I"'.m going to be o.k. Mom, it is all right to go!" said her son
By cynthiann
@cynthiann (18602)
Jamaica
May 1, 2009 2:34pm CST
My GF who died of cancer was buried yesterday. After the funeral, freinds were invited for refreshments and I was able to speak to Michael - her 13 year old son. he told me that a short while before his mother died, he lay on the bed beside her and cuddled her.a He told her how much he loved her, how grateful he was to have a mother like her and that he would never forget her. He then told her that he was O.K. with her leaving him and that it was all right for her to go.
He said that she then smiled and touched her cheek for a kiss. He gave her a kiss and then his Dad kissed her. She smiled again at them both and her sisters who were there and with one last look at them she quietly died.
I was so impressed with Michael - he is going to an incredible man when he grows up.He has been receiving counselling on his mother's sickness and now her death.
I don't know of any young person who could have handled this, in the way that he is handling it, without God's grace, do you?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
1 May 09
bless his heart. it took a strong person to do that & him just 13 years old. he will be a fine man when he gets to adulthood & hope he can keep that strength all his like. what a brave thing to do for his mother. god bless him. again i'm so sorry for the loss of your friend,
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
1 May 09
He will have a host of loving supportive people arouns him always. I was so taken aback at his maturity. We serve a loving God. Many thanks
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
3 May 09
sometimes we have to grow up in a hurry. he did, bless his heart. i'm thankful he has u standing by. u take care of yourself . jo
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
5 May 09
Everythingv about Michael is amazing - his love - his spirituality - just everything
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
4 May 09
oh god that just made me cry what a brave and wonderful little boy he is and it is so terrible that he has to loose his mother like that, I just can't stop crying.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 May 09
he is the most caring and wonderful young boy that I have ever met. and I have three sons. This boy is so special. It is awful to lose his mother but he will be all right one day. I cannot find the words to express how I feel about Michael
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
4 May 09
How touching, and sad. I have tears on my cheeks right now. This young man is a very strong person. It takes a lot to tell someone that it is okay to go, but I couldn't even imagine how hard it would be for a person so young to say that to his own mother. From what you wrote, I think that she needed to know that he would be okay before she passed. He gave her one last, precious, and wonderful gift...he allowed her to truly go in peace.
I hope that he continues with his couselling. He will probably find a lot of comfort in having that other person to talk to about it all. I hope that through it all, he always holds those precious memories close to his heart and remembers how much she loved him.
The next time you talk to Michael, please tell him that I think that what he did for her was wonderful and very unselfish. He is a great young man in my opinion.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 May 09
I will indeed. I will see hiim at Church on Sunday. He has inspired all of us. He gave her the most wonderful gift that she had ever had. I am sending a photo of him and his Mom to Lilybug - I don't know if she can put it on Mylot for me at a later date. many thanks for responding and I will deliver your message. The counselling will continue for as long as he needs it. Blessings
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
2 May 09
He is an incredible person at this young age, sans doubte. I think I would have gone insane and would hurt myself, if I would have been in his place. I am so sorry for little Michael. I wish him all the very best for his future.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 May 09
He dispalyed more strength than his Dad. We wil all be there for him and he knows this. Many thanks
@NuttyMomma (901)
• United States
2 May 09
to me that is a mother's nightmare to have to die when your child is still young. she did a good job with him because it sounds like he is very mature for his age. i believe that he is going to grow up to be a very compassionate person. this story is very sad, cancer sucks. it is good that he is receiving counseling though. i think it is always helpful even if someone appears to be handling things well it is still a traumatic event to go through. wow.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 May 09
Isn't it just? I used to pray daily that I would live to see my children grown. Thank God this was granted to me. She did a wonderful job with him. Many thanks for responding
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
1 May 09
That is wonderful. I just know this set his mom at ease. This young man is more grown up than his years. He will be a fine young man.
I only know a few people that are like this children and adults a few of each.
They will go a long way in this life.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 May 09
He is so special. He really is. Barbara and his Dad did an amazing job with him. He will get through his grief and move on eventually but never forgetting what a wondeful Mom he had
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
1 May 09
After speaking to Michael yesterday, I am doing o.k. I will miss her so much but I know that she is all right. Many thanks
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
2 May 09
You just made me tear up reading this. I am glad that he was able to let her know that before she passed. I am sure knowing that made it a little bit easier on her to leave him. I really hope that he is ok without her. He sounds like a great kid.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
2 May 09
Hi cynthiann~ I am typing this through tears. This young man
is so wonderful and brave! What he did for his Mom is so
unselfish and he gave her the most precious gift by letting
her know that it was ok with him for her to let go. How
amazing for a 13 year old to understand something like this
and be able to cope. You are so right, he is going to grow
up to be such an amazing young man! God Bless this entire
family, but especially young Michael for being so brave and
selfless!
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 May 09
Opal, I wish that I had a scanner and then I would get osmeone to put on Mylot a photo of the two of them together. Michael is incredible. At he reception he would talk to his classmates and then go back to his Dad and hug his Dad. He circulated the room speaking to almost everyone he knew. I really believe that God has laid His hand on Michael - whaT HE DID WAS THE MOST WONDERFUL ACT OF LOVE THAT ANY SON COULD DO TO A MOTHER WHO WAS IN TORMENT - NOT AT DYING, AS SHE WAS STRONG IN HER FAITH, BUT AT LEAVING HIM BEHIND. HE REALLY IS SO SPECIAL
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@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
2 May 09
I am terribly sorry for you loss, loosing someone is never easy. I too would be impressed with Michael, I know a lot of older children that would not be able to do what he did. It is hard to let go of a parent especially when you are young, I can't imagion my parents not being around. I hope that you will contine to keep your friend in your memory, and I am sure that she will be watching over her family from above. Blessed Be and I hope that you take care of yourself.
@anniefannie (1737)
• United States
2 May 09
This young man is some brave boy. I could not have handled it this way when I was his age if I had lost one of my parents.Gods will help us always if we ask.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 May 09
I think that the religious counselling helped him in what he did. But he is a wonderful oung man. He will not depart from what was taught to him by his mother
@kellyt82 (204)
• United States
2 May 09
This is a very sad but inspiring story. I am sorry for your loss. Children can be so amazing and strong when they need to be. I am really impressed with kids during times like this particular situation. I can only pray that I do as good a job with my son as your friend has done with hers.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 May 09
From we spoke I have been in awe of Michael. I will miss her so much and will be there for her son if he needs me. He is so remarkable. going to do something amazing with his life on earth
@Hedwig (283)
• China
2 May 09
It never occurred to me that a boy at such a young age can have such courage.I am deeply impressed by this 13-year-old child.
Most kids at his age need a long period of time to recover from such a big loss. But this boy, did not only accept the cruel truth without tears, but also consoled her mum and made her leave the world with peace.
I am convinced that this boy will definitely grow up into a great guy .
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 May 09
I really believed that
God ;layed His hand on Michael. He will be a wonderful caring man
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 May 09
This truly made me cry, I didn't want to read it because it's sad, but that woman's son is truly an amazing person. She must have raised him very well. How are you feeling? I know that you have said this was a friend of yours.
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@lumenmom (1986)
• United States
1 May 09
Gosh, that is so brave of him! He sounds like a very mature young man and I know he'll be just fine. That had to be special for her hearing him say that because as a mother you know she had to have concerns about that. What a loving and gentle way to be able to leave this life. God's grace is definitely upon this young man.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
1 May 09
Yes, she comforted him - that is the miracle in all of this. She could go because he told her that he would be fine. Many thanks for responding
