Appropriate dress for Church

@suspenseful (40193)
Canada
April 30, 2009 9:31am CST
The other day at our women's Bible Study, the oldest member that is about five years older them me she being in her 70s brought up the subject of women wearing slacks to Church. Now I have always worn a dress, or a top and skirt because it feels comfortable and since I wear slacks mostly during the week, it is a change. I do find it hard to find things that look good on me. And she said that she did not like seeing the way the slacks show a woman's figure. Now it gets cold here, and so she conceded that in winter when it is 30 below wearing slacks is all right for Church. Yet I have seen young ladies wearing skirts that well were not exactly just above the knees, and my skirts and dresses skim the figure, and there is the case of bra straps showing. My question is when it comes for appropriate dress for Church, what do you consider no-nos. For me it is sheer blouses and bra straps, showing the midriff, and barely covering the thighs.
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
30 Apr 09
i think this is the matter of everyone's own choice, what u feel comfortable that is your choice. If you dont feel others dressing good you should not comment and advice, just go your way and let others live as they want.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
30 Apr 09
Well I suppose that we have to honor God, but dressing decently, but there is a difference between dressing like a sl*t or a tr*mp and wearing clean jeans and a t-shirt or slacks. And I suppose that when someone does wrong you will just keep quiet and not say a word and if you see someone go into someone else's house that does not belong there, it is none of their business. As I said, slacks do not bother me, but dressing like you work as a call girl or a streetwalker does. You can make the wrong choices, but you will pay for them. So to get at you this time, if you had just cleaned your kitchen and maybe your yard, and were in your work clothes, would you just walk into church and sit down? Would you rather not get clean first, and maybe change to something better?
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
1 May 09
That's all right. I do think that what you wear to the office (except on casual Fridays) would be appropriate for Church.
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
1 May 09
i didnt mean that ...that we should not respect god and wear unclean dress before HIM, but as far as styling is concerned, the boundries vary depending upon the thinking, surely it should not be as cheap as a call girl...i agree with you..
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• United States
30 Apr 09
I think you should dress modestly for Church, but that it doesn't really matter what you wear. I wear jeans and a T-Shirt to church every week. I don't think that slacks are immodest, unless they're too low or too form fitting. I really don't think we should always dress up for Church. We should honor God in whatever we do every day of the week, and Sunday shouldn't be special just because it's the day we go to Church.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
30 Apr 09
I sort of like dresses and skirts, but I sure hate putting on those darn pantyhose and cannot wait for summer.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
1 May 09
I feel that you should be able to attend church in pajamas if you want to. You're there to worship Him...But I don't think you should go naked or near naked as that sends a bad message to others especially if they are young people.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
1 May 09
Excellent view! Some people are so dang picky that it puts others off, which is totally against the whole 'sharing of the message' that most religious people are trying to pursue with recruiting members to their churches.... I think I should be able to attend in my jammies or robe, my jeans and sweats, or a dress or suit - if I FEEL like it, not because someone expects or tells me there's some sort of dress code. I'm an adult and I wouldn't take very kindly to someone trying to impose that on me!
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• United States
1 May 09
The church I attend, says "come as you are". I guess I believe that, and I just believe God will work out the details of whether or not someones dress is appropriate. I just think that yes we all can be judgmental, but there are people who really don't know. I have on occasions talked with some ladies about the way they present themselves, and they were quick to fix it. They want to look nice, but some just don't know how. But the majority of the time, I just let them figure it out. Myself, I like to wear dresses or pant suits. But it is appropriate to my position and to my personality. But I don't care if someone comes in with green, pink, purple hair and tattoos all over...they are at church, and that is right where they need to be!
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@GardenGerty (160611)
• United States
1 May 09
I had a friend who had been a music minister near the ocean and everyone wore beach clothes, and flip flops to church. Shorts, wild colored shirts, etc.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
I wear my best to church and that is after I wore it to the wedding or to the graduation ceremony. But then I want to look good for the wedding and the graduation ceremony because they are in Church and that is when I buy new dresses or tops and skirts. I do think that there are some in rebellion. they think God accepts them as they are so they deliberately dress down or wear scuffy clothes when they would not wear in anywhere else.
• United States
1 May 09
"come as you are" -looks down at what she's wearing or lack thereof- ummmmmmmmmm...I don't think anyone would want me showing up like this.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
3 May 09
I think dressing for church should be respectful of the purpose of church. You don't-or shouldn't-be going to church to attract a mate or a date or to show off your latest outfit. I don't think slacks are bad but the tops should either cover the hips or the woman should wear a blazer. There's no need to purposefully flaunt curves but no great need to hide them either--there is a happy medium. God made the human body beautiful, in His image, and while it doesn't deserve to be hidden and ashamed of, it shouldn't be displayed like a movie poster either. Dresses are fine for church if they aren't short and low cut. Same with skirts. Lest anyone think I'm being judgmental about church attire, this is the same dress code that I advocate for everyday wear. Midriff tops and short shorts should be confined to beaches and vacation spots. People should cover themselves decently in polite society--not because I'm a prude or anything but because the body is a temple and exploiting it cheapens and degrades the body and the spirit.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 May 09
Years ago I was told you wear to Church what you were to an office. And that worked for me.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
1 May 09
Well, I don't see anything wrong with things that fit and flatter someone's figure. Expecting people to dress in things like potato sacks or covered head to toe in cloth is just.... silly. Slacks - or leggings under a skirt or dress if the weather is 30 below is common sense, know what I mean? Not everybody owns thick tights nor is every dressy outfit going to look right with cold weather opaque tights under it lol. To be honest, it depends on the church. There are some that are very laid back and you can wear almost anything. Really, it matters more that you care about meeting with other people and worshipping (ie the reason for going to church) than how you dress. I don't think it's necessary to dress black tie or anything, nor is it really all that respectful to go in something dirty like you worked in your yard or on your car in, or like you said, bra straps PURPOSELY showing or a shirt that cuts off right under your bra. I don't see anything wrong with a shorter dress or skirt as long as someone wears hose or shorts or something underneath so they don't flash people.... There are some churches where folks are VERY PICKY about how other people dress, and they really have the wrong priorities going on and thus probably put people off by thinking that way. Yes, this is only my opinion but I know it's true because if people are going to be that picky with ME, I will NOT have anything to do with that institution, group of people, movement, or whatever it is. Not worth my time or the bother it would entail to 'fit in' and I am not the only person who feels that way. Generally, intolerant situations only attract other intolerant people, so I guess they'd be in good company... When I DID attend church a long time ago, sometimes I wore jeans or shorts. Nobody ever had an issue, and you can bet if someone did, that I'd either ignore them - or if it came down to it, I guess I'd just quit going. What a cheap and cheesy reason to have an issue with anybody!
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 May 09
I always feel that if you do not wear something to an office, you should not wear it to church. So I guess if it is all right for you to go to an office in your tee shirt and shorts, that would be right for Church I do not mind slacks and shirts that much nor skirts that are mid thigh. I used to wear mini skirts and I wear low cut tops that just browse the top of my bos*m. I went to a picky church where they wanted you to wear calf length dresses to show that you were modest, and lived a pure life. And for some who were not pure before they joined that church, well a lot of people knew about it. They might as well had worn mini skirts and fish net stockings. What I got from that church was the message "If you are a virgin, you can get away with mini skirts and fish net stockings," but if you are not, not even wearing dresses with full sleeves and to your ankles will not help you. Naturally that was the reason I quit. Now I dress modestly but I still show my shape (what's left of it, that is.
@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
30 Apr 09
To me going to church on how you dress depends on where you live. If you live in Florida you are bond to wear shorts and tank tops. I grew up use to seeing woman wear dresses and skirts. BUt pants or jeans do not bother me either. Some woman can't afford better clothes. I knwo I only have one dress. It has a snake skin design...do you think that is proper for church. It goes all the way to the floor and covers everything up? I bet that old woman would hate it.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
Ifind that there are lots of nice clothes at the Goodwill or Thrift shops. The only trouble is if you are overweight or wear a plus size or if you are the wrong color. For some reason, if you are natural blonde and red head, you have an easier time, but if you are a brunette or wear a brunette and am now white haired or blonde with that pinky complexion it is hard to find something that is not blue, pink, red, green, etc. unless you are a skinny mini. I think skorts might work - especially if you have hips. They do not look good on somoene who is straight down. But as for your snake skin dress, I have a brilliant idea. Get a dressy t-shirt the kind with a scooped or v neck that has one of the main colors in the dress and wear it over it. I have a red loud print dress that was too tight in the b*stline for me and I wear a burgundy t-shirt over it. No one notices as they are looking at your face not the bottom half. And they think you just bought the outfit to match.
• Canada
16 Sep 09
I think that as long as the clothes are in good condition, not torn, dirty, or messy in any other ways, and are relatively modest, anything is appropriate for church. As for a woman's figure, don't these clothes show a man's figure too? If modesty is what she's after, i think it should be equal for men and women. Might I suggest everyone wear a cassock to church, so they'll look like the minister and the other choir members? LOL those things completely hide a person's figure! :)
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
I do not mind people showing their figures. I have dresses that just skim my hips and I have dressy t-shirts that show that I have a bosum and I am overly endowed and I certainly hate that i am told not to wear sleeveless because of that. Just because God made me that way there is nothing to be ashamed of. i mean you just cannot go too much one way. And when you wear a top that goes up to your neck and short sleeves it makes it look worse. I know. There is a lady in the other church that wears this, and it makes her bosum stick out. It is just as bad to wear long mumus as it is to wear micro minis and blouses that show everything except your n*pple and it is just as bad for men to wear baggies as it is for them to wear something that looks as if you have a codpiece added.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
1 May 09
I personally would never consider wearing those things in a place of worship or most places for that matter....ok...wouldn't wear them at all. Still of all places, church is a place where God is the judge. Now days people don't go to church simply because it is the thing to do or it is expected. I would assume these people are there because they are really involved in the beliefs of the church. I would not deter them by picking them apart for how they are dressed. As for slacks....slacks especially are perfectly fine i think. The woman is in her 70's and I'm sure is remembering the days when women were not to wear pants out in public and had to wear hats to church.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
She sort of thinks the dresses have to be calf length or way below the knees. Now me, I wear dresses and skirts at knee length and I get upset when they want me to wear them down to the calves, because it does not look right on me. Ankle length is okay, but then it looks dowdy. It does get rather cold here and slacks are all right, but never felt comfortable wearing them on Sundays and am even nervous when I wear them on a special day that is in the middle of the week, but that is me and the only thing that makes me feel all right is if some of the other ladies come in slacks as well.
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
1 May 09
I think slacks will do, as much as possible with shirt or blouse with collar and sleeves. Not too short skirts and not a blouse with a spaghetti strap. Should you find it not comfortable because of the weather, sometimes its okey with out collar or sleeves but something presentable not haltered that straps of bra could be seen. If we can follow uniforms in our offices or jobs, why not then can we observe a little decency in wearing our clothes while hearing the words of God, for a matter of an hour.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
The trouble is a lot of the girls were blouses with spaghetti straps and sometimes those sort of t-shirts where the straps of the bra shows, and it really does not look that nice if you are the one dressed modestly or wearing sleeves and it is as hot as blazes. I mean I wish there were sleeveless tops with the bras sown in, so us overly endowed ladies do not have to sweat that much when it is almost 100 F. But I do not like too short skirts nor tops that show all but a girl's n*pple. The only ones who can wear too short are the ones with no hips and usually once they get married, they start dressing more decently.
@gracypure (529)
• Philippines
1 May 09
Church is the house of God, we enter in this door to pray not attract people or destruct people's attention by wearing shorts skirts, tight slacks or showing cleavage. I know that not all did it intentionally, it's their choice and i think they are comfortable wearing these type of dress but in my own opinion or to most people.. we should wear appropriate in the place, a little modesty type is much better.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
I am sort of overly endowed, so cannot help it. I do draw the line at showing more then the top crease and I have a thick neck and I look better in a V neck. But I hate it when someone wears something that shows almost everything.
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
30 Apr 09
What bothers me about people (men and women) wearing casual clothing like jeans, T-shirts, flip-flops, etc. to church is the fact that they would never wear such clothing when going to a job interview or business party or the like. Wouldn't going to worship the Lord take precedence over any worldly interview or business party? If you wouldn't wear casual clothing to aforementioned activities, then why on earth would you worship the King of Kings in said casual clothing? As for my ideal clothing for church (and one of these days, if I find a good pattern for it), I'm going to sew a dress that has a high collar and an ankle-length skirt. I kid you not...I hate having even a half-inch of my neck showing. That's just me, though.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
1 May 09
You are right I think they should dress presentable in the house of the lord.
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• United States
1 May 09
Personally, I wear jeans and a nice shirt to church--with tennis shoes, no less. And I'm a girl. When I was growing up, my mother did not let me leave the house for church without a dress and pantyhose, and the right color shoes (based on whether in was after Memorial Day or after Labor Day. I believe that the more important point is that you are THERE. If your dressing-down becomes a stumbling block to someone else's worship experience, however, or if you stick out like a sore thumb every Sunday morning, you might want to think about dressing a little more like the crowd. I'm sure you don't want to interfere with anyone else's worship. It also depends on the church atmosphere...when I belonged to a smaller church, things were a little more formal. Now that I go to a huge church, no one seems to care that I wear jeans and tennies. There are folks there wearing a lot more casual.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
As someone with bunions, I can see you wearing tennis shoes. We are more like wear what we wear to the office or slacks as long as they are dark, but no jeans or white tee shirts. We wear a lot of sleeveless in the summer, and some of the girls wear almost minis, and some wear micro minis, but they have no hips so they can get away with it. Sometimes I feel out of sort when I wear a top with sleeves on it and all the ladies are in sleeveless. I do have a couple of sleeveless dresses and I wear a top with that, but then I can always take the top off, but when you come in church with your dressy t-shirt you bought at the plus sized shop where for some reason, they ave a dearth of sleeveless t-shirts, you do feel rather awkward, at least I do.
• United States
10 Oct 09
I think to each his own ya know, I personally do wear slacks to church and dresses or skirts and Im comfortable with the long ones. I dont wear jeans or short I feel disrespectful. But i try never to judge anyone by what they were to church, its just not my place. And when your trying to help people get saved who cares what they are wearing. I have heard people say they went to church but some members commented on there cloths so they just never went back. Well I would hate to be the reason someone didnt come back! At my church you just come and Ill even walk in with ya, Jesus loves us all!
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Oct 09
It is a whole lot different between someone just wandering into church who never was in church before. We had a girl who came in with weird hair, short short skirt, and looked very weird, but after a while, she dressed normal for a normal 20 year old. There was even a bum who went into the church, he was new, had probably never been to a church in his life. But once you go regular, you start to look your best and the short shorts, and raggedy jeans go and you put on cleaner clothes even if you had to get them from the thrift shop. And the regular members could help these newcomers by taking them shopping, going to Goodwill with them and helping them find something nice to wear that does not cost the bank.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
2 May 09
I think you should dress respectively. I don't see any problem with slacks or even jeans, just as long as they are clean and in good shape. When it come right down to it, your clothes don't matter. Its the fact that you are coming to church to worship. If all you have to wear is a pair of pants with holes in them, then to me that is ok. The church I go to is more relaxed as far as dress in the summer months. We don't have air conditioning in our Sanctuary, on hot days its appropriate to wear summer clothing. We start services an hour earlier too, thats to try to get done before it gets too hot. We are sort of a small church without a big budget.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
17 Sep 09
You know what would happen in our church? One or more of the ladies would take pity on her, and take her shopping and if she cannot afford more then that holy pair of jeans, she would buy her a nice outfit. I do like sleeveless in the summer. I wear a top with my sleeveless dress and the only reason is it is too large on the top since I lost weight, and I really should buy some more clothes, but well I have more important things to do right now.
@ElicBxn (63593)
• United States
1 May 09
I feel that slacks are more modest than dresses, because you are more covered so long as the clothing isn't "advertizing" things, I don't have a problem with them being worn in church - I used to go in jeans and a tee
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
17 Sep 09
Never looked good in jeans and it seems with my losing weight I have to hitch up my slacks. Maybe when it gets very cold, I will wear a pair, but mostly I wear dresses and tops and skirts. I feel more comfortable that way.
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
1 May 09
Well, I am going to show that I am old fashioned and I am sure that many will disagree with me on this issue. However, my opinion is that we need to honor God when we enter His house and that means that we should be wearing appropriate clothes and dress that honors Him. To me, that means a woman should wear a dress or skirt and blouse and it should be a nice one. I also think that men should wear nice dress slacks and a decent shirt. That would mean no jeans,tee-shirts,shorts,etc. I believe that it is very disrespectful for women or men to wear jeans to church. I also feel that women in pants is against the Bible and I don't think that we should allow it in our churches.
• Philippines
1 May 09
I think for women proper attire for church is something you are comfortable wearing except showing midriff and skirts barely covering the thighs like what you wrote.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
17 Sep 09
I feel that if you cannot wear it to an office, you cannot wear it to church and I do not think there is such a thing as Casual Fridays on Sunday at Church. Why even jeans and a shirt look nice, if they are clean and look new. Not that I would wear them, too curvy for that.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
1 May 09
While I don't agree with wearing daisy dukes and slinkier clothing... In the end, the point of going there is to learn and strengthen your personal relationship with God, not to care if others like or approve of the way you're dressed. If that rubs anyone the wrong way.. well... I'm not apologizing.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
1 May 09
the appropriate dress for attending a sunday mass at the church must be decent to look at. i hate it when people dresses as if they will just go to a night party. we must not wear spaghetti straps, above the knee skirts and everything that is just too sexy. it's inappropriate for a woman to dress this type of dresses.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
I think the only girls that can wear minis are those with no hips. It used to be we all wore them back in the 60s, but then we were taught how to sit, no crossed knees and no showing most of the thigh. Besides are we not in Church to honor God, not to show how fit we are or that we chose the right parents so we can wear minis?