do you think family backgroud really matters?

How we relate to someone depends on how we were loved, nortured, raised and disciplined by our parents. The kind of family we lived really matters on how we present ourselves to others. Personality differences are very challenging, and when we are trained, disciplined well by our parents within our family, we automatically carried it along within our selves, and that can be seen in our reactions to any stimuli we faced. Our person is the mirror of what kind of family we came from, although, some factors can be taken too from our direct environment and colleagues we are exposed with.

Absolutely. Family back ground is massively important. A persons entire world view stems primarily on their family upbringing. If your spouses family yelled and screamed at each other, you can expect that your spouse will yell and scream at you. It's what he was raised in. It is what he considers normal. If your spouses family was fast and loose with money, and had little fiscal discipline, you can expect your spouse will be the same. Blowing money and making questionable spur of the moment purchases. I read the story of a couple that got married, and the first weekend, he slept in till 11AM like he always did, and his newlywed wife got upset. After discussing it, her father was always up at 6AM and working on odd jobs around the house. She was upset because that's what she was used to, and he wasn't matching up. Another example was her family they always lavished luxury gifts on each other. Jewelry and expensive dresses and the sort. His family was always practical and bought useful gifts. The first Christmas he bought a really expensive but practical gift, and she started crying, and he felt awful not knowing what he had done wrong. But it was all just family background. Obviously their problems were more minor, while others are very serious. You should learn how your potential future spouse has been raised. What kind of things they do and are used too. And the real hard part is looking at yourself and seeing things in your own life that need worked on. Of course the big lie is that all you need is love. To many fell for that, and woke up the day after the wedding with this completely different than expected person next to them.

In theory, it should not matter, but in reality, to have a lasting and happy marriage, we have to keep in good terms with the spouse, his habits, which is extablished through previous background, and also in good terms with his relatives. It is ok to marry with a person from different background, but you have to sacrifice a lot your own habits from your background. Unless both are willing to make compramise, the union is tough in quite some cases.

For me family background doesn't matter at all, but in reality people would look and judge your relationship through what your family has or what family did. A sad thing to accept but our family though would play a crucial role when it comes to deciding on tying the knot, specially if you were raised with parents who are deeply religious to conformity and culture. That's where fighting for thy love comes i guess, and as they say love conquers all. My best friend said that a relationship is a lesson in progress, and that every time where there is a new problem in math you should continuously practice the solution, apply it until you could get the correct answer, and the correct answer will always be happiness and contentment with each others arm. and for me though as long as your happy.. that is all you need. lol happy lotting!! and have a great day!

i dont really give much attention of it before. family backgrounds is somewhat like a story of their lives for me. i couldnt even care less before. but now, knowing your partners family background is one way of knowing them more. and how and who they are when they are with their families. that really counts to me now, because i too am a person with loving characteristics specially to my parents. and some of your attitudes some what may come out whenever you are with your family.

Before i always think that nothing more important than two lovers love each other. But my friend's stoty tells me i'm wrong, the family background really does matter. My friend's hubby is a very very good person, but his family is poor, when he get the salary, he will send large amount to his parents, though to treat parents well is a virtue,but that's makes my friend cann't do what they wanna,they cann't afford the house,and enjoy her small family.My friend told me that though she considers this point before, now she cann't stand it anymore,but she cann't do nothhing as her daughter is only i year old.

In MY view Family Background is some times matters , because in interviews and marriage, personal and Public life and in the society Background gives a real value some times.....so its better if we have Our Family background strong

hi jcbelle, for me family background does matter. it always does matter to me coz my mother taught me to. it is something like checking what is the background of your future husband or partner. what if they got history of epilepsy? or any abnormalities which our children can get? but i know my husband was checking on my background as well by asking me questions.

For me, family background won't make any different. We can't choose from who or where we were born. It's destined by God and there's nothing we can do to change that. What matters to me is what he is now. Either someone with work or good personality or just a loser who might bring more harm to me. I usually check his current life first, family second.

yes, it does matter a lot. you have to be see to it that your boyfriend's family background is well rounded and in good manners. it's hard to be with someone who's family is always bugging or irritates you always, it will be a big factor in chosing someone who wants to be your lifetime partner.

i really do believe that it is very important, family background is what molds you as a child to become a person you are/will be when you grow up. im not so sure, but have you ever seen a teenager lost in life but with full family supporting him? or a young adult making good in his life as a parent to his child, when all he experienced as a child was torture and no help from his parents,