She is driving me nuts
By jessi0887
@jessi0887 (2788)
United States
April 29, 2009 10:28am CST
Okay I have this friend who doesn't like to apply to jobs alone. No problem but around here it kind of won't get you hired. Well I am the type who feels you should do it alone. So two days ago i told her i was applying to a restaurant. She ask if she can go along. I told her they only are taking 21 year olds and up due to a bar. She says she is going to be turning 21 soon. Doesn't matter they still won't take you. Ended up getting out of her going with me some how. Today I am going to another restaurant. She keeps begging me to go along. I even told her that I was wanting to go alone to speak with the manager. She says we can ride together and walk in separate. RRRR!!! At that point I was wanting to pull my hair out. I then told her its by the airport. Which it is and thats further away from her house then mine. Its at least an hour for her. She says she doesn't care. Hello she is always complaining she doesn't want to drive that far because of gas. So again wanting to pull my hair out of my hide. How can I tell her that I dont like taking people along with me when applying for jobs? Its rather annoying.
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9 responses
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Honesty is the best policy. But don't speak harsh ok. Just take it slow and make her understand well that it will not offend her in the way how you break it to her gently 
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I hope she would understand that very well and would not take it personally. You need to apply and she needs to be independent too when it comes to applying for a job. By the way, why don't you like to be accompanied anyway? Maybe your friend needs some boost for you that is why she depends being with you in terms of applying for a job.
But anyway, your not teens anymore. She really need to handle things on her own too. Just tell her about it so that she will understand. Happy Mylotting!
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I hope she would understand that very well and would not take it personally. You need to apply and she needs to be independent too when it comes to applying for a job. By the way, why don't you like to be accompanied anyway? Maybe your friend needs some boost for you that is why she depends being with you in terms of applying for a job.
But anyway, your not teens anymore. She really need to handle things on her own too. Just tell her about it so that she will understand. Happy Mylotting!
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
30 Apr 09
I agree with you. It's not a good idea to take a friend along when you are applying for a new job. The only way to handle this would be to not tell her when you are going to apply for a job. If you have to tell her you are laying low for awhile and checking the internet to see what's out there, that's what I would do. Then get on the internet and look around so it won't be a lie..lol
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
30 Apr 09
i think what you have to do is to sit down with her and tell her honestly how you are feeling... just tell her in a nice way that you want to be alone when you are searching for jobs and she makes it harder for you to get a job... if she is really your friend, then she will understand what you want... otherwise, don't tell her in the future when you are going to look for a job... tell her after you have finished doing that or don't tell her at all... that way, you won't be disturbed... take care and have a nice day...
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Be upfront and honest with her. Say point blank You're my friend I know you want to come with me but this is something I like to do on my own. It's nothing against you I just need to be alone so that I can focus on my job hunting.
Then you can suggest a time that is maybe a day or two later that you can help her out with her job hunting after you have done your's ofcourse that way you don't have to do it alone but when she goes she has moral support. She seems to be the person who needs it.
Or here is another thing you can do .. Not tell her when you're going to put applications in.
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
It is very annoying ended. Just explain to her clearly that she could not just insist in your face to be with you all the time, tell her that you want to work out your job application alone so that you can focus with your job hunting. Tell her honestly everything you want to say so that she will not assume that everything is alright when it is not.
@veronicalodge12 (160)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Well the easiest for me if I'm in the situation is to tell her the truth, just being honest with her. That you want to be alone this time, not something to offend her, but no reason at all, you just want to take things for yourself this time and let her pray for you instead to get a job.
And another thing, don't tell her if you have any plans of applying and you want to be alone, there's no point in telling her in the first place if you want to go on your own. Ciao!
@anotherxidentity (1434)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Instead of trying to make excuses about the distance from her etc. as the reasons she shouldn't go apply for the job I think that at this point you just need to be completely upfront about the situation. This means sitting down with her next time you are going to apply and just say that you don't want to take her along because it gives a bad view on your as a person in the management's eyes and that you would rather go alone. And then if she starts talking about going in separately just be like - well I don't know how long its going to take, and if they want to talk to me or talk to you then someone is going to end up waiting and thats not what I want to deal with.
Or... you can just not tell her what you're doing beforehand and instead just tell her afterwards if you don't want to be confrontational.
@russso (1693)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
Seems like your friend is very much dependent on you. The best thing to do is to talk to her. Yup, it's hard and there is the risk that your friend might get it the wrong way, but you gotta do it. Let's face it, you two are not gonna be together... It isn't like that in the real world.
Or if telling her in person is a problem, maybe you can do it over the phone. It's a little less personal, but it will be easier. In both cases, you just have to be very careful with your words. Goodluck!
