Marriage

Marriage is a greatest relationship that exists on earth. You have already stated the key ingredients of the recipe called Marriage. I would like to go about just one important point. The main element that separates success from failure in marriage is whether you can resolve conflicts or not. The bottom line is that unless the two of you are robots or doormats, there’ll be times when you disagree and times when these disagreements cause tension and pain. Successful couples keep communicating, no matter what may be going on between them. They negotiate differences and disagreements so that they both end up getting something that is important to them. They smile and support each other rather than nag and complain. They understand that loving is more important than winning. Thus, a married couple should know how to resolve their conflicts, and this will certainly act as a tonic for a long and happily married life.

You are quite correct that those things are vital and too many people think that love alone will be enough. It is not enough. Regardless of whether you marry or live together you need to learn to compromise and you need to know that you cannot change anyone. If you try it will ruin the marriage or partnership. If the person you are in love with has a habit that you cannot stand you are not going to stop it so you either need to learn to live with it in some way or do not get married. This is why I think that living together for a while to see if you really are compatible is a good idea. Weddings cost a lot of money. My nephew had been dating the same girl for 10 years and we all thought they were the perfect couple. They got divorced 2 years after the wedding. Her family was Maltese and there was never any chance that she could live with him to see if it worked. I was stunned when I heard they were getting divorced. 2 years is such a short time. I have been living with my partner for 5 years now, we are both older and since there will never be any children we see no reason to marry. We are not perfect and we both need our alone time to just do things, but we also respect each other and we have never had a fight. The reason is that we sit down and talk out any problems. I do not get offended when he says he needs time alone in the mornings to work through his accounts and things. I give him the space he needs. I have a bad habit of getting upset about things I cannot fix or do anything about. I know it bothers him but we sit down and talk it out. That is tolerance and it is very necessary in any relationship no matter how much you love each other.

All the things listed is really important in a relationship. God should be the center of every relationship, that when the other one is not balanced, God is in between you and He will be the one to help you get things balanced. Respect, trust and love is really linked to each other. You cannot say that you love a person when you don't have trust and respect to your spouse. Communication is also vital in a relationship. If food is needed by the body to be nourished, then in a relationship you need communication to grow. Most marriages are destroyed because of lack of communication from each other. The other one may think differently from the other. And when they don't speak up, it will end into mis- communication and hatred and pride comes along the way to let them not speak and forgive. If you love a person, you need to be honest and let your spouse also have the fun which means good sense of humor is needed. But don't forget to be romantic or please your other half. A thank you would be nice to say if she prepared food or cleaned the house, give her a kiss , a flower or just be expressive of how you love the person. Giving time for everything is also important. If you have free time meaning off day at work, spend those time knowing your spouse more. Have fun and settle for a date once a week for that good bonding.

I think one of the most important things is trust, after love of course, but I think that when you are able to trust somebody 100% then the rest of the things come easier. I've been with my husband for 4 years now and we love each other a lot but when our relationship really grew was when we were able to trust each other in every situation, specially because my husband is very jealous. But like everything it all depends on the people, because I think our relationship is very different from others because now most of the girls who are in their 20's are not thinking about settling down because also guys are not really into settling down either, but both of us were looking to settle down and I think that has a lot to do with the sucess of our marriage.

Although i'm not yet married i could say so that MARRIAGE is a sacred thing everybody should respect and valued. Why? simply because MARRIAGE is not a hoax. You can never spit out a hot rice when you get burned. You can never turn back time once you have said "I do". That's why each and evey one of us whould think a million times before we walk to the aisle or else take regret at the end. They should have love, trust and respect. A sense of humility while solving misunderstanding.

Although i'm not yet married, i could say so that MARRIAGE is a sacred that we should respect and valued for the rest of our lives. Why? simply because marriage is not hoax thing. This is the part of your where you really need to think a thousand times if you really want to be with your partner forever without any regret. In a married couple they should have an attitude of love, respect and trust. That's the most important ingredient of a happy marriage life. They should have a wide range of patience while encountering problems. A continue communication with a sense of humility to make every flow smoothly.

i think most of the things that people need in a happy marriage had been mentioned in your post... there is one thing that i think is missing though... TRUST... it is a big thing in a relationship... if you can't TRUST your partner, then your marriage can't be happy because you always have doubts in whatever your partner is doing... take care and have a nice day...

Marriage is everything. It takes a lot to stay being happily married. Trust your partner and communicate with him/her. Those two are very basic and the rest will just follow. Don't forget to seek Divine Providence.

I'm signal now, but I think marriage is an most important thing in life, it will change us a lot, making a happy marriage, they should love each other, and know each other well, as you said communication&support is really important.

I have a happy marriage although there have a few quarrel with my spouse.sometimes I told her that,'you must control your rude temper,or you would harm other people.'none of people except me will tolerate your fits.most of time she was not intend to hurt anyone.we love each other.

I dont know if those marriage couple will agree with me but the biggest factor why married couple are separating is because of not sexually compatible. Sad to say but this is true. Either one of the couple are having an affair because one of them cannot satisfy the other partner. So i would advice that you have to try some new things and learn some tricks on how to make your partner happy and satisfied. 2nd reason is money, they fight over money most especially when one partner dont have his or her own income. So i suggest most especially women, try to have your own money. Either you work or have your own business. to make your relationship work, whatever problems or challenges you have, make sure that the center of your relationship is our LORD. Pray to always guide you and your partner in everything you do. And to always talk but also listen to one another.

When I was getting married, our marriage councellor said one thing I have always kept in mind: 'A good marriage is made up of two good forgivers.' Obviously, being two different individuals, many times it gets tough, especially in the first year when you are getting to know each other. So forgiveness comes in very handy. Needless to say, love is number one! Love is what drives the marriage and even when your mate does something wrong, it is love that moves you to forgive. It is also love that drives you to not do what will hurt your mate and respect them.

The key to my marriage is that there are three people in our marriage, myself, my husband and God. We respect each other, we try to put the other person first, we are honest trustworthy and caring. We put God first in our life and in our marriage. That is what makes us a strong married couple imo.