Is money a big issue in a relationship?

It's good to make sure that both people are entertained, feeling good about themselves. However, in my relationships money only becomes a problem when bills aren't getting paid and needs aren't getting met.

i think a couple has to comprimize over things like this if possible. sometimes it is not possible. u just make me glad i don't have to do that. lol

Hi mermaidivy, I think for starters, even being opposite in the saver-spender dilema it's a different situation with every couple, what they have to put up against, where they live, how they were raised, educated money wise, what they would consider priority after getting married/living together. Money will always be an issue, but I'm not saying it's bad, money isn't everything, but it's definitely something wee need to live, and I'm not being philosophical about it, just being realistic. Whatever each one spends on things that the other one considers unnecessary will always create something to talk about, it can be worked out of course, but it's going to be like trying to re educate somebody, make a commitment for something they're not used to. But at the end, it's either you do something about it and cooperate or keep your ideals straight as you've always and see what happens.

Hi mermaid...Yes we've quarreled over money. But we come to an agreement and that's that. It's better to have an open and honest conversation when you're first beginning your relationship so that everything is out on the table, so to speak.

I don't think money is a so big issue in our life.it's only a tool to make our life happier.it can not be our target.the man who aim at earn a lot of money and do nothing about the society or other meaningful undertakings is a man without hope.

First of all in a relationship must have respect and love... After that it still other things that are not the primary but are super important, these are money. When money missing from a relationship, love and respect pass to a less important, this should not be so but this is reality, I am suer 90% of people here that feel the same???

Hello mermaidivy, I am a spender and my husband is a saver. Definitely we did argue about it many times before. He thinks I spend too much and I think I don't spend for unnecessary stuff - most of the times when I spent, I spent stuff for him and our son. Whenever I buy something for him, he will be glad but when I start to complain about being over the budget, he will blame me for spending!

Well money I guess is an issue in a relationship and that is part of reality. We can't resist or avoid money issues but we can always find ways to settle them and set rules for both of you and your partner so that it will not become a part of the many issues that couple consider as a problem. For me money matters because we all need money to survive and almost everything in our daily life is composed of money. Money becomes a problem when a couple do not communicate their beliefs about money to one another. It becomes a problem when they do not talk on how they should spend and to what extent. I myself admits that I am part of it. The good thing is I and my husband agree on most things. We only spend money if we need to buy important things especially food and everyday needs. He is the one who is working and so I feel shy to spend too much. I do not spend more for my own wants but more to our son's needs. I promise myself that when I have work again I will share him with the expenses in the house. There may be some things that we do not agree with the way our partner spends but constant communication and "compromising" with each other will make a big difference. Most couples who set rules on their spending ways tend to have lesser arguments with money matters.

I think it depends on what kind of relationship you're in. If you're married, then YES - money is a HUGE issue, because really - both of your separate finances kind of meld-together when you get married - and you both have to (or SHOULD, anyway) make all financial decisions TOGETHER. Both spouses need to WORK TOGETHER to make their finances work, that's the magic of it all. And plus, here's a scenario to think about: a married couple have a credit card together (that they both pay off - together), and the woman spends $500 on a new pair of shoes without consulting her husband and deciding as a team. I would find this to be definitely a step in the WRONG direction. Once you're married - your lives (and that includes your finances, too) become one. So it's only fair to say that money is a HUGE issue once you're married. But if you're not married or in a serious life-long relationship, money shouldn't really matter too much. If your finances are still separate, then each person should be able to spend their money as they choose and without worrying about what the other person thinks.

i think its a serious issue in relationship. in some relationship or marriage break up are causes by wrong manage of finances or poor income. i think it is very important that you have a good conversation and agreements when it comes to fiances every couple should. happy posting!!!

I sometimes argue with him about money. We both are unstable financially. Starting last year, every month we had to borrow money from relative to support our daily life but not too much, since we gradually decreasing our debt. Sometimes, we don't eat lunch for days to save money for car fuel. Luckily we both are saver. The only time I'll argue with him is when he buy lottery ticket when we only have little money to hold on. Then he'll feel sorry and apologizing to me. haha@!

we have argued about money but not about the lack there of it, we argue because my wonderful husband puts money before everything, it is the most important thing in his life and it gets old.

yes thats the number 1 reason for fighting in relationships and i thought it was kids

Some may say it's not, but the reality is that money is a big issue in a relationship. Money makes the world go round no matter what. If you don't have money, you can't enjoy the smallest things in life.

Yes it can be an issue but not a big issue for me. my wife and i agree on most things. we don't let money be a source of quarrel or something. we don't spend too much on insignificant things like clothing, bags, shoes or whatever. we would just acquire things for our one month old baby or save it to the bank for our son's future.