Who Keeps The Engagement Ring?

I think that whoever broke off the engagement should not keep the ring. Personally, I don't see why a woman would want the ring anyway...unless she wants to sell it. I can understand why the guy would want the ring. He may be able to sell it or take it back to the store and get his money back. If it is a family heirloom, then I think it should stay in the family that it came from.

Personaly id I were engaged and it were broken off, by either me or him, I would no longer want the ring. I would give it back. But, I am happily married and we aren't talking about me, so I would have to say that legally, it is a gift and shouldn't have to be returned. If it happens to be a ring that was passed down from one generation to another, the morall correct thing t do would be to return it.

I think if the ring is a family heirloom it is right that the ring should stay with the family that it came from. If the man breaks off the engagement I think the lady should be able to keep the engagement ring or sell it. It was a gift to her after all. If the ring was bought and the lady breaks off the engagement she might want to give the ring back to the man. If the engagement has been years the lady might be very fond of her ring. Discussion would be the best policy I feel if an engagement is broken off. I am divorced and my engagement ring and my wedding ring sit in my jewelry box.

I really think the guy should get the ring back. After all...it symbolized the "promise of marriage". Regardless of who is at fault for the break up...the promise of marriage is done and the ring and the ring no longer has the same emotional value that it once did. It is not "just a gift"...it is a symbol of love forever....unlike a "promise ring" or a "friendship" ring. What it symbolizes makes it different than an ordinary gift. If the boy wants the ring back when the engagement ends...it should be given back to him. If the girl refuses to, then she is keeping it for it's monetary value only. There are girls out there that lure men into getting engaged just to get the ring and then they turn around and profit from it. I don't get why anyone would want to keep an engagement ring from someone they are no longer engaged to if not for money reasons. I would give the man back his ring and let him recover some of his losses. It only seems fair.

From an economic stand point I think it should go back to the individual who gave it. It is part of the contract to "marry". The ring is an investment into the union. If the contract is off, the ring should be returned. However, if the union was made and then broken, the ring should stay in the possession of the person who has it.

i think it should always be the woman who should keep the ring,... first just like what you have said it is a gift and it is very unlikely to take back or receive back what you had given with your heart. second women are very good at cherishing items. they are good are keeping them and making them special. its not that men are incapable of this but this attitude turn out to be inert in a woman. regardless of the situation in which the relationship had ended the ring is still a ring that represents the previous feelings that was entitled to it. and so the woman should always keep it. hmm sorry for the flaws in my grammar..:D

Well I don't know if this can be done but in my place it can be............sell the rings and divide the money equal share and give it to both parties. In my case I am married, my engagement ring is also my wedding ring. My husband and I both took it off on our wedding day and re wear it again at the pulpit....so both of us are keeping our ring each on our finger............LOL !!!!

I think that if it's a gift, something he bought then you should keep it. But if it was a ring that was in his family that has passed down then he should get it back. That would only be right. If you don't want the ring then give it back to him, if he doesn't want it then pawn it. But if you have any kind of thoughts of getting back with him then don't pawn it. Keep it safe. If you pawn it and he finds out that could possibly ruin any chances you might have of getting back together.

As for me, the ring should be in the girls safekeeping. It was a gift and a woman should wear it in her finger. If break up happens, the girl will keep it as a token of remembrance of a lost love.

Well, it is supposed to be the man, but my thing is, it should be the person who didn't break it off. I was dumb and gave the ring back to the idiot I was going to marry. I should have kept it and sold it :-) He broke it off and I shouldn't have had to pay for his ignorance, but that's just my opinion

well miss manners would say to return the ring..in some states if its a family set that she should return the ring..and judge judy would say if its a gift its hers to keep...

My opinion on this subject would be if she broke it off, she should give the ring back, if he did, he should ask that she keep the ring for whatever reason and do with it as she wish.

I think it depends on how the woman feels. If she feels like she wants to keep it, then she should, it was given to her as a sign of love, and even though that love may have faded, or not be as strong, it will always be there. You can never truly quit loving someone, no matter what you tell yourself. I think there are certain exceptions. Like if it was in the guy's family for generations, or an heirloom say, I would give it back as a sign of respect to the family if not for the guy that you broke it off with. But if it was bought specifically for you, then you have every right to keep it or do with it as you choose, it was given to you.

Well I think that the guy should keep it only if it was an agreed thing or if the girl broke it off. The girl should keep it if the guy cheated on her or if it wasn't a long engagement. I also think that if the guy does get the ring if their were any buying of wedding things the girl gets the money from the wedding things.

Legally and Morally the ring is a symbol of a promise when an engagement is broken the man who bought the ring is legally entitled to have the ring back. And even more so when and or if it is a family heirloom passed down from one generation to another. Any woman wanting to keep this ring is wrong for wanting to do so. It is not a gift when she accepts the ring she is making a commitment to marry the man and when he puts it on her finger he is making a commitment to marry her. It is not a gift but a token of what is expected to be a life time together. So legally he gets it back and should get it back ethically and morally as well.

For me, If ever I am engaged and we got married with the same person who gives me the ring, I am the one who will keep it. I will really treasure it. But when I am given an engagement ring and we broke up, i think it's better to give back the ring, because I guess, the guy will have the right for that. Well, Its only my opinion.