How faithful are you to your partner?
By hotsummer
@hotsummer (13837)
Philippines
April 19, 2009 7:01am CST
Can you go out with your partner without looking at the other people who looks better or even have a hot look than your partner. For instance you are in public place, don't you get tempted to lust at other people or person who look so terribly good and very tempting to look at lustfully. Don't you entertain those thoughts that you wanted to have a relationship with those great beautiful people or gorgeous people.
Has those thoughts crossed your mind already. I know that it is just normal to admire other people. But sometimes we wish that we would have some contact with those people and get to know them better.
So i would like to know how faithful can you be to the person in relationship with if you are not married, or to your partner if you are married already.
In those world temptation is so great that it is hard to live without giving in to them sometimes. Temptation may include getting to know them better and having fling if not romantic relationship while you are still within a relationship.
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16 responses
@HelloMickey (1655)
• Hong Kong
19 Apr 09
I don't know, some one has good looking doesn't mean he/she can live with you happily.
Love involves so many factors, and most important not an appearance of a person attract others' hearts.
I seldom lust for others' appearance, nowadays, people would do plastic surgery to have good looking and good body figure, what's the point if someone has perfect face and body but she/he can't live with you comfortably? If someone is easily tempted, that only means one doesn't really love his/her partner.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
19 Apr 09
For instance you are in public place, don't you get tempted to lust at other people
Just because I look at another person who is attractive doenst mean that I'm "lusting" after them..I dont lust for others and havent since I was a teenager LOL...I do look, hell I point hotties otu to my partner...I appreciate beauty and that includes beautiful looking ppl....nothing wrong with that
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
20 Apr 09
I'd have to say I'm pretty faithful to my husband. In the 17 years we have been together I've only once looked at another man. The only reason he caught my attention in the first place is because he looked a lot like my husband (almost like his twin) and it made me do a double take. To me my husband is gorgeous and I have no eyes for any other man. He's the only one I ever lusted after. 
There isn't anything wrong with admiring someone from afar. But lusting after them when you're already married just isn't right. 
There isn't anything wrong with admiring someone from afar. But lusting after them when you're already married just isn't right. @hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
that is really funny looking at a person who looked almost like your husband. maybe there is just some similiraties. you seem to be attracted so much to your husband and that you are really still head over heels in love with him. that is really good. cause not much couple now stay in love that much for that long. specially celebrities. ha ha.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
19 Apr 09
no...i didnt had the thought of having relationship with any of the person though they may be very good looking or handsome...but i think having relation and praising th ebeauty are totally different things, i like many other people look wise but i am not tempted by their looks and never the thought comes that i should have relationship with them, if ever it will happen (very rare condition) that i have realtionship with someone else it would be due to the nature or the undersdtanding or the care the person gives me, and not coz of looks...that is for sure....
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@kapil_poundarik (960)
• India
19 Apr 09
well i don't think that i will look to any other lady if i go on a walk with my loved one . well she is not with me right now but i still do not think of going with another girl. i love my girlfriend very much and wont leave her even if she leaves me . well for her i have sacrificed every thing and i don't have a word of regret after that because i realized that the sacrifices turned out to be good.
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@supersionx (142)
• Philippines
19 Apr 09
I don't know but in my eyes my guy is the most gorgeous. Well what can I say, I'm head over heels inlove with him XD.
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@tammyr (5946)
• Etowah, Tennessee
20 Apr 09
I agree with Cellyne being attracted or 'crushing' on someone is natural. As long as you recognize it as such and don't act on it, it doesn't mean you are unfaithful.
I am faithful to my guy and would never do anything with anyone else. I don't 'lust' for anyone else, but I may look and even comment that someone looks good,that is just a statement of a fact, not a reason to lust.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
20 Apr 09
OMG.... are you kidding? I'm absolutely faithful to my husband! Always have been and always will be. I don't even look at other people with that frame of mind. They're all just other people within my eye sight, that's all. Nothing more and nothing less. I know my husband is the same way because he told me that he's seen all of his brothers and sisters cheat as well as his mom and real dad and he's seen how it affected their spouses when they found out and he never ever wants to cause such pain to anybody. Especially one he loves. We've been married for 17 years and we're still very happy with each other.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
20 Apr 09
I have been on outings with my gf(?) but I don't think I would be tempted to those lusty women. If I am with my gf then my only concern will be her. If I want to do some teasing then I might pretend to look at them with lust but that would be only for making my gf jealous.
No, I belive that my mind will not allow me to deviate from my gf.
may be that is the reason why my gf declined my proposal!
@missybear (11391)
• United States
19 Apr 09
There is nothing wrong with looking.
We both look at other people and coment on how they look.
Just don't touch
@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
i am faithful with my partner.
i don't flirt or what with men. i stick to my man. i am not going to give in to temptations because i focus to what my heart feels.
i was tempted once, but that made a bad karma to me. so i learned my lessons and not to do it again.
@tabachi (263)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
i think that i pass the loyalty test all the time...when i'm into a relationship i give myself into it 100percent..honestly... ...that's how i am..although i'm never sure if my partner has the same attitude as mine...but being loyal sometimes could be heartbreaking especially when your partner isn't the type...
@Cellyne (41)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
it's natural to have a crush or get attracted to someone else as long as you know your limitations. if you love your bf/gf, husband/wife you'll not be afraid to ask by someone or yourself if you are faithful to your partner right?. best of all, be open to your partner, for you not to get confuse of what you feel.
@chulasa (69)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
I don't think admiring somebody by looking at the person can be tagged as being unfaithful, but once you go further then I can tag you as unfaithful.
I am as faithful as I can be with my husband. I do things as he please and don't mind not going out with my guy friends (my own free will ..). I never had entertained thoughts of having a relationship (be it a fling, etc,) with other person. I think my husband knows it and really trust me with the "being faithful thing". By the way, there's this one guy who could make me change my mind about having a relationship other than my husband.. it's Brad Pitt.. and my husband knows it.. hehe
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
19 Apr 09
It is natural and only human to look at others, or even make a complement about them. However, if it's that 'tempting' to want to get to know them better, you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place. As for me, I'm in an awesome relationship and we are planning on being married. Those kind of thoughts never even cross my mind, I'm not saying I don't look, but that's as far as it goes. And I know he feels the same way. And we are 1000 miles apart at the moment. So yes I am very faithful as is he.
@Wizzywig (7847)
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19 Apr 09
My dad always said its ok to look but not touch. I dont think there's any problem in admiring people you're not in a relationship with. I think its human nature to be tempted but it depends on your self-control and how you handle the temptation. I believe that men and women can be just friends.
