what do you think is a friends responsibility?
@friendship4lyfe (520)
Saint Lucia
April 20, 2009 6:29pm CST
lately my best friend and i has been going our separate ways.we have been friends for like ten years.we have had our ups and downs but maintain a good friendship.anyways now she only talk to me when she needs me to grant her a favour.last year she got married and had a terrible wedding day i was there for her yet i got blamed for everything even though it wasnt my fault. i just want to give up our friendship.she is not capable of admitting when she is wrong and argues even when she should be apologizing.i want to know what you think a friends responsibilty is to another?
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19 responses
@jralivio511 (480)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
Well, I don't think neither of you have responsibility with each other. I think our role as a friend is to be there for them if you believe they needed you. My best friend and I will go with our separate ways next month. She decided to move to an apartment with her brother. We share rooms currently and then she decided to move. There's nothing I can do about it but we still have our numbers saved,, right? There's a saying "Just call my name and I'll be there."
@fwangaa (3057)
• China
21 Apr 09
yes, if a friend is in trouble ,i must help him out of the trouble.
that is a define about friend i mean.
the friend not share your rich.
but if you want him help you ,you will help you quickly for no purpose
and doesn't want your money or something you have.
he supports you without condition.
he never want to get something from you .
that's the friend and he never stop you to progress.
when you are success ,he also will be very happy.
and you never afraid of him.
God bless you.
@jayda_j927tijs (2893)
• Hong Kong
21 Apr 09
I think friends are the one who share your joy and sadness.Always be there for.Back you up even though you are wrong.
@nitu1952 (286)
• India
21 Apr 09
a friend is like a brother to us.we need the friend at every moment of difficulty.but some friends try to take undue advantage of other. according to me this is really wrong.there is a famous proverb" a friend in need is a good indeed".afriend is a real friend which helps at the time of difficulty.
@hxstar (510)
• China
21 Apr 09
Hi,friendship4lyfe
I am sorry to hear that your friendship ended unhappily.In my opinion,my friend don't need to have the same interest as me or something else,all what I want is friends' understanding.I don't care whether my friend will support me in any case,I just want he know why I want to do in this way rather than in that way even he has different opinions with me.
Have a good day!
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
21 Apr 09
It may be time for you to step back and evaluate your friendship. You need to know that she is there for you as much as you are there for her. Weigh the pros and cons and see which one has the most on its side this will tell you.
@jhonymax2cool (424)
• India
21 Apr 09
to give u the right ideas or right things to do when in a problem or in a bad situation.also he should be responsible to care of u at many times like when u r drunk and u wanna drive home.he should slap u when u r upto something bad.should help u in love and war.and so many things.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Hey friendship4lyfe! I think that it has to be a give and
take in order for a real friendship to work. I had a best
friend for 45 years, but she just couldn't understand that
she was doing things that were hateful and I finally had to
cut her loose. I have another friend right now that is never
really there for me, but expects me to be there for her. That
is also not my idea of a real friend. In life you will find
that will happen and you have to decide how much you want
to give without getting back. It is up to you to make that
choice. It was a very difficult choice for me and it took me
a long time to make the decisions that I did. But, I know that
what I did was right for me in the end.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
It's a responsibility of a friend to understand her whenever she's misunderstood. To be at her side in time of need and to call for her to be with you in times of your success.
@leepeiyu (13)
• Singapore
21 Apr 09
I would say there are no definite answer as to the type of responsibilities that come along with any form of relationships. Maybe you can try to confront and tell her upfront what you feel is upsetting you. If she starts to argue, give her some space and time to properly address what she feels. Bottom line, be honest with her and try to come to a compromise. If things don't work out, at least some things have been let out in the open.
@20062010 (34)
• China
21 Apr 09
I think good friends have the responsibility to help each other.A best friend is the one who you can share your feeling with whenever you are happy or in bad mood.A best friend is who you can turn to for help when you are in difficulties.Meanwhile, best friends should be open their hearts to each other and speak out their minds to each other freely. It seems that there is little secret between best friends.Of couse,sometimes there would be some misunderstandings between best friends, but if all these misunderstandings can be solved out througt the joint effort, the friendships will be further strengtened.
@myahw20 (1115)
• Canada
21 Apr 09
I think that friends should be there for each other on good times and bad times. As a friend we should listen to each other. Also, as a friend we should never hesitate to tell the truth to our friends even though it might hurt them. It is our responsibility to give them reality checks once in a while.
@angelbelle578 (1635)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Being a friend i think you have a little responsibility for helping her when she's in trouble. You have a resposibility if you are with your friends like to make sure she is doing the right thing or if she making a wrong decision you have to at least enlighten or give her some advises that might help her to make the correct decision. But you dont have the wole responsibility for always being their for her, always helping her. She must know that you still have your own life. And if she is really your true friend she should respect you as well and not put you down just to make her happy about her self. Try to show her sometimes that your mad at her at least she would know that what she's doing is wrong and hurts you.
@maiyhenzkee (682)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Sometimes I feel that way with one of my friends, but when I come to think about the years we've all been through, we've been friends for 10 years, it all comes back that the friendship is still important for me other than their faults.
I think when you're friends with people long enough, you would learn how to deal with their imperfections and shortcomings. You would always have the heart that forgives them and ready to take them again no matter what.
If that's how you feel with your friend, I suggest you talk with her and tell her how you feel about what she's doing and how she's treating you, if she's really a true friend, she would understand and will be willing to make the proper adjustments.
I did that once with one of my best friends, and it worked. Every time she knows that she hurts me with what she's doing, she will say sorry and for me that's enough to forgive her and keep the friendship alive.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I have been best friend for 57 years. somewhere between 18 & 28 we began to drift apart. She got married & had 3 beautiful boys. I got married & divorced. As time passed we grew closer again. Sometimes, you just have to accept your best friend especially for her faults. It appears you are holding a lot of resentment for her actions. One reason me & my best friend have remained so for this many years is that we've ALWAYS been honest & straight forward with each other. Being honest is different than being hurtful!!! My friend says that every time she gets the bighead, I let the air out. She has been known to return the favor!!! Having a best friend is almost like having a spouse. You love them in spite of their faults. You NEVER lie to them. If you feel it, you hold NOTHING back. You give of everything inside your soul. You're there when they need you & even when they don't think they do. You feel their pain, you rejoice in their happiness & you almost know what they need before they know they even need it. Sometimes best friends grow so far apart that they go their separate ways. Some remain good friends for life, some remain just friends, & some never speak again. You two are the ONLY ones who know if the friendship is worth saving!!!
@oldmanhorrorfan (497)
• United States
21 Apr 09
To me a friend's responsibility is to be there and give moral support. And maybe be there to pull our coat, make us aware of a mistake we may make.
Friends tend to share the same interests, and know each other pretty well. Got the same morals and values. Then when the time comes that me and a friend are not agreeing on the same issues anymore, maybe that the friendship has run it's course.
To me, a friend is not someone who begins to blame me for the things that are going wrong in their life, using me as an scapegoat. That'd be time for me to find some new friends. Sad to say, for myself, I believe that friends come and go, like chapters in life. Not to say that a friend from the past won't pop up later on down the road.