Do you judge your parents because in the past they make some mistakes?

No one in this world can judge other people. For the case of my parents, they have done some bad decisions before and are not proud of it. But nonetheless, i never ever judge them for what they did because i think that they have done that for several reasons and that i can never know unless i ask them. The main point is you have to leave the past behind and never judge them..^_^

in my opinion, no one has the right to judge anyone specially we as children to our parents. any mistakes in life wether good or bad is still a learning for all of us. im sure what ever mistakes ur parents have committed, they have learned from it. and we should learn from it as well, by knowing about the problem, how was it resolved, what were the consequences- once we know about this of course, you will not respond to it the same thing bec it had been a mistake. it does not only happen to our parents but also to ourselfves, friends, family members and mostly the people that surrounds us. always learn from yours or others mistake,,, it should be the rule of the thumb...:-)

Oh I never gave them that chance. Once I realized that my life is what I want to be, I just told them that I would take their advice but not take their orders and they were cool with that. So making mistakes doesn't really come into effect here. They have made some mistakes when it comes to the family as a level, but mistakes are common and some of them have made me realize some better things in life. As they say, you must know darkness to appreciate light. bourne

That is something I used to thought about a lot in the past, when I am depressed with the way my life is going. Yes, I do judge my parent depending on the mistakes they have done in the past, but I only judge them by the mistakes that they did after my eldest sibling was borned. I think it is only reasonable to judge them from that time onward since they are already a complete grown up by then. Sad to say, my parent too, did made some seriously terrible mistakes back then, and of course it changes our life in a bad way. For now, I feel that I can not, did not, would not and will not be able to forget the things they have done yet. Well, life goes on. Look at the brighter side, compare yourself to those who have lost their parent, they don't even get a chance to blame their parent for all the good and bad they have done. Comparing yourself to them, who have gotten more blessing? may everyday count ^_^ Cheers~

I guess it depends on what the decision they made is. For example, my parents fprced me into another education that i would not have chosen by myself. Such things i do not forgive

I believe that whether what parents with responsibility for you make decision for you or not,they all hope you happy and lucky at bottom of heart. Maybe their method is not right.

Hey, we don't have the right to judge our parents just because of their past mistakes. They have suffered enough because they made mistakes out of you. I'm sure they learned from it, and I bet they were hurt very much because they have caused you pain and no one can undo or can't change it. Let forgiveness, understanding and love resides in your heart. I'm sure you'll be healed in time. For now, do things and make decisions that can somehow over run your painful life. Set goals in your life, be optimistic. You make your own choice from now on, so make the best choice. Goodluck!

Hi, Icesmile! I'm sorry you're so bitter. I was, once, as well. I don't really judge my parents because I don't think all the things they did that tore me up were intentional - they thought they were doing their best. I just acknowledged that they were toxic to me and opted out of the family. I haven't seen or heard from any blood relatives in many, many years, and I have never been so happy! I don't have to judge; just avoid those elements of life that are hurtful to me.

My father have done things that have affected my life in a bad way, and when I was younger I used to judge him or even hate him for it, but now I see it in a different light. When I was younger I saw everything in black and white, but now I am not longer able to judge him, because I know that he has good and sides like any other person, and I know that he did the best he could and he hasn't had an easy life either. Many things in my life would have been easier if his behaviour had been different, but I can't change him and I can't change the past, so I just try to make the best of the situation.

Overall I think my parents did a good job or at least the best they knew to do at the time. I was raised by my mother's parents since she passed away at age 18 and I did not meet my birth father until I was 21. I know some parents do things that reek havoc on their children's lives and that may be very hard to forgive. Yet it is forgiving that gives you the strength and courage to go on with your life and make it better.

I believe that whatever our parents has done in the past we must not mind it and we must make our life on our own not blaming our parents for what we are now.thats the essence of life for me..to become what i want to be,make life from my own effort and standing on the values i have for a better future.

When younger I did judge my parents and I know they made mistakes which definitely affected my negatively. There is a difference though knowing , that like everyone else they are human and make mistakes, and blaming them for your your short comings. I am a parent myself now, of four children, and unfortunately I can only learn as I go along, making mistakes on the way and often only learning with hindsight. My parents would probably do a lot of things differently now were they given the chance. We can only do our best with whatever knowledge we have at the time, and its now up to me , the adult, to tale responsibility for what I do and how I make the best of what I have been given.