They dont want me to take my own daughter.....

Your life...your child....go and start over again....and they will come around..Don't let them con you into staying...there's a whole world out there waiting for you and I wish you much success at your new life with your daughter!

Go! This may be a great chance for you to improve your life and your daughters. It sounds like a good offer if they are willing to pay moving expenses and help you get an apartment. I could see your family helping you by caring for your daughter while you move but over all I think you should go for your future and your daughter's.

I understand your feelings, and the question I would ask is how much do you rely on family help right now? Will there be a way to fill that gap? It would be a good time to go, as you could set up a life before she goes to school and not uproot her. You also would not have to worry about the dad showing up unannounced for a year, plus. In what field do you plan to work. Is this legitimate. Check it out really well, first. I would suggest you hang on to custody, but build and present your future plan well.

Is this the same family that allowed your sister to call your 4 year old daughter those nasty, mean and downright untrue names? My best advice is to do what is best for you and your kids. I know some people cannot cope away from a support network when they have kids and others can. If you feel sure that you can cope and that you don't need more support with the kids then go for it! You are the one who knows you best and the only one who could make that decision. As for me, well I could leave my daughter for a week or two if it was for the best but definitely not indefinitely (I don't mention my son as he is almost 16 and would decide for himself!) Bear in mind how your daughter may feel if you left her for a long time too - she may well feel abandoned so would have to have things explained very well. Whatever you decide I wish you luck and love - please let us know how things go! xxx

Sounds to me like you got a good offer. Go. You have work, you need the money, go for it. Take you children with you. That is sad that people will say something like that to you. To want you to leave your daughter behind. That is crazy. It is different is you yourself found it better for your daughter to stay with family until there fathers gets out. But, when you feel you can handle it. Then do it. Don't let others control your life. I did that a lot, and I do regret letting others tell me what to do. I have made many mistakes because I listened to other peoples advice. Go for it! Good luck, wishing you all the best. Take care, have a nice evening.

Pack up, go and fix up with your family once you get there?

Family is like this at times, but the truth is, they really can't keep you or your daughter there. Your an adult now & your the mother, so do what you feel would better you & your child. I think you should... pack up, say your goodbyes & once you get to where you need to go, call your family, assure them things are okay. YOur family will adjust... They might just be doing this because they know they will miss you both & maybe thats just their way of trying to get you to stay?

Question-- Did 'they' give birth, or cause the birth of, the daughter in question?? No? I didn't think so. Pack up your kid(s) and move so you can give them a better life. It's selfish of these family members to want you to sacrifice your relationship with your little girl so their relationship isn't sacrificed. Lame. If they really love that little girl like they are portraying, they will send you off with the greatest blessings, knowing you are moving them away out of complete unselfishness. Did they bother to find out how you feel about this move?? It might be easier on everyone involved if the family is more supportive. Moving away from friends and family is one of our hardest obstacles, we don't need our loved ones putting up more bumps in our road. Obviously you're a good mom or you wouldn't be stressing about this. Remember that this is your decision, with or without their consent. How THEY handle YOUR decision will determine how soon and how often they are asked to visit, or how often you make it back home. Good luck.

Your family just doesn't want to see you go....they will miss you. You have to do what is best for you and your daughter. your family will get over it. I'm sure they will.

Oh Noh! what ever you do, don't move out of town with out your kid. who knows what kind of upbringing will they do to your child. or maybe even use you for their own money matter solutions. If you start sending money to your kid, i doubt they will give it to your kid and will take advantage of that situation. Just Take your kid and Go! . and don't look back, probably hire a helper or Baby Sitter.

Your family doesn't have custody of your children do they? They clearly don't want to be far away from the kids but you are entitled to a fresh start. I would pack up and go anyway; surely they will get used to the idea and come around sooner or later. I don't know you Bellasmama Tiff but you don't sound like someone who does not care for her children. I realise that it is a difficult situation because you care for your family as well and need their support. If I were you I would talk to them and explain that they don't have the right to say you won't take care of your babies and that at 24 you are a fully grown woman who can make her own decisions and that you would really love to have their support but you need to do this. I hope you work it out; keep us posted and good luck!

I say... Get moving woman!!! If the town as oppressive as you (sounds like the one that I live in) this may be the chance that you need to better provide for yourself and your daughter. Grandparents often say such things when they are saddened that the granchild will be moving further away and spending less time with them. My daughter's paternal grandmother did the same thing. I got up on the bus with my friend anyway with little more than a duffelbag full of clothes and memories. When I got to where I was going, life was so much better for us.. I'll never regret it. Don't spend your life looking back and going "What If"...

While I understand that your family is reluctant to let you go - will they miss a daughter, a sister, Grandchildren ?- it is your life and if you feel you have better prospects for yourself and your children who you seemingly managed to care for until now, then you should follow your heart and mind. I am sure it's not the easy way out , since moving to another place with a small child in tow, on your own to a new life is not going to be easy. But then again it can't be easy living in a place where you are ' stuck' and not moving forward. I am also sure that with your experience behind you you have learned lessons and will be able to apply them in a new life. Just don't forget that often a new beginning promises so much, but things don't just happen by themselves, you have to make them happen. Nothing will change if you don't change ... Good luck!

if i am in your position, i think im gonna pack up and move, with my daughter. i am a mom too and i'd do anything to give my kids a better life. and if i will receive such an offer, then that's it. oh, your family will be angry/annoyed with you for a while, but it'll pass. once your there, give them a call always. and tell them they can visit you once in a while or you will visit them once in a while. if you really think that the offer is good, and that you are going to be safe there, then i say go. God bless

You're twenty-four and it's entirely your decision, my friend. I think your idea is a good one, and I'm sure you'll be able to find a creche or a minder for your daughter whilst you're at work. She must be about to start school anyway, so you'll only need care for the hours you have to work outside school. I think your family are being selfish in trying to hold you back from the better life you dream of. However, I won't interefere too much, but suffice to say that you should perhaps consider what they say, weigh up the pros and cons, on YOURs and your family's part, and then do what you think is the right thing by you! Brightest Blessings. I hope you make the right decision and that whichever way you decide to go, things will work out well for you. At least you're trying!