Toddler putting down sibling... help!

thats really hard one because everychild is differnet,she could say it more in looking for a reaction,my younges is turning 3next month and he has picked up a few words mainly the female dog word because my hus band likes to call me the b word alot.he started it last week and the first time he said it i put him in a time out chair for 2mintues and told him no he hurt mommys feelings,but he continued it,so i just ignored him and gave him no reactian watsoever,today so far he hasnt said it once and yesterday it only came out twice:D but i gues that might not work for every child,i would def try the timeout chair a minute,but i guess to your oldest will have to try her best to not let her little sister know its gettting to her caue then the youngest is gonna think its more funny and jsut keep doing it.i think maybe if u can get your oldest to try and show no reaction she will get bored of it soon enoguh

I think you are doing good putting her in punishment every time she uses those words. She may not realize it yet that those are hurting words but when she does, she will definitely remember why she has to go to be in the "naughty square". Maybe, your kid was just fascinated by the sound of the words. Children sometimes learn new words that kind of stuck with them and they just want to say such over and over again. But still, you have to make the right move and show her that those are still bad words.

toddler picks things up very fast from adults and they will definitely mimicking whatever adults are doing or saying... so i can't blame your 3.5 y.o. daughter for doing that because she is picking it from adults... all you can do is to keep on telling her over and over again that it is not nice and stop saying those words... may be punishing her by taking away some of her privileges (things that she loves) might work such as her favourite toys, foods, TV time, shopping time, etc... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

Has your older daughter tried crying to get the point across that it hurts to be called names? If not, that might do it. Children pick up on what they see and hear no matter how well we try to behave and she would have heard it eventually anyway. You might explain to her that you were wrong but the drivers couldn't hear what you were saying and if they could you wouldn't have said those things. Still doesn't make it right but maybe she'll understand. I'd go for the crying, though. If that doesn't work, you do the crying and tell her how much it hurts to see your two daughters acting that way. It worked on my boys when they were little!

I can understand that completely. First thing, is don't let your 3 year old hear that kind of language on tv. The way it was being preceived was a joking around. She doesn't understand the full concept the word. It is very true that ignore a behavior and then she'll realize that she's not getting her sisters goat. I think instead of punishing her with a time out - next time your 6 year old comes to you to tell what she said. Direct your attention at your 6 years old. Give them a hug and tell them you're sorry that your sister hurt your feelings - then think of something you too can do together. Make a cake or do something together. Make sure the 3 year old see all of this and when she wants to join in, tell no because you called your sister a bad name. Sounds harsh? No, I think she'll remember it because not only is she being left out of something, she's learning when you're mean to people that people don't want to be around you.

As everyone has said, children (of all ages) pick up words, habits and actions from what is going on around them. We can all try to be model parents but in reality not everyone can be "perfect" twenty-four hours a day. If being put on the naughty square or being told that their words are hurtful isn't working, then maybe its time to resort to the "removal of privileges" stage. When nothing else is working with mine I move to loss of a favorite television show (or something along those lines) until an apology is made. If the behavior continues then the next time there is no turning it back on, they miss it completely. After a few times they realize their actions are causing them a problem and it is less likely to happen. Of course all kids are different so you have to find the privilege that will most make your point and go with it. Works for mine anyway.