Is spying okay??

I think it would depend on how strong the suspicions were. It is not just a case of thinking he is cheating but you also have to consider both answers - you may be wrong and you may be right. If you are wrong and he finds out what you have been doing this will make HIM not trust you and if you are right then you also have to be prepared for this.

For me, spying on life partner is something unthinkable. Marriage is an institution built up on faith. If there is no faith or a partner is violating that faith, then the marriage is almost over.

No its not ok, It is like cheating your partner and it is like you dont trust him or her . I dont recommend spying . If you believe that he is good then he will be good . If you doubt him then you spy. doubting makes you depressed and curious every time in your relation ship.

Ithink that if you are reasonably sure that your partner is cheating you have every right to check it out. You had better be sure though. It could definitely cause a rift in the relationship if you are proven wrong. Our minds go wild with anger and hurt and we do things we would not normally do. Sad that people are so self serving that they would hurt and mame a relationship like they do sometimes.

i will do nothing .you must trust your pouse. then he will trust you. if you don't trust him. and always see what he is doing. or seek the things that he had done. that will not helpful for your marriage. just trust him.

Well not always but some where necessarily spying is good. it is good because we might get the person on a right track if he/she is goes wrong somewhere. spying too much without no reason is a very bad habit as it will give us a habit of spying on every single thing of that person and about everyone and thus trust or belief between the two breaks.

I know people telling that mutual trust is very important in love .BUt reality bites after all men are men they are easily pulled by temptation .So spying on men is justified .LOL

Spying is NOT OK. even if you have suspect your partner is cheating. Because spying is against the privacy law. If you really suspect that your partner is cheating you, just pray for it. You cannot just trust hearsay's. Just pray for GOD advice on what you should do. may ask yourself why does she/he do that to you.

Mercy yes you have to spy! If confronted a man/woman who is cheating is not going to come right out and tell the truth; lets be real. Those that cheat want their cake and want to eat it, too! If you do decide to spy, be prepared to be hurt if your partner is cheating and be ready to confront them with the truth that you have tangible evidence of their infedility. Then you can either end your relationship or try counseling. I've been on the end of the cheating husband and boy does it hurt! You feel as though you are inadequate in some way because you could'nt keep your partner happy. What a miserable, terrible time!

If you suspect your partner is cheating you to do everything to find out if that's true or not for your own peace of mind. For me I would check his phone and even set it with a tracking system so I would know where he is or if he say's he's at a certain place I would check it with the tracking system I embedded on the phone. I can even spy on him or pay someone to spy on him. I know in reality spying is not right because everyone has a right for privacy but if it concerns me I will break all the rules just to find peace of mind.

Hello Aprillyn; If I suspect my partner is cheating... What kind of relationship would that be, honestly? Honesty, integrity, communication. If I do run my life and any relatioship just on these three points and still find myself growing a suspicion that will not vanish (remember, I'm open, I do communicate), then I will certainly confront the person, husband or otherwise, and with notes I wrote to myself, I would take each incident and ask for clarification. Usually, an honest partner (in friendship or marriage) might be a bit ticked or annoyed but would definitely clarify. The culprits tends to blow up yelling and trying to make us feel in the wrong and some would even work toward making their wife, let's say, feels she's loosing it. Well. Now. It depends on the person. Some are prone to be the victim type. Others prefer not to do anything about it if the social position is an issue for them. They will suffer but will hide it. There are different scenario. Me, I divorced him... Simply because the honesty and the integrity within the marriage bonds was a one way street - mine. And it wasn't going to change. The lesson? That marriage wasn't meant to be. Now, I am in a much happier one. And it's a two way street. Nice. Hurray

I've been in a situation before that I did try to check this mobile just to make sure that there is no unfamiliar numbers registered on his phone. Once I caught him texting this girl and I saw it on my very eye... I asked him who was that and he just said nothing just a textmate...lol I tried to ignore it but every time his phone rings I was thinking that it was the girl. But as the day goes by they stop texting and my hubby even let me check his phone whenever it rings... lol

when that suspicion meter of mine is lighting red, i know there is something wrong. and i do a little spying... lol... my husband knows how i am into detective books, movies back before when he was still courting me. and i do love reading and watching those kinds. there was this instance when were still in college, we go to different schools. i dropped by his school as i know his schedule, i didnt told him im going there, spying was not my intention then i just wanted to surprise him, but the heck, i was the one who got surprised, of what i saw, although he wasnt doing anything wrong, i saw girls as his companies, sure did when he got back to their room and i followed (like spy now...lol), he was surprised to see me standing in front of their room... lol and boy his eyes, i was laughing so hard...

think it is okay.if you get got you are totaly screwed

i dont think you should be spending your precious time spying on your other half. i mean, if you suspect him cheating, ask him and let him know of your feelings. if he loves you he will not cheat on you and if he does do something stupid as that and you are able to catch him(without spying...) then you should break up with hiim already. there is no point continuing the relationship with a person who will just neglect and cheat on you.

I don't think I would do any of these things. I'm big on certain personal things even with my husband however we have a good relationship and I'd just ask. The trick would be to ask it when he was least expecting it and if he was cheating I'd know by his response. To be honest, we both work for the same company but in different cities however if there's something going on, I and everyone else would know about it. I have suspected I was cheated on by an ex, who broke the relationahip off with me to marry his ex wife however I caught him going through my belongings before I moved out of the house we shared and he had the cheek to play the victim!! Long story & I could go on about it all night!! I won't rant too much x Have fun Mrsl x x

even i won't spy my girl. if your case comes up to spying then i guess it's almost the end of your relationship. i have never been to this situation & i would never even want to be. the TRUST thing is very important, if it's not, then sorry THAT'S THE END.

i'm very good wife 2 my husband. but my husband always cheat me. i never thing that he have a scandal. when i check inside the car, i saw a photo girls with my husband. my heart is broken. now all my family became my spy.

I've gone through his phone, made phone calls to numbers I dont recognize. I've changed the passwords to his email so I can check it regularly. I cancelled his myspace... all of that. I even broke his sidekick in half. I couldnt get the truth out of him. He always seemed like a loyal guy and I just started having suspicions. It turns out he had only exchanged numbers with someone from his past and thats when I found out everything. He claims he wasnt honest with me about it because he didnt want me to over react. All I have to say is that if I didnt snoop I would have never known the truth because he definately didnt plan on telling me the truth.

i guess is okay in some events. desperate times calls for desperate measures haha