OK 4 Girls ONLY~ Do You Really Have That Mother & Daughter Relationship?

First of all I don't think there is a perfect relationship between parents and children. Mostly becouse neither the child or parent is perfect. My relationship with my mother was never a good one. I love her and I think she loves me the best she can. That made me work harder when I had children to make it a good one. My oldest daughter and I talk every day about what ever it is she wants to and although part of me wants to freak out when she tells me things I don't becouse I don't want to shut her out. I always tell her when I don't agree with her but let her know that no matter what she is my baby and I will always love her and support her. I think that is about as close as we can get.

My mother just turned 67. I'll be 45 this month. Let me tell you, I don't know if such a relationship actually exists! When I was little, I was your typical "daddy's little girl". I don't really even have memories of my mom during those early years. My relationship with my Mom started to kick in when I reached college. I remember one particular visit from my Mom. I was living in a trailer just off campus. My mom stayed there while I attended class. I came back to the trailer to find my Mom going through my stuff. One of the things she had in front of her was a photo album of all my "party" pictures. You know....the typical college stuff. She actually asked me if "the cops had ever been called on me"! I couldn't believe it! At that point I told my Mom that she didn't know me or anything about me. She left. 5 hours later I got a call from her. She was crying saying that it was true. I was her daughter and she didn't know anything about me. From that day on, our relationship changed. We communicate more. Get more involved in each others lives. Support each other. Share dreams, hopes, fears, thoughts. We are closer now than at any other time in my life. It takes effort and a willingness to be open and communicate. I remind myself from time to time that my Mom was once my age too.

nope, nada, non, lol my mother and me... or rellationship is so tenuous. It's complex enough tht i can't explain it... and while she's a strong woman and everything. We've been through so much... but still our relationship isn't close anymore. She barely knows who i am, and doesn't take the time too... unless her female friends (my age) aren't around our house... then suddenly i'm remembered. Lol is not the same for my bro, and i guess habits of mine, and the fact we like different things - that i don't concede to her every opinion bugs her no end. She's my mother and i love her... but our relationship is mostly strained. Sad though, i do wish it could be different. Happy Mylotting

Ugh, no way do I have a relationship with my like I see on tv, where they call their parents their "best friend" and to be honest, I don't mind. My mom is more of a parent doing PARENTING. I always find it really weird when people share everything with their mom, I'm not sure why. It's like drinking and hanging out with your parents...that's way too weird for me. I don't want to share those experiences with my parents, ick, that's just way too creepy. My mom sounds a lot like your mom. She spends more time mentioning the negative things she sees in me rather than the positive. I guess that saying, "love hurts" stands true in that sense. I also have things my mom has done that I don't forgive her for, but I don't talk about it or deal with it. It's in the past and I'm willing to forget about it, even if I can't forgive. I still love and she's an amazing women who came here as an immigrant and raised my brother and I on her own. I love her despite her craziness. I'm happy that you've stuck with your mom and have found a way to be with her. Go you for not letting her get the best of you!

My mom and I have always had a very good relationship, it has not always been perfect but I would not change a thing about it. I love my mom, she is such a strong woman.

When I was in highschool I thought my mother just wanted to screw up my plans, but I always loved her. I just thought she didn't want me to have fun. Then I got pregnant, twice and started to realize everything she did and said was for a reason. I lost her when I was 23 and she was my best friend and everythingl We actually did have one of those relationships like on tv. Not over done thought but just very meaningful. I have never found anyone that would understand me better than she ever did.

I think my Mom and I have a relationship more like Roseanne and her daughters. We love each other but there's times when we get on each others nerves. It kills us when either one of us are sick or hurt and we're always there for each other. We've been through a lot of things in our lives together. I guess we're kind of dysfunctional at times but for the most part we're pretty good together. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

No, I don't. And honestly I haven't known very many people who have. But I have known a few and it is beautiful when it exists. My mom had four daughters and she does not have that 'mother-daughter-relationship' with any of us. She thinks she does with one of my sisters but she really doesn't. I used to be a daddy's girl when I lived at home. But when I came into my own, so to speak, it drove a wedge between us and I don't even have that anymore.

My Mother and I have the most screwed up relationship or if thats what you call it. I dont talk to her and she dont talk to me. We keep our distance. Her and i only talk if only we need something or have a question which isnt very often. But where as a lot of people might care weather or not the mother and daughter talk i dont. I could really care less to talk to her cause nothing i say or do is going to change the facts and nothing she says or does will change the facts. Yes i know that sounds mean but the truth is the truth. A lot of people try to make it seem like there mother and them have this awesome relationship when they really dont.

my mom and i is very close but i will not say its perfect because sometimes we have some differences but after a day we just left it and talk again. she is very supportive to me.

no me and my mom don't have a close relationship she only calls me when my brothers are doing something wrong and when i call her she only talks about my brothers . i just hope me and my daughter have a close relationship when she gets older right now she is only 11 months so she is to little ,

I would have to say no I don't have the mother daughter relationship with my mother.For one thing I have an older sister and my mother says she has no favorites but anyone who saw the 3 of us together they see differently.I just try to avoid spending time with my sister and mother together with me if I can.

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My 4 sister and I are very blessed to have a mother like ours. We know that she loved us from the very start and it will go on longer then that. She is always there when we need her and even when we don't. She has a lot of love to share and give. I thank God for blessing us with such a loving and dovoted mother like her. I hope one day that i can be a good mother like her one day.

My mother and I have a great relationship, though I can't say it's picture perfect as they make you believe from those tv shows. We've had our ups and downs threw out life, but that's whats made us so close. We work threw things together, and can meet halfway on everything. I know what my mother gave up for all of her kids when we were younger, and to me that is what makes her so special to me. My mother had always been very open and honest with all of her kids and still today, I can call her and talk to her about anything and everything and never feel like she's going to look down on me, or make me feel like I've messed up. I honestly don't think you will ever find that perfect mother daughter relationship anywhere.

my mom and i are very close, people think we are sisters. however she is a little shy but willing to talk about certain things, however i dont bother her if i dont have to. but trust trust me she is great.

Hi Ozakgirl, We are in the same situation! I can't believe we are so alike. I am the elddest in the family, i have a younger sisiter. My mom is kinda of people who likes to control another people, she wants everyone in the family following all her wishes or commands. If you did not follow hers, you are in trouble. Our relationship became really bad because of boufriend issue. She really likes a guy, and she wanted me to date that guy, that guy is actually likes me as well, but i don't have some special feeling on him, so i say NO to that guy. My mom got really angry that i did not listen to her arrangement, she thought that man is the right guy for me, but i don't think so, then i meet the one i like, and i am so afraid to tell her that i have my own boyfriend. Even though, now she knows i have my own boyfriend, she still compares those two, i got so mad sometimes she repeat the same topics! I do go to some therapy and learn that i should forgive her because what she did just because she loves me. But, it's still hard to get along with her really well. I am trying though.

Tv is not reality. My daughter and I have a very close connection. We enjoy alot of the same things even with our age difference. Most people would say she is a mini me, not just because she looks like me, but because we are one of the same. Every minute we spend with each other we always ahve tons of laughs and fun. Now I would say she is one of my best friends, but when it comes to that 'ole saying "tough love" it still applies. I have 2 other children, but are boys and my relationship with them is a bit different, but still close and they are my best friends as well. Daughters (and sons) are very precious gifts and should be cherished every second of every day.

My mom and I never have had a goof relationship. She was never around when I was lil because she was constantly working, so my grandparents took care of us. When I did see her, she was usually on the phone or sleeping. It sucks. I wish I did. I began to get closer to her when I got pregnant with my daughter. She was a completely different woman to me. So nice and sweet and helpful. She still kinda is and she tells me constantly to provide my daughter a better life than what she gave me. I thought everything was getting good and we were building our relationship, then she tells me she's getting married (this was like last month) to her boyfriend who I cant stand and that I was invite. I was with her when she picked out her dress, did all those try on's that you have to do, picked out her accessories, taught her how to do her hair, did her nails (and I hate feet, but I did it for her), and taught her how to do her makeup. A couple of days before her wedding I asked what hotel we were staying at? She told me oh your not invited. Now we really dont have a relationship. I feel so used.

There is nothing as perfect relationship, everybody have an ups and downs between mother and daughter. The misunderstandings are the sugar coat of making its bond meaningful.