how to react to and deal with a jobless husband?

i can understand your situation, supposed to be, husband must be the one to find a financial solution to a family. it irritates you a lot of course especially if you going to bear a child soon and then there came your husband who does nothing but to ask questions on where to get money for the baby. if i were in your situation, it would be just the same reactions, i will get irritated and discouraged. so just be calm and dont let him feel that he has to work.

why doesn't your husband have a job?

i will be very pissed if i have a hubby like that... i can't stand a lazy person especially a man... he is the one who has to be a breadwinner and provide for the family... especially you are going to give birth soon and he is going to become a father... he has to be even more responsible... how can he ask you questions about bills while you are heavily pregnant like that??? that is beyond my comprehension... i will say a*s and ask him to start go out and earn some money... good luck for your pregnancy... take care and have a nice day...

Right now both my fiance AND I are jobless. There is absolutly no good jobs in our town and no one is hiering when we go to look for one. My fiance has had 3 or 4 jobs throug ha temp service last year but since they werent permanent jobs he was laid off within weeks from starting. He was in the Army for 7 years before I met him and was medicaly discharged from it so as of right now we are living off of his very small disability check. It is very hard and it does cause problems in our relationship but we are still trying all the time to find something.

i think it is better if u both can talk about it... maybe he is not aware that you are irritated with the situation... or maybe he just want to be told what to do... and maybe your husband is not matured enough to have such responsibility.. i got struck with your discussion because now i have a boyfriend who bacame disabled because of motor accident, so he cannot work at all cost.. so, is that the feeling i will have when i will marry him? before i read your discussion, i was being firm in my sef that im going to marry my boyfriend... and think that i would rather be with someone i love that go for some guy who have got financial stability.. now, im having my second thought already... do you think i can be strong enough to be the bread winner of my family? back to you now... you must be strong for your family... just let him know and have open communication with your husband than bearing the burden on your own... it for richer or for poorer right? gud luck.. and congratulations ith your coming baby.. may God bless your family.

I think you should confront him about not working. Tell him how you feel. Be straight up with him. If you do not do this the hate that you feel for him will get much worse and eventually it will destroy your marriage. Sometimes some men don't get the hints that women give them. They just need you to tell it like it is. Who knows you may ask him to help out financially and he may run out and get a job. If he gives you trouble and refuses to go to work; then I think you need to seriously rethink your marriage. It takes two to make a baby not one. He needs to help you. If he doesn't you can make it on your own. I have two children and I am a single mother. It will be hard, but you can make it. What ever happens keep yourself strong for your baby's sake. Good Luck.

it's okay for a husband to be jobless if he does household chores for you. but if he just sits around the corner and bugging you about expenses then i'd rather throw that husband outside the window. in the bible, the husband is obliged to do a living for a family.if he's not doing that for you, not this time if he's still haunting for a job, then just be patient. if he's the type that is really totally not in the right sense to help you in his own little ways then there is no use of living with him anymore. Since it is always the negative side that we constantly see for being a jobless person, lets examine also the positive aspect of it.Since there’s nothing much to do, you’ll beginning to construct new ideas and your creativity will comes in. Like being an entrepreneur, Ideas of small businesses you could put up. You could put up an online business or food cart business all you have to consider is your ingenuity. LET YOUR HUSBAND READ THIS.

there is no reasonw why he need to sit around all day and no nothing when there are so many ways to make extra money. time for him to be a real man and go out and try to look for a job well he's out there either cleaning people gutters out, cutting grass or cleaning someone car for them i cant stand a man who's complain about money but make no effort to try to do something to make it on his own..

you know, i can understand what you're going through because my husband has also been unemployed for years now after having a well-paying job abroad for many years before he was let go. Many times I feel all negative emotions -- anger, regret, resentment, hatred -- I would even like to scream, curse, break things, throw things. Were it not for my faith, for my daughter, for pity for this man and for the effect on both of our families, I could have left a long time ago. Sometimes I still feel the love, we still laugh together, but at other times I also feel like screaming to get out all the anger out of my system...Sometimes, if I'm alone in the room, I'd box the mattress will all my strength to let the anger out..... and then I pray for strength and grace. In these circumstances, only God can enable an individual to go beyond what any human can tolerate or accept.

Well right now i think you should not take any tensions, just see enough that you can handle your delivery expenses and be happy no matter waht the situation is because you gonna have a baby. Later on i think you should sit with your husband and have calm talk over the baby and the future. Make him realise his importance for you and for the baby and how difficult it will be if he does not work. I think he will understand once when the baby comes home. so just be relaxed and just think of the coming situation.

ehm its a worst situation.we need money for life and also in othersite we must understan its not easy to get a job.ehm..maybe try to discuss it smoothly.tell that you all need money,and try to make he will get a job soon.support him dont underestimate him.you must know actually he is stress about that situation too

He should do something.Anyway you can deliver at lesser cost in the governement hospitals

actually now a days we could see many of couples where their husband is jobless and the wife who have the job,its not an awkward when it comes to this,unless the man have pride for this matter,for me its okay if my husband don't have work unless if i am employed.