you can try talking to her. Sit with her one day and tell her that you want a serious talk with her. And if she doesn't want to listen, just point out to her what she was doing and how it made you feel. I am sure she will understand. I have a good relationship with my sister. Though we argue, we tend to make up. If there's no argument in a relationship, that it's not healthy. But I still love my sister. She is like a best friend to me. We tell each other everything. I wouldn't want another sister in my next life. She's my best sister. Try talking to her. Hope everything works out.

Well I have a sister. She's older than me. Five years gap. :) But then she is not like us. She is normal but not like us. The way she thinks is way too far from her age. I don't know if it's a sickness or something. But my whole family knows about it. I try to get close to her, but most of the time she irritates me. Cause she is irritating. But I care a lot about her though. The question "who will take care of her in the future?" is always on my mind. Because I'm not sure if she'll ever have a family.

It must be a big sister or first child syndrome. My older sister is a control freak. I feel as if I am "unworthy " in lots of ways. My other sister also fits this category. I'm the black sheep, of the family, my sister is (shock, horror!) an atheist. My brother is OK because 1) he is male (ours is a patriarchal family-Dad is the ultimate male chauvinist and 2) he is a practicing Catholic. This makes him also "worthy". On the surface my older sister is sweet, loving, caring and considerate. Under the surface she is controlling, manipulative and greedy. I don't know if she realises it ...her husband influences her so a lot of it is self preservation I think. It's all very complex. My family don't know who I am - they have opinions formed of me when I was a rebellious teen and that never changes. I'm tolerated and accepted but there are these hidden undercurrents. When I try to talk to my family, when I turn to them in times of needing my family, they are deaf. They change the subject, they don't want to know. My other sister was also ostracized in her late teens and she has always resented it and fought for acceptance and tolerance but she will never get it. It has made her ill. I know where you are coming from.

I have only a sister and so I have no problem getting along. We may not see eye to eye over certain matters, but being sisters, we just get over it. Treat your sister as a close friend and many problems are not problems anymore.

Yes, I am having a hard time getting along with my youngest sister. We are so different and yet raised in the same family. We migrated to two different countries but was born in the same country. This makes it even more difficult to accept that we are extremely different. She has a tendency to "ditto" me, copy my personalty ever since we were in grade school. This is what that really irritates me. She can't get into her head that each person has her OWN identity and that's it. Recently we kissed and made up after 3 years not talking to each other. Last year I spent Christmas with her to tell her how sorry I was for the fight we had. Again after one week's stay at her place she raised up the fight we had 3 years ago and I just freaked out! We are in terms again. I don't know if we should just keep each other apart so as not to feel bad every time we meet. We are at our 50's and it is not a joke when you have to fight issues like brats. I do understand her "I, Me & Myself" attitude but there comes to a point that you have to remind her that there is no need for this superficial attitude at this stage of our life. I sent her an e-mail to tell her that a good friend will tell you how/why your behavior is not good. I stated all that had to be corrected. She e-mailed me back in such a hideous manner. So that's it!

My sister and I don't always see eye to eye on things, as we seem to always have an exchange of words while talking to each other. We can turn a friendly converstation into a hateful one. We are only 6 years in age difference but she had to pretty much be my mom when we were younger. My dad passed when I was 5, and my mom worked 3 jobs to make ends meet so she was left to take care of me and everything else and she still holds that on her shoulders that she must do that now. She has told me that I will never make anything of myself because I would always need her. I have stood my own ground for the last 10 years. Moving over 1100 miles from them, got married, have a family of my own and do very well for myself, but she still can't get past things. She will dog down on my parenting style, the way i live my life and the choices I make to do with my life. I have over looked alot of things she says and I like you avoid certian discussions because I dont like to talk to a wall and repeat myself over and over. Though , I love her dearly and I am very grateful for what she gave up to make sure I was ok, I think it's time to move on and get over those things. In time, I think she will but right now she likes making my life hard, lol... I think everyone can change the way they are, but they have to be able to see they have faults, but until then they will never see how they are being towards anyone. I hope that one day, and soon, she will see she's pushed you away and made you be the private person because she only wanted to see the bad.

Before this i have a hard time with my sister,now everything become good....

Oh!My dear friend ,may be this problem that you refer to above is common. In my opinion, getting along with people especially they are our close relative we should keep a principle is "Don't dampen the enthusiasm of each other." The one who take try to change another by forcing himself thinking are doomed to failing. In this case I can imaging how obsinate your sister is, When she gets along with your or her daughters. So, maybe the time is the best tools, when we all calm down to face the situation and all of us consider each other more, I believe that it isn't a far things to make it becoming a harmonious atmosphere. In the end i want to quote a logion from Zhang Ailing that is "And I need you to know, There is one who wiling to wait for you forever anywhere or anytime in this world, you should know this one." I am sure this for dscribing relation is more adaptive than for love. I am certain of your sister is one of this. I pray for you, It will become what you want, but keep admires in minds and try to decrease enmity and increase friendship.