Cheating Online.
By magsburg
@magsburg (88)
Canada
April 21, 2009 2:26pm CST
Hey everyone.
I've got a question for you. I was watching devorce cort on t.v. yesterday, and this one of the questions that came up when they poled the viewers of the show. I'm very interested to hear what the folks on here would respond to the same question. Okay. Here it is.
Let's say that you are in a relationship with someone. If you also begin seeing someone online, would you consider it to be cheating on your partner or not? Let's see what you have to say, and then I will give you my take on it.
Thanks a lot and have a wonderful day.
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14 responses
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I think that it is cheating if you are "seeing" someone online and someone in real life. If you are just talking that is one thing. But if the talk is about stuff you wouldn't say to someone else when your partner is around then it is something more than friends and that would be cheating. It doesn't matter if you haven't physically cheated with this person online. There is a such thing as an emotional affair.
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@magsburg (88)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
I also see the online world as an extention of the concrete world and I am also an extremely bad lier. I mean that I do not do it well. Anyone would be able to tell, just by looking at me, that I am lying because even before it comes out of my mouth, I am feeling guilty about it. Hahaha!
@rebelmel (1386)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Of course it is cheating! I don't date online ever, it's too creepy for me. But, if I were in that situation, I don't think that an internet boyfriend or girlfriend would stay that way. There needs to be some reason you keep talking to this person, and you probably would want to meet them sometime, which is BY FAR cheating.
Plus, what if the person was a creep and stalked you? You could get yourself in some serious trouble and your significant other would be really hurt.
I only need one man to make me happy!
@garyc09 (132)
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22 Apr 09
social networking siotes help people live an extra live and easier to meet people, my ex left me for someone else she met through myspace, it happens :] it just makes people who are on there untrustable really.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
21 Apr 09
If you are talking to someone online and its itimate conversations you are cheating on your wife, boyfriend, husband, girlfriend. If its just a friendship type conversation that is different. Some men and woman though don't see it that way because of their jealousy. Another thing if the man or woman tell you about the friend online then usually you don't have anything to worry about. It's when they don't tell you and spend more time on the computer then with you - thats when you have a problem and yes he or she is probably cheating. That's my take on it!
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
21 Apr 09
So, you ask if somebody who have a relation in real will cheat if he have one online relation, in same time. In my opinion, he cheating both...online relation amd real relation too.
This mean that i consider that a online relation is a strong relation if is honest, can consider that is a commitment as in in "real" life too.
who cheating in real cheating to ne too, or viceversa..i know peoples who was faithful in a online relation many years...so...definitly is cheating.
@magsburg (88)
• Canada
22 Apr 09
I agree with you that the ease with someone can hid their true character online is a factor that can make online dating dangerous. However, people do get murdered when they have relatiohnships offline as well. If a person is honest, then they won't be able to hide who they truly are wether they are on or off line. Converselhy, if a person is dishonest, then they will be able to give you a snow job wether they meet you on the internet or in person.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
I guess, it will depend on how you treat and deal with the other person. If you know the limits or if you treat it as mere conversations or pure sharing of thoughts then it is not cheating. It is different if you entertain the other's intimate motives. Let us say, the other person suddenly gives you signs of flirting and you exchange flirting languages, then it is an introduction of or will lead to cheating.
If you set your mind that there is limitations then, it will be far to cheating. Unless, you set your limitations yet you disregard it, I think you are letting or allowing yourself to the idea of cheating eventually.
As per my experience, I have online guy friends. Most of their intentions are the same. They want more than friendship. I am committed to someone else. I would always set my limitations. Every time I meet someone online, I would talk it out with my boyfriend. I want him to trust me, which matters.
@magsburg (88)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
I think that in my previous coments, I've touched on most of the points that you have made. I would, however, like to thank you for re-adressing the issue of limitations and bounderies. In earlier coments, I pointed out that partners need to discuss eachother's bounderies. But I failed to deal with the fact that each person needs to set boundery lines in his or her own mind and determine, in his or her own heart, not to cross them. Thank you for focussing our attention on this extremely important point.
@rychelle314 (285)
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22 Apr 09
My ex-boyfriend used to solicit "cam fun" online and I discovered it accidentally... that hurts.
I reckon if it's something you are not prepared to discuss with your partner and if it's something that would hurt him/her, then yes, there's something wrong with it.
@praseeda2 (15)
• India
22 Apr 09
Yes it is really cheating his/her partner.
There are lot of guys/girls who used to do vulger chat.
Actually they are not doing anything physically but everything they are sharing in their chat.
Its really a cheating of their real partner.
Can't we do anything for this?
How to punish these people in their life?
@magsburg (88)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
Much as we wuld like to punnish these people, I really don't believe it is necessary for us to do so. After all, when their partners find out, that can be punnishment enough. However, you have reminded me of a segment that used to be on one of our local radio stations. It was called war of the roses. Have you heard of it? It was designed to help women figure out if their men were cheating on them or not. The women would call the dgs up and tell their stories on the air. Then, the djs would call the man at home or at work or wherever. They would tell the men that tey had won a huge bauquet of roses in a free give away, or promotion, or contest, or whetever. They would tell the guy that he could send the roses to anyone he wanted to, and they would make the card up right there and deliver them personally. If the man said he wanted to send the flowers to the woman who had called into the show, then he probably wasn't cheating. However, most of the time, the guy would say he wanted to send the roses to another woman. See, he would say who he truly wanted to give the flowers to because he didn't know that his partner was on another line listening in. Hahahahahahahaha!
@pitstryke (310)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
i consider that it is cheating if you have relationship with someone else and then your seeing or chatting somebody and having intimate relationship. Even if it is through the internet only.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Seeing someone online as to fool around by typing, or he ask her out by taking initiation? Both situations are different in nature. You know man always want to fool around on the net. They might just do it for fun, not in serious. If they willing to take a date to ask this particular person out, he is cheating. That is what I think of it.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
When you say you're in a relationship, that means a commitment. And if you're seeing someone on the internet, for the same reason, thats cheating, yes, not only with the one you are committed but both. But for some reasons, let say, there are some things which you could not confide with your someone psersonally, and you found another one whom you can say everything at ease because you haven't meet her, your not cheating. There were times that we just enjoyed talking to someone that could satisfy our boredom, but doesn't mean you like her. For you, better make some analysis. You might just found a friendly confidant in the internet, if you think that this affect your feeling or relationship, better weigh both, and come to immediate result before it's to late.
@magsburg (88)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
You've made some extremely good points here. I especially agree with you when you speak about comitment. When you chose a person with whom to have a relationship, you are choosing a potential life partner. So, here's a question. Why would anyone make any kind of a serious commitment to someone to whom you did not feel comfortable talking about each and every single aspect of your life?
@dianmelydia (2269)
• Indonesia
21 Apr 09
Everyone have their own privacy, even on marriage couple. As long as it doesn't hurt your couple, i think it's not cheating. But if you talking about something intimate, or you clain yourself as single person, that is 100% cheating. Sometimes because of a chance on the internet chatting room, we could fall into a flirting with other person. So it's better to be honest with both your beloved one in real world and with your cyber friends. Love is like fire, it will burn you if you playing with it.
