What we can bring to a relationship.

Hello there pose. I indeed agree with you that in making and even maintaining good relationship, it needs awareness in order to avoid misunderstanding -. Carelessness in speech, action, and thinking usually leads one into trouble...

Let's look at what attracts you to a relationship in the first place. Is not that attraction in some way a benefit to you. Even a relationship in which you are going to be a giver. Aren't you receiving a benefit. In Most relationships between people, there is a giver and a taker, the ideal one is the flexibility to switch these roles as needed. Don't you think a giver needs to give as much as a taker needs to take?

In speaking of a romantic relationship between a man and woman, I think people depend too much on the other person for their happiness. I think of a mate as someone to compliment my life, not complete my life.

Indeed, a little contribution from both the parties can end up into something really nice and touching. I believe the first and for most thing that a relationship requires is a belief. A belief that you are with the person you think you are and if you can make a bit of an effort then it can be achieved.

what we can bring??ummhh!!we can bring some ice cream,cake,chocolate,candies and lot of sweet foods..ehehe

Pose- Another good topic! That's a very good question for new couples to ask themselves. My husband and I were friends for six years before we got married, and it was based upon a great deal of mutual interests, and respect for one another. When we counsel others on marriage that's one of the things we talk to them about. Rushing in without knowing or having a deeper connection with the person you are to be with could indeed raise problems. However, that doesn't mean things cannot work, if the couple is willing to strive to grow together. I do think you bring up some wonderful points about giving. In today's world it seems most people have been conditioned to "give me" rather than to give away. They are conditioned with the me first attitude and what can I get, and how can I get it. Having this different perspective in a relationship can expand to other areas of life, and yes it would make quite a difference. Namaste-Anora

This is why is so important to go slowly in any type of relationship ,so you can find out if that person is really your soulmate. A person who loves you will try to make you happy and not miserable. We need to concentrate in the inner beauty because this beauty remains with us forever.

Every relationship is composed of two sides...and each side should be in it to bring what they can.....understanding....patience.....humor....or that relationship will not be long...even here at mylot...sometimes you find a friend...answer their discussions then you never hear from them again....not response not responses to your discussion and I personally don't continue supporting their side when they are not supporting mine.....even in a marriage it's the same...give and take...take and give....

I had a story I was going to write here until I started typing. Not sure why I deleted it but well.... I did. Instead I'll say that you are very right. Because I entered my relationship with my hubby the way I did, for the reasons I did, I have gained far more then I would have thought or asked for. I wanted to help him, to be there for him, and in return he has given himself to me. I did go into our friendship with any motives but for him. At the time I didn't see anything he had to give to me, but maybe the friendship. Who could ask for more?

What a great topic!!!! That is exactly how I entered into my relationship...totally based on friendship. We actually never even thought about anything more than that until one day when we were talking. We were the closest of friends before dating which has really really helped our relationship. My only motives are to be there for him and to be a helper for him!