How many times do you say "i love you" to your loved one everyday ?
By vivianchen
@vivianchen (2646)
China
April 22, 2009 12:55am CST
Hey,my friends.
I know you all comes from all over the world. Some of the people say "i love you" quite offen, some don't. Take me for example, i am from China. We don't say " i love you " much. In the past 25 years, i never say "i love you" to my mom or to my dad. I mean we do love them from the bottom of my heart, but we just don't used to say it. Even to our lover, we can write or type i love you, but if say it face to face, we kinda feel embarrassing. I don't know why and how does this happen.
I saw the people on the movies, the parents say i love you to their kids, kids say i love you to their parents, lovers say i love you to each other every day. I envy them.
So, have you ever say ILOVEYOU to someone? How many times do you say iloveyou to your loved ones every day?
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
23 Apr 09
Hi there. I think he would love to hear those 3 words from your mouth. Lots of people thought other people can feel those 3 words from their action. But sometimes words are more improtant than actions.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Apr 09
Hi there, i think you love your daughter more than your husband! Just kidding, they are the same important to you. They are lucky to have a such good mother and good wife.
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@silverjam (969)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I guess we're quite similar; I never used to say I love you to my family or loved ones and even w/ my ex before. We just don't raised that way although we love each other a lot. It's quite different where I am now. Here in the USA people used to say I love you quite often. At first I felt a little odd doing that everyday but my husband is so affectionate and saying I love you many times a day seems a routine at home. I guess its almost a hundred times in a day since he always call me at work 4-5 times a day just saying those words and many times at home even when just nothing special, I love you is a regular daily part in our lives and am used to it by now.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
24 Apr 09
Hi Silverjam, you should be prond of your husband. He does love you and he says i love you to show his love. I agree that when you first do that, it's always hard to say it, the more you say, the more you will feel it's nature.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
24 Apr 09
Hi Sqishy,
That's very sweet of you guys. Wish you all the best!
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@Dragonfly4life (35)
• United States
23 Apr 09
My Husband and I tell each other throughout the day. My Mother and I did each time we spoke on the phone and I was so glad we did. She was rushed to the hospital and was unable to speak before she passed, but I still had the last conversation with her ending with "I Love you, honey", ringing in my ears. There could have been no greater gift - to me that left nothing unsaid between us and I knew that somehow I was going to be okay. Life is so unpredictable.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
24 Apr 09
Hi Dragonfly4life,
I am sorry about your mom. We love you, honey. Be strong. Take care.
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@denisedora (190)
• United States
22 Apr 09
well for starters i tell my kids i love them everyday before they go to school and every nite before they go to bed. I tell them i love them often and when they day they love me. I tell my fiance' and i tell eachother we love each other through out the day. One of my worst fears is that God forbid something happen to my loved ones and I did not get that last I love you in we should tell our family and friends we love them as much as possible daily.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Apr 09
Hi Densiedora, so you really can't count how many times you say i love you in one day, right? You can say it as much as you can. That's very nice. God will always bless those good people.
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@denisedora (190)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Not really but I do say "i love you " alot to my family and frienz. It's important for them to know they are loved sometimes just the one lil I love you will fix everything and make them realize they are not alone with all the stress of the world. I know when I am stressed and my family or friends say they love me it always make me feel better.
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@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
I can totally relate to you, maybe that is because of the Chinese culture not to get too emotional,those there are some that I know who are sweet to their family members. I don't say "I Love you" to my parents either nor do they say the same to me. But my husband and I, we made it a point to be verbally expressive to our kids and to each other. Sometimes we still have to say the words as affirmation to the things we do for our loved ones. I say "I love you" to my husband and kids at least once a day.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Apr 09
May i ask if you are chinese? Because if you are chinese and you can say i love you to you husband and kids, that's a big progress, i am sure i will do that with my kids and my husbands in the future.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Apr 09
Wow...That's very sweet of you. i am sure he will feel your love deeply.
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@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
22 Apr 09
i say it to my son several times per day and i hug and kiss him too as i believe human physical contact is so important to impart a feeling of well being and calm and security. it also shows love and nurturing and i think if more people showed their love instead of thinking they have to hold back it would be a better world. people, especially children need to know they are loved and they need to feel secure. i love you is nice to say and should be said but they are just words and how you treat a person is important too.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
23 Apr 09
Hi Mikeysmom, i am 100% agree with you, with the hug and nice words, not only kids, even adults, they will feel they are important to someone and they are loved. That actually create the better world.
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@icegermany (2524)
• India
22 Apr 09
it is a good thought and observation, no even we dont tell í love you´regularly or frequently wheather it is a parent or a husband. it is very rare i tell i to my husband and even he but i dont think i have ever told it to my parents. i think it depends on the family people like in my family we dont do that we respect and also love our parents but we never tell i love you instead i think there are more oher ways to make them feel our love and affection towards them and caring. remembering and wishing their birthdays, surprising them, helping them when they are lonely and all will express this and they understand how much we car for them and i think it is not important to tell them i love you. each one have a different way to express their feelings but i love you is not common to us.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Apr 09
Hello Icegermany,
I think you are very right. Although we don't say i love you, but we can show our love by actions. That's what most of poepl do in China i believe.
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@bluangel628 (383)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
I know it's kind of exaggerated but I say "i love you" in every chance I get. My partner also does the same thing. Every text message we sent to each other, two or three lines of that message contains two "i love you". I hope both of us won't change the way we are because I find it sweet and very touching.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Apr 09
Hey, i felt touched when reading your message, it's so nice that you know someone loves you and you have someone to love to.
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@abhichat1980 (250)
• India
22 Apr 09
Well frankly speaking I have never kept a track of how many times I say I love you a day. But whenever I speak with my family these three magical words generally comes out quite impulsively at the end of the conversation. Ok let me give some background I live in a different city currently due to my job and my parents family they stay in another city ..... so I kind of miss them. They will be joining me after some time but today we are quite a distance apart ..... so I guess it's very natural to end the conversation with I Love You and Take care.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Apr 09
Hi Abhichat1980,
Thanks for sharing with us. I know the feeling of being missing someone that is not in the city. I am working in one city, and my parents living in the other country. But it's still hard to say i love you or i miss you to them every time we talked on the phone. I just told them take good care of yourself, don't worry about me, stuff like that.
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@angel_rain (271)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I say I Love You to my kids as often as I can,with my parents I kinda not tell them face to face but show it in my actions and by giving them gifts.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
24 Apr 09
lol...Sweet! In China, most of us don't say i love you to our parents, but there is a saying to the boys" when you have a wife, you forgot your mom!"lol....i am sure you have good kids. You should be proud of them.
@angel_rain (271)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
Yeah!My kids always say I LOVE YOU back at me,sometimes they are the ones saying the words and I'll answer them.But I always tell them this joke "You say you LOVE me but I'm pretty sure when you will have a girlfriend or wife you will totally forget saying these words to me".And they will always say they will LOVE me more,but time will tell if what they say is true.LOL!
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@valerya89 (1)
• Norway
22 Apr 09
Hi, i say I LOVE YOU lots of times a day! To my husband and my mother sometimes! So i'm a person who says that important phrase everyday of my life! Call me whatever you like, but i am just like that!
Cheers!
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
23 Apr 09
Hi Valerya, i like that! I wish i can hear as much as possible i love you from my loved one.
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@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
23 Apr 09
My children and I say I love you to each other every time we see each other and at the end of every phone call. I'm not sure when it started or even why, but I love the thought that they do love me enough to express it every time we speak and see each other. Only my oldest daughter doesn't say it every time, unless I say it to her first. I have 4 grown children and my oldest grand daughter is 13, and most of the time when I have talked to her on the phone, she will also tell me that she loves me.....not all the time, like her mom, but most of the time.
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I know that she loves me, but there has always been friction between the 2 of us, but she is never hesitant to ask me if she needs a favor!! I am watching her 3 girls for the weekend!! I have no doubt the love is there, she just doesn't express as often as her siblings do.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
24 Apr 09
Haha,,,,,i think your olddest daughter love you as other memeber of the family do. She might just think that you've hear enough iloveyou everyday and she does not need to repeat it and you should know it. I am just guessing.
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@youless (112489)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Apr 09
I am also from China. And you are right, it seems that it is too difficult for us to say "I love you" to anybody. I have never said that to my parents. Although I love them very much. But I still tend to hide my emotions. I even hardly to say it to my husband. I occasionally say it to my child. But when he grows up, perhaps I will also say it less, too. Perhaps we have to change it and try to set free our emotions and be true to ourselves:)
I love China
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
23 Apr 09
Hi Youless, i love to see your last sentence! I think i saw it every time you post sometime, correct? Once i am in this trainning class, teacher told us to say i love you to our parents, i just so afraid to do that, i don't know why, i rather show my care and love by actions.
@frtwome (239)
• United States
22 Apr 09
I say "I Love You" to my husband a lot of times in a day. I grew up in a family that never said that to any of us kids. Even though I know that they did, it was just never ever said. It just wasn't a thing to say. But, I'm not like that, unfortunately I was never able to have children, but I can tell you that would not have been the case in our family. There would have been a lot of I Love You's in our home.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
23 Apr 09
Hi there, i am sure there will be a lot of lloveyou feelings in your family.
@yuguoli (83)
• China
22 Apr 09
Hi, my countryman. lol. It's just the habit for you NOT to speak I LOVE YOU quite often but, you know, we just have plenty of habits in different areas. Besides, people differ since we're from each area and we have our own style, right. According to my knowledge, I know there're more and more people around me saying I LOVE YOU quite often. And to tell you the truth, I wasn't before. But now I become increasingly ACTIVE to say I LOVE YOU to my girlfriend (including texting her a great) but I never speak to my mom and dad. I am just afraid of their shocking, lol. Maybe some certain day, I would say to them. You know, normally in China, feelings are not easily revealed. As for the one for me, I would say to her for the rest of my life.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
23 Apr 09
Hi Yuguoli. That's very nice that you say i love you to your girlfriend. She is a lucky girl. I believe that people always wants the things that they never gain before. As we never hear i love you from our parents, we will definitely say it to our kids when we have one. Do you agree?
@yuguoli (83)
• China
23 Apr 09
Yes, totally agree. Not only she's luck but also I'm lucky to meet her now. lol. As you said, one gains things and forgets and just ignore them. I don't quite like the way we treat them. We must love the things we have. By the way, love is not the thing that could be owned by each one. It is a thing we cherish and care. Maybe when I get a kid, I would teach him/her to express the feelings of love. You know, not only words but also conducts. It's still a dream for me to achieve, so let's cheer up and be expective, and the most important thing is we gotta try hard. Happy mylotting, pal.
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