Thousand Miles Away
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
May 4, 2009 11:58am CST
With the advent of internet, more and more people are meeting and dating in the virtual world. This type of long distance relationships are not easy and require an enormous commitment from both people. With careers requiring people to move to different places from their significant others, and with internet dating encouraging people from different parts of the country (and world) to begin romantic unions, how can you keep your love intact?
There are many reasons why the relationships won't work. Although the cell phone comes in handy, you are often not in the same time zone, so you have to plan what time to have a phone conversation. But if you put your time and attention into connecting with this person in a variety of ways and allow yourself to be flexible and to trust, the miles in between won't matter. If you are away from each other, what is the understanding you have about dating other people or developing friendships and going out with other people?
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9 responses
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
18 May 09
when you are happy with what you have now, why create extra emotional burden? That is a question often asked but things just fall apart and from what is supposed to be an innocent conversation turns to something romantic. But of course it has to have a boundary so as not to be emotionally attached.1 person likes this
@orderfox (231)
• China
5 May 09
I think this exchange on the Internet will not be affected. Although the time cifference,I think is the best forum for the exchange of ah. Of course, each other can stay in a fixed telephone contact is also important,of course,to get along very well. it is to you Are there really pay their exchanges.
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@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
5 May 09
Very meaning topic. I dated my husband online and it was so hard for both of us, cuz we live in different country. Right, too far a part. But we still make thing works... I didn't really remember what made me fall in love with him, but he told me that he fell in love with my user name (smileonstar) at the first time he saw it. He started to talk to me and then exchange email and then photo, then phone number. We talked and talked until one of us can't deny it. Then when I was on vacation, I flew to see him for couple times. Finally, we ended up married to each other and have two kids.
Sometimes, online dating could work and sometimes it couldn't work. I think it is really depend on people too...
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
5 May 09
That's the hard part with Cell Phones. most people specially in the Philipines had been dependent on these when it comes to talking to people and dating. some even have boyfriends,and girlfriends, through the text messages. and in the negative cases, some peopel are victimized and killed because of being fooled by people communicating through Cell phones. I wish there was a standard procedure in using these phones carefully.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
5 May 09
Cell phones has been used to manipulate innocent people and it has also the cause of many marriage breakups. In our country it is not easy to misuse cell phones as all simcards need to be registered before one can purchase. The numbers are all registered with the providers and the callers can easily be detected. So no chance of engaging in hanky panky.
@easydoesit (62)
• United States
5 May 09
I myself had a long distant relationship several years ago and it did take alot of work and patience to make it work. The fact that you cannot see (in person) or touch the one you love is probably the hardest thing to deal with. Also, if one of the people are jealous or insecure, it can cause really big problems that can possibly effect the relationship in a negative way. I think that if both people are comfortable with themselves and eachother, a long distance relationship can work. It just needs a little bit more special attention and care than a regular relationship.
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@wgh423 (65)
• China
5 May 09
I think the main problem of long distance relationships is the suspicion. Though the cellphone in hand and can talk with each other at any time, they also can meet on internet by video. what's more, they can take flight to the lover's home,it just take few hours. But the uncertainty makes them worry about the future. I think the main love is that they can sacrifice the things they cherish for each other.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 May 09
i have never understood how people can fall in love over the internet. if u have never met the person & been around them how are u going to say u are in love w/them. i know we all develop friendships over mylot that we cherish. i certainly do i think u are looking for love which there is nothing wrong w/that for sure but to commit yourself to that one person & devote your time & feelings to that person, not seeing anyone else & all that's involved in a relationship would be pretty complicated i would think. i would be afraid to get into that situation. with my track record i didn't do to well knowing them & being around them. i am not a good "picker outer" in person . no telling what i'd come up with sight unseed. evryone doing this needs to be careful.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
5 May 09
We are born when internet was not born yet so we are not too familiar how internet dating could possible connect two hearts together. But people nowadays are more advance and has made internet their venue for seeking love from the other side of the world at a press of a button. Many have successfully cemented their internet love affairs into reality. Definitely those who engage in online dating needs to be very alert and careful as they are no less impostors lurking around the cyber world.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
5 May 09
It is difficult for me to understand how one can fall in love with a person one has not physically met but I don't dismiss that there are people who have had these experiences. There are those who have to be apart due to work reasons etc, so long distance relationships area a reality.
I guess most of us have physical needs so the question is how do you meet those needs when your love is a long way away? I can speak for myself and personally I could not handle it and I could not handle the 'friends with benefits' mentioned by Dday50627. For me it is either one or the other; for me it would be no good to be with person A when all I desire is person B. There are also the feelings of loneliness associated with a long distance affair.
I admire those who have made being away from each other work. As far as I'm concerned I could only attempt it on a temporary basis.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
25 May 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji,
In a nut-shell, we are unique, we do not have cell-phones. We do have internet and
share our daily discussions at many occasions. I would talk about this discussion with
my hubby and listen his views and emerge his opinion in some other ways. But the best ways
is to have 'faith' in each other. Let's open out like this internet without any boundaries.
One will find no differences among spouses.
May God bless You and have a great time.
