Does meeting new people frightened you?
By ana3173
@ana3173 (420)
Philippines
April 28, 2009 1:44am CST
are you frightened to meet new people? do you ever want to hide in a box because you're frightened or shy to meet new people?how do you deal with your shyness? shy people often have a harder time to make a new friends. they will need more effort and create more opportunities to meet new people. but you have to make great efforts to resolve it. a person with social anxiety may feel overwhelmed and have a feeling that others are observing their movement. when they meet new people they feel awkward and muscles in his face may freeze up. sometimes they cannot speak well and physical problem are observed with people having such type of shyness or fear. A shy person find himself in difficult situation if he has a job interview, because he thinks that this interview is a torture. fear or shyness may be so severe that this person whit this kind of attitude cannot work in school, offices or ordinary activities. and they think that fear of being around people may be unnecessary,they are incapable to fight this fear. they often worry for nothing, they worry for days in advance frightened circumstances. there maybe a connection with this fear or shyness or social anxiety disorder and parents who are protective or controlling their children and other bad experience in life like kids who are experience bullying, teasing, rejection or humiliation may be prone to social anxiety disorder. but there are a lot of ways for you to fight this. some positive coping methods can help and erase those negative feeling or thoughts in your mind, join a group to meet new friends, engaging in pleasurable activities such as hobbies or exercise, when you feel anxious, relax, take a deep breath or getting enough sleep, eating a well balance diet.have a party, invite your friends. Go to high school/college reunions, this is a great way to reconnect with your old friends. shyness should not be a hindrance for making new friends. a shy people can form friendship by learning or practicing talking to people.
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11 responses
@srganesh (6340)
• India
28 Apr 09
Yes!In my younger years I was like that.Feeling shy and reserved to face new people.I think that comes from the way I was brought up.In my childhood days,there were no relatives coming to our house and so facing new people was always a problem to me,then.
But things changed,when I was in my college and I got more better with public relation when I stepped into business.The shy and reserved nature leaves me as I met new persons daily.So,I think,the environment in which we live our childhood dominates us.Cheers!
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
yes just like i am very shy to meet new people when i was young, but as time goes by, a lot of changes comes in your way, i overcome this kind of attitude when i meet new friends, join in the club. shyness will not help but a barriers in one's personality.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
I am a very social person and meeting people does not pose a problem to me. I am dealing with people everyday as I run a pub and I meet new customers everyday who come to patronize my joint. I can say I have a good public relation skill and you're right that people who are not shy will make many friends and I have indeed many friends because of this friendly character I have.
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@hustonphotography (569)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Meeting new people used to scare me but not so much anymore. Truthfully now I just don't care what others think. I am me and if they don't like who I am then oh well! That is the attitude I have now. I think it is a healthy one. I used to dwell on this but now I stay carefree.
@Colmuc (707)
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28 Apr 09
Shyness is not easily overcome but I agree that the more people you meet and have direct contact with, the easier it is to cope with the problem. I was lucky in that throughout my childhood I was always meeting friends of my parents. From the very famous to the simple but friendly neighbour. When I started working I had to deal with members of the public, sometimes in difficult situations and I gradually developed a successful, friendly technique that stood me in good stead throughout my working years. Sometimes it is a lack of self confidence that makes people shy and the more people you meet helps you to realise you are just as good as the others.
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@wsk0211 (41)
• China
29 Apr 09
I am an introverted person,and strangers do not speak.Friends feel very diffcult to pay for do not know how to communicate with them, very frustrating.I also want to ask a lot of friends but i made the character i can not achieve their goals!Who has a berrer way?
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
29 Apr 09
I think it is fun meeting new people and understanding about them and making friends with them, but I am a shy and reserved person and I get little fear while meeting new people. I try my best to make friendship with new people. I try to spend time with people or friends whom I am very familiar. I do have problem in changing the environment.
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
I like meeting new people. I'm not the type to go out of my way to attend social functions just to make new friends, though. But on occasions when I get the chance to meet new people, I take advantage of the opportunity. I was a shy girl when I was young, but I guess I outgrew it as I got older. I get nervous before interviews, but when I'm on it already, and I've started talking, the nervousnes goes away. The only one thing I cannot get used to is being on stage or talking in front of a panel or an audience!
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
No. I always love meeting new people. That means exciting.
You got to meet new personality. Learn how they interact with
other people. What is their philosopy in life. Meeting new people for
me is a new learning experience process.
@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
It all depends on the person/people I am meeting. Sometimes, I can be shy and afraid of meeting some new people I just heard of. Sometimes, I get excited of meeting new people. But I remember when I was little, I was really really shy. I always had to have my mom or dad or some other relative or friend accompany me to a new place or to some party in which I am not familiar with the people present. As time went by and as I grew up, I became less shy and became more outgoing and friendly. I learned how to strike conversations and make small talks with new people. I have to add that overcoming my shyness really helped me in my job interviews which were very important.
@abigailsavan1976 (79)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I definately relate to this discussion. When I was a child all the way up till I had my first child; I was extremely shy. My mother was in fact very protective of me and controlling. She would also mentally, emotionally, and sometimes physically abuse me. I was so messed up. I thought everyone thought I was ugly, stupid, not good enough. Everything you discribed in your discussion I went through. Turns out my mother was bi-polar. She was diagnosed a few years ago. I had my children and over the years I learned to love myself and I learned that I was good enough. My children love me unconditionally and they think I'm beautiful and special. Now I have all the confidence in the world. I can walk into a room and feel comfortable. I can talk to people I don't know now and not be scared. I have to thank my children for getting me over my severe shyness. It took alot of time, but over the years I finally got to the point that I'm at now and I am so much happier.
