be with someone t0 be happy??

Hi Doll Almost 2 years ago I discovered that my husband had had many affairs, one for over 13 years. I was so hurt! I kicked him out that very day and he is still out. I have friends but no mate which is ok. I am alone but seldom lonely. All the things in my life centered around his wants and needs before so now I do what I want when I want Once I got to the point where I could wake up without crying I started to realize there is a world for me and I am liberated! You do not NEED anyone. Get to know yourself. xoxoxoxoxoxo

Behind a successful man is a woman and behind a successul woman is a man. I think that cliche' is true as I have seen from other successful men though there are successul women who are single but they aren't really happy. I thought that I can stay single forever as thats what I want before but things change when I met a guy last year. He is the love of my life and he makes me happy as the best that he can.

To be happy or not depend on ones' view. It exacty fits to your needs and demands to something. Perhaps, if you feel the presence of someone makes you happy then, go on. We have different views of our happiness, it something to do with contentment and joy in heart.

no, you dont need another person to be happy. you yourself should be happy on your own, to be happy means to accept yourself for who you are and not because you are with someone who makes you happy. having someone to make you laugh or make you feel loved is only an added bonus, but first you have to be happy and feel that you are a very easy to love person. you dont need others to complete you, its only a metaphor others use to fill in what they are so afraid to admit to themselves that they cant make themselves happy on their own. thus they become much more than desperate. relax!! you dont need to ask if you are ok if you wont be with someone else again...you know you are ok without someone to be with you. you have your own two feet so stand up on your own...just be strong. god bless..i know you can do it

People are constantly searching through life to find someone to fulfill certain needs. And unfortunately some of those needs can only be met within the context of a relationship. But this does not mean that you cannot be happy. Being with another person doesn't make us whole. We, in fact, need to be whole in order to find the right relationship. If you never find anyone you CAN find happiness. But you will have to focus on different areas in your life to fill that void. But I am most certain that once you do fill that void, you will find the person of your dreams.

no. for me, it depends on you. some people say that they cannot live without him or her. but why? for me as long as i can feed my kids and let them go to school and finance them then whatever. kids are more important than others. well actually i have read your long story at the previous post about your life. well sorry i cannot comment on that because it is hard to decide. you might think that i am giving you a decision. as a critical minded person, i cannot give solutions but to guide only.

There is a saying "that no man is an island". I guess that is true because I have that kind of thinking before I was married. Iwas happy being single back then but when I met my wife I chaged my mind and now I am quite happy with where I am. I have a family of my own and I think my life is a bit different but happy where I am.

I do not believe a person's ultimate happiness will be complete when they find a partner to share their life with. When I meet and marry a man I expect him to compliment my life, not complete it. If we want to be happy, it is up to us, and us alone.

I have been alone for 30 years....it would be hard to be with someone again....I do my own thing....take care of my own money etc.....don't have to cook if I don't want to.....travel where ever I want to without consulting anyone......but once in a while I think.....it would be nice to have someone to keep me company...I think you have to look inside yourself to be complete....love who you are etc....and you know what? You will enjoy your own company!

Well this will be just based on what has happened to me. I am happy without anyone to be with. I mean like a partner. This is because I have friends. The only thing is, when you don't have them anymore. Like when they have their own family or when you guys are apart because of lifestyle or distance. This is when am not happy anymore and then look for a partner to share my time with,and in the end of the day.. I need someone to be there to fill my emptiness. I want to share my ups and downs with. Well this is me. But there are also times when I tell my self to be strong that I don't need any partner at all.

True happiness comes from within. I fully believe that. If you are not happy with yourself, you won't be happy with anyone else. Oh, others can make you laugh, give you gifts that you enjoy but, if you're not happy with yourself, that "happiness" is only superficial. I can honestly say that I feel complete with a significant other. Not happier, just more complete. Unfortunately, I have yet to find that significant other who likes himself as much as I like myself. I tend to attract men who see my own happiness and believe that I can make them happy. I can live alone just fine. There are enough things in my life that make me happy that don't necessarily need to include anyone else. But, I do like sharing my life with someone else. Either way, I'm basically a happy person. I do have my moments of depression because of my ever-increasing medical problems but, when I reach deep inside myself, I like who I am. I can be happy just sitting by myself and enjoying nature or a good movie or book. If you like who you are, you can be happy by yourself. If there is something you think you could improve on, by all means, do it! The only person you can truly rely on in this life is yourself, so you must be happy with who you are.

I think that you need to be at peace with who you are and to love yourself for who you are before getting into a relationship. If you aren't secure with yourself, then chances are that any relationship you get into won't last too long. I speak from very painful experience. :S

Happiness does not come from someone. We make the decision to be happy or not to be. If you are not happy alone you won't be happy for long with someone. We are designed to be in relationships but they can be friendships. We are only completed by having a real and personal relationship with our God.

i think first we have to define what happiness is??? it has different definitions for different people...true happiness is being happy from within...not relying on other people to make us happy..because its not their responsibility even when we are in a relationship..depending on the 5 senses to make us happy is just temporary...we are a being and by ourself we are complete...

Of course not...unfortunately though there are ppl out there that feel they MUST have a partner in order to be happy rather than learning to be happy on their own...some ppl are actually afraid to be alone which is sad if you really think about it.... as for me personally..the only ppl I NEED in my life is my kids...but if I didnt have kids I would be fine on my own...I like me, I like my solitude, always have..

no, i don't think so. mess. i have been by myself a long time & i am sure happier than where i was, i'll tell u. i think happiness is a state of mind & it's up to you to be happy. it's nice to have somone but so0metimes no matter how much u care about them they will come near making u unhappy instead of happy. u really can't depend on anyone but yourself when it gets doen to the nitty gritty.