How important is it that your child has good grades in school? Why?

I feel that they are important. I know what my kids are capable of and I want to see them excel. Later on, when theyare ready to go to college, their academics as well as sports and other school related activities can not only help them to get scholarships, but also to get better jobs. A lot of times, a potential employer will look at transcripts and see what type of grades we got and what activities we were in to determine how well we can organize time. I know that my kids all have their own areas that they struggle in, and those are the areas that they concentrate on the most. Academically, my kids have gotten As and Bs so far, and whether I push them to do their best or not, they continually do it themselves.

I totally believe that grades are important in school. it helps kids to stay focused and actually learn more. If they are getting good grades they are learning material and using it in their lives on a daily basis without even knowing it. I graduated from college two years ago, and when I first went away to college I wish I would have done better in high school because scholarships actuallly pay off alot! Being focused in school helps prepare for college and helps kids to be focused ons chool incollege. dont make them stay home on a friday night because of homework, but talk to them...dont just push them...discuss it and let them know why it is important.

Though good grades are not very important to me, I do expect a 'respectable' grade from my kids. I believe it's more important to be a good human being with character rather than getting good grades at school. I've told this to my older son since he was four. My younger son is just 3 and not old enough for us to be worrying about his grades. But the older one has always been getting good grades and topping his class in almost everything he does....which I agree is a good thing...but I don't give importance to that either. I just tell him to do the best he can and be good.

I believe that if we show our children good examples of life as they're growing; how to do their best at everything they do, that, as long as they try their best it doesn't matter what grade they get. If for some reason they don't get a passing grade that just means that they need a little help. With my son, CJ, he just turned 11 and several mylotters know that he has high-functioning Autism. He tries as hard as he can at school and I help him at home. He's managed to stay on the High Honor Roll all year round; he's having an Academic Awards Ceremony tomorrow which I'm going to go to and record. There are times when I do push CJ because I know he's not trying; sometimes it's because he's tired and other times it's because he just doesn't want to do the work. He knows that I'm proud of him no matter what...Just giving his best!

i has thinking much about this, what we learn in the school, and they really useful for us in the future. i should said, we just use those information less that 50%. but we really don't know what happen in the future, what is the job we get in the future? beside if we really has a good grades in the school, the human brain will smarter. my parents always force me to has a good grades, but sometime they told me not to force it.. if you can't do that, it's ok hehe

I think good grades are important but grades is not everything, If my kids kids already study their best but their grades still not good, I think we have to respect their effort, its the matter of proses not mark. I really love to see my children enjoying what ever they do, even to study. so I don't have to push them to the do their homework. But good mark or bad mark I still love them, because I believe every kid have their own potential and talent.

It depends what the child wishes to do when they leave school. It's not so much important to us, the parents, that the child gets good grades. It's more important to the child themself, to get the grades required for their future education and job requirements. If they want to progress enough, then they'll get the grades but if pushed into something they're not all that interested in, they'll lose concentration and flunk anyway. Of course it's important to the go-getter child to achieve good grades, or to at least aim for them. Brightest Blessings.

Miamilady , this was very very important to me; but I take solace in the fact that I was sensitive to my child's mood and was with him[helping him practise his Math, spelling,everything when he was a young child.In fact, even when he was in the ninth standard I sat with my fatherinlaw to revise my forgotten Algebra and Trigonometry and helped him get back his topper grades[I used to practise Math with him half an hour every day.] I am basically a home maker though by God's grace I became very popular as a tuition teacher to senior students--I took this up after my son came to ninth standard.Till then, my primary aim was to take care of the development of my child.Only thing is that I did not put any pressure.He is a naturally gifted child and it was easy moulding him and helping him to achieve his full potential without much pain for himself.I was with him through and through in his music lessons too.But it was more of participation and discussion than pressurising.He himself would say that. After he came to his higher level, I did not know too much of his subject but even here I have taken down notes for him when it was something descriptive. To your question--grades are important but this must be based on a realistic expectation of the student's potential whether he is your own child or not.As a teacher I knew the risj involved in poor grades. I n our country without good grades entering an institute of repute is far fetched.SElf financing colleges do not offer the same quality of education and future prospects as some premium institutions, where it is a matter of merit.

With CJ being Autistic and all it's so nice to see an 'A' from him. We work at home after school for an hour and he usually loves it. As long as he is trying his best I don't mind if he doesn't get an A or B...He's doing so good though; been on the High Honor Roll all year so far and I'm really proud of him. But I've told him to just take his time and do his best and I'll still be proud of him no matter what.

My daughters don't go to school yet but I do want them to have good grades and its very important to me. I want them to have a better education then I did. I have started working with them already. My 3 year old loves to play school and she just got accepted to the local school for pre-k. We don't know if we can afford it just yet. I do have a feeling we won't b/c my husband makes too much money. So I will go and buy a workbook from walmart and start doing kindergarden with her. We are almost finished the preschool book. It would be nice for her to interact with other kids in a school setting and get use to not being with me but if it will cost us $350 a month then we won't be able to pull it off.

I feel That making school a priority and extremly important necessity, has produced a strait A pre college class taking 17 year old. I never really pushed her. I just stresses the importance of doing the very best you can so that you get all the advantages...i.e. scholarships, good college opportunities, etc... She does most all her own work without being told to do any of it. She has pretty much since about 2nd grade. I think some parents do push and it isn't good. Having good grades is important for the reasons listed above never mind the advantages to learning in general. If I had to do school again I most certainly would have done my best and focused more on school and less on the scocial aspect.

It is very important becuase a person spends half of his/her married life in the way of his/her kids. just imagine u being a father or a mother. You would feed them, give them nice clothes to wear, give them their personality, and teach them how to walk. You teach them that their main aim is to achieve education and call themselves a confident person. But still getting bad grades in school would definitly upset the parents...

If a child gets good grades, it could only mean he is good at memorizing. I think it's more important for a child to get a well rounded education including music, art, physical education, creative writing, and other subjects. Unfortunately, all these type classes are being eliminated and schools are pushing children to learn how to pass tests. I read where many businesses now want employees with liberal arts degrees because they can "think and create." Business degrees often only teach the student to learn what everyone else knows. Children should enjoy learning and be allowed to make mistakes. So many children are fearful of trying anything new because they won't get a "perfect" score. We are children for such a short time and adults for such a long time. Good grades are important, but not as much as the process of learning, thinking, and creating. Let kids be kids.

You're not off base, it is important for children to get good grades. There's a difference in being over bearing and encouraging.We want them to do their best if that means they received a C on a test this time instead of an A then so be it don't punish them. You should definitely keep them reaching for the best they can do the grades (GPA) is so important to even get what some might call medioca jobs.

It is not the ultimate to me. I have only one child and I want him to grown up more as a complete human being than professionally successful and he is going to have only one childhood and I want him to have happy memories of it. Regarding grades at school I have two views on it. One is that some children are born super intelligent (I wont say genius) and they love studying or a particular subject. My son is neither. Secondly, there are parents who push their children into the rat race (sorry, not meaning you) with mixed results. Some children do excel, some do not and are pushed further. This does not mean that they have sad childhood or become mad, in many cases it does tap the hidden potential of the child. In my case, I have specified that I want grades not less than B…it can hover between B & A i.e. 70% - 80% with bursts of excellence in his beloved spelling & dictation, English and History. He invariably scores A+ (90%) in these. So my point is, I know my son…he is intelligent and blessed with superb good and is doing OK and at 9yrs, is not going to appear for any deciding exams (like 10th or 12th or grads)…so why push him unnecessarily and spoil for him the fun of going to school? When the going is good, I don’t want to make it better or best and risk my son’s mental and physical health in the bargain.

I don't have children, but I do have parents. I think they put a little too much pressure on us about grades. Everyone has different learning styles. In my case, i had a hard time functioning in school with so many others around. I would have done better in a smaller class. I think kids should do their genuine best, and parents should be happy.

for me it was just important that my son did the best he could, not everyone is a genius.

Its very important to me that my kids have good grades..My daughter is a straight A Honor Roll student but my son tends to slack off and thats just not acceptable to me....I dont by any means expect him to bring home all A's like his sister does but C's and D's and lower is NOT working for me...and when it happens (and it has a couple times) he is punished...He's in High School now and his grades WILL count when it comes to finding a job, or getting into a good college etc so yes I'm anal about it..Especially since I KNOW he can do the work he's just being lazy.... I dont have a H.S diploma and back in the 80s it was hard to find a job if you werent in school or didnt have a diploma...its even harder now and more so here in the U.S..I'll be damned if my kids are going to take the same road I did and end up doing not so pleasant jobs or even illegal ones ya know..that aint happening! I dont want my kids to struggle like i did..

it is important of course, specially if we pay a lot at the school we expect our children to do well. but we should think also that children are not the same. there are kids who are more intelligent than others, and we parents needs to observe what kind of student our children are. i have four and as far as i observe two of them are studious, the other one average and the other one needs help and guide. so for them to excell we need to be guiding them the right way

I don't really get on my daughter about her grades. I do care that she puts in her best effort. I don't expect her to excel in all areas....who does. Certain classes come very naturally to her and she does really well with little effort. Others...well, I expect her to do her best. Some subjects just don't come easy to her. She is good about doing homework and being involved in school. She is a good kid and I don't think that hounding her about a low grade in history is going to have any positive effect on her. I hated that subject so so much in school. I now enjoy reading about historic events...go figure. I think much was the way the class was taught.