Need advice....Is my relationship over?

Just give him a missed call and wait for his response.That way,you shall remind him about you and at the same time leave the ball in his court.May good things follow.Cheers!

Hi again I am a man. Now what does that mean? I have an insight into male psychology? Yes, exactly. See, women worry a lot about relationshps and you are no exception. Men have got a serious mentality regardin their work and all the stuff because it's their responsibility to support a family,, etc. I hope you are following me. See, there is nothing to be worried about my friend. Everythings gonna be okay. He has got some problem with the job or something and he's freaked out. Men doesn't know how to behave when things go haywire. So just wait and relax- and help him relax- this could work out as a miracle. Hope i have helped you. Happy mylotting AJ

It doesn't sound like your relationship is over. Just that you both have a communicatio problem that needs to be talked out. I suggest calling him when you know he isn't there and leave a nice message. This will be a reminder for him to call or come over and talk to you. Good luck and keep us posted about what is up.

He said he would talk to you when he got back. How do you figure your relationship is over because he said this??? He probably needed to focus on his work. If You were my partner and reacted like this I'd be annoyed and fed up with you all the time. You seem very immature. Perhaps having a break has given him time to think. It's my guess, if you haven't heard from him by now then you can chalk this one up top experience. Relationships are not about games, or being stubborn or imagining things. Above anything else relationships are about communication. You should have called him when he arrived at his destination and let him know things were ok. You don't say what the fight was about so maybe this was not possible.

Sit down with him when he returns apologise if you are in the wrong and sort it all out talk to each other mgraham126

In my opinion, i think that you must wait until and if he will call you. If he want talk and be with you, he will come to you, if not...is not good to push him. If he refuse talk with you, and don t respond to your call, you will feel miserable, i know this, i try once in my life, and never i ll try again. If he say that you will talk toghether when he come back, you must wait, if was a lie, was a lie and is better don t push, if was true, he will call you. I know how you feel but is not talk about stubborness, is talk about principles, and you must wait. As i say you must he call you..i don t think that your relation is over.

For the meantime, do things as usual. If possible don't bother your situation for the moment. Because these feelings will disturb you, you work, your career. I'm sure, he will reach you in time. Maybe, he just need a little space, and so are you.

I do think it is poor decision just because of some fight and calling it quits! In a relationship, squabbles and fights are common. As long as it is not abuse, I would learn such enables the couple to learn to manage and grow from the relationship. If one were to quit just because of some ego, I can say the person will be forever into relationships which ended just after a squabble, not to mention a fight.

You know your bf the best, but maybe you are reading too much into his parting words. Was this unusual for him? Would he normally call you when he is out of town? My bf has this maddening/great ability to forge things. We will have blow out fights and he will act as though nothing happened. This is great if I feel like I crossed the line with things I said and think there is no way he will forgive me. Or, the argument was about important stuff, and he acts like he doesn't temember having the fight. If you feel that you both needed a break from each other, then this could be a good thing. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Good luck though, I know what it feels like to be waiting on pins and needles for the other person to make up their mind. But see though, there are those that will tell you, you should not rely on another person to determine the direction you will be going in. Maybe this is a great opportunity for you to take control of your own destiny.

I have one better than this one. I have a "friend" who I am not sure where our friendship/relationship lies. He left on Friday for a conference and before he left he took me to lunch, which I thought was very nice. I hadn't seen him for 2 weeks before that, but we talked every day but one, when he wasn't feeling well. As I dropped him off at his door.......I always drive.....he gave me a kiss and told me he would call me when he got there AND that he would call me every day he was gone, which he wasn't sure whether it would be 3-7 days. I hadn't expected to hear from him at all while he was gone, so that was quite a surprise, and a nice one, too. Today is Tuesday and I haven't heard a thing! What is that all about? An out and out lie,as far as I'm concerned, almost 5 days later and I haven't heard a word of the calls he was making EVERY DAY. I am NOT calling him, so we will see what happens with this one. I do understand YOUR situation, but we hadn't had a fight and were on good terms.........he took me to eat.....maybe the "last meal". I would rather he just said goodbye.....same as you, I am sure. If you think he is important to you, I would break down and call him, if you haven't already.......since this was 3 weeks ago!!

I don't think you should jump to conclusions and just end it. It sounds like you both needed some time apart and to think things over. Of course, there is the possibility that he's ready to end it but ...maybe not. To me, it sounds as if he just needed some space to think it over. I think you should wait and when he is ready, you both should talk and take it from there.

Hi oceanzealot. I dont think its over. When he said we will talk when i get back, its like giving both of you space to clear all the bugs out from your head. Sometimes at the heat of our anger we tend to make or decide things out of emotions so its better to have space for a while, think things over and sit down to talk what happened afterwards. The conference is a good way for both of you to assess your relationship. And for me it doesnt matter if i will be the one to call him for i dont want to live with What IFs. I know its not stubbornness but its not also lowering your pride of making the first call. Its for the best that you call him so at least you would know whats the real score between the two of you. Ask him to meet you to talk over the issues and that will be the time for both of you to decide either to continue your relationship or put closure to it. At least you will not live a life with what IFs and wondering for the rest of your life. No closure at all is like a ghost that will haunt you especially if the relationship isnt so bad after all and you shared good memories.

Hi OceanZealot..., i just want to say to you that man is just not into you.., you should find another man that really care and love you so deeply, a man that can make you feel peace around him and love him everyday and he loves you with tenderly, you're beautiful and smart, i know that you will find someone that really in love and crazy about you.

I think it doesn't mean it's over just because he says he'll talk to you when he gets back, he had to go to his conference anyway. I've been in relationships where much worse was said but we worked it out after. As I read in some other post, a text is a good idea, hope you go for it.

I never knew that " I'll talk to you later" can be considered as a relationship on rocks. I don't think that you can call it over. Maybe he was just very much preoccupied with the conference that he didn't want anything to spoil his thoughts and all, you know how these conferences can get. bourne

Sorry to hear that personal problem of yours. I know it is really heavy to bear when to think that you have been together for so long and what you just didn't mention was the reason of why you come up with this conflict. But you must talk, both of you must talk before going to take another step or decision.It takes understanding also of the situation and remove pride of who should talk or call first. It is really needed to talk so that you can tell him what you feel and ask him also his side. It takes you two to decide. I hope that you can still open your communication with each other. For me, i think that relationship is not yet over as long as you both haven't ended it clearly and well.

There r tyms in every relationship...when v need a break....or atlest feel lyk taking sum tym to get our act together....that doesnt have to translate into a break-up.... even if his last word were will talk u when i get back...doesnt translate into a break-up....come on u r in a relationship...ups n downs happen...u love this guy....how does it matter if he calls u first or if u call him....if he isnt calling then u call him...dont turn a mole into a mountain...ego in a relationship is d worst possible thing....it definitely is a relation/love murderer.... cool down.....call him...come on gurl!!!

I don't think so."I'll talk to you when I get back" is usual words for my hubby after our dispute. When he's back finally,he always forget what he want to say to me....LOL.. Of course,some times,i remind he purposely,he will answered:" i forget it!" or "will tell you next time" with looking through website unconcernedly.Maybe,sometimes,we wrangle temporarily for giving vent to dissatisfaction from other pressure in all kinds of fields. as time goes by, we will disremember at last..

I'm still young to give you advice, haha. Well maybe your boyfriend ego is just high. All of the quality guys out there has this ego and i think you both of you are going to get back ;) Sometimes there's up and down in relationship and poeple just can't get along with each other.

i think, he did that because of the big reason, maybe he wants to think about you and you're relationship how to build up.., he just tried to be strong.,