I got rejected by her mom:(

Hi HelScream, That is one of the saddest news I have heard about you. It is very disappointing but when there is a will there is a way. I am sure you will find some way to please her mom. After all you are her daughter's sweet heart, isn't it? I am sure she can make out some ways to make her mom pleased with you!

I like your positive stance on this. Well my friend, I already know that you are a very patient person. Sometimes in life, there are people that don't like us and that like us. And in this delicate situation, the daughter likes you but not the mother. Work the differences in your head. Is there a specific reason that she does not like you? Is she meaning not good enough in terms of status? In terms of education? Or social standing? There could be many reasons. Or perhaps looks? Or she feels her daughter is not good enough for you and hence those dislike? There are many reasons but of course, the person that don't like us won't tell us the truth. The main thing is to just be patient and work the differences. And since your girlfriend has chosen her path, let he be. If she's meant to be yours, she will come back no matter how much differences you guys have. But I do know for sure that she's a lucky girl to have someone like you love her. Because your love is imminent. Good luck in your life, buddy. Hang in there.

ouch... here i go again, feeling the way i did in your other discussion. but i'm not gonna cry this time. :) let's see here... if you were told that "you only know how to love" means you have differences (background, social status, family, upbringing, religion etc). and that you don't understand the impact of these differences to your girlfriend and her family as well as your future family if ever you'll end up together. the best move you have done is to respect her decision, but since you love her a lot... i suggest a talk with her mom. insist that an explanation is due, no matter what the outcome of the talk is. at least explain your side and fight your own battle even if your gf won't side with you. then talk to your gf. if you are willing to wait until she has a change of heart, then do so.

That's sad helscream but don't lose hope! If i were you, i should continue the relationship but first i need to convince my girlfriend that i will stay. I guess your girlfriend's mom is being practical. I just want to ask, are you rich? Maybe her mom is looking for someone that's rich so that her daughter won't suffer. I know it's really hard to accept but i guess that how it goes right now. You can continue your relationship secretly while you're busy making yourself rich or at least be the guy the her mom would like. Don't let other people get in the way of your love to your girlfriend.

hi helscream, I am sorry that you have to undergo all through this and it should be between you and your girl friend. But her mom is her parent and all parents would want a better life for their wards. hey i m not saying you are not good but may be though i am not sure her mom might be meaning that a girl needs more tham love. I am a guy so only thinking loud i can be wrong. Girl need security financial, emotional and physical. She also need respect to her as a wife, and as a woman and would want that her husband/bf would respect her and her family and be always be there for her when ever she needs him. may be her mother might have thought that her girl needs more than what you offered in all these dept. Pls dont take me rude but i have seen quite a few guys here in India rejected by girls parents on these lines. But i think it should be between you and your girl to decide and if she didnt find you good in all the things i mentioned then i dont think she would be in a relationship with you. I am really sorry and i know how much it hurted. I wish you all the best and hope her mother sees whats inside you and how much happy you would keep her daughter.

I'm so sorry for you dude. Its just that there are too many moms out there who wouldn't want their own children to have a relationship with somebody they didn't like. You can make it turn the other way around. If you really wanna have her, do anything that would please her mom. Court her mom. Prove to her that you are something worthy of her daughter. Hey, i just did that and it worked. Don't be pessimistic about it.

i'm so sorry to hear about your situation... i don't understand why your girl friend's mum is rejecting you... may be you have to sit down and talk to her heart to heart and shows her that you are a good enough man for her daughter... you need to prove to her and build her trust in you... your girlfriend has to support you as well and speak of your good things in front of her mum... it all takes time... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

I do not know from which country you are. But in our part of world, it is very much there. you may love her, but it seems she is not so much in love. Else she could have made her mom understand.

That is very hard. I hope you can still try to work on this. Try to be closer to her mom sincerely. Be his friend first....I do know if that is possible with your situation but I am sure if her mom will see that you are serious and sincere, I am sure she will trust you!

I am not sure of what her moms mean by saying that but it sounds like to me that she doesn't want her daughter with anyone as eventually every couple has problems in their relationship. I don't think that is a reason to not be together. Why does she not like you? If there is not a reason, then I say that you should try to convince her that you love her daughter and want to be with her. I think that your girlfriend should fight for the relationship too.

That is so sad to hear. But if i were in the situation of the clear that would be mean that she's not really ready for true love and relationship. otherwise she would be arguing with her mom and accept the consequences. which in this case, she's not ready for that. and that's the reason why she didn't fight for you.. don't worry she'll come around some day. when she's ready for you.

Ask her mom straightly,what she expects from you to be a husband for her daughter.If you can fulfill it,then go ahead.If not,there is no reason for you to waste time on a girl who respects her mother more than you.I feel very sad for you.

I know how you feel. You are almost there to live the life that you want with your most loved and then you got rejected by her mom. I don't think your girlfriend will give you up based on her mom's deision. Maybe her mom had a bad experienced relationship wise or even marriage. Love is enough but you need to show her mom that you love her. Try doing something nice for her mom. Like yesterday was mother's day, did you give something to her, as in she might be your mother in law. Every little thing count. So if she sees that you care about her daughter and even take time to care for her mom, then she knows that her daughter has found a very good husband. I wish you the best of luck. Be Strong!

...Does your girlfriend really loves you??? Don't let her mom to be a burden to both of you,it's your decision and hers ,as long as both of you are true to each other...you'll be together for life if God wills it.

In order for you to fully understand there are two basic things you must know. First you need to look at yourself and see you through her mothers eyes. That may be very hard to do and leads to the second thing you need to know. What is her mother's background with men? If she has had bad relationships herself she is much more likely to look out for the same characteristics in any man that is with her daughter. If she see something that she has experienced before she will advise her daughter accordingly. One example may be how industrious you are. Are you still in school? Are you working and making money? This is especially important if you are out of school. Are you going or have you been to college? This is a major indicator as to how well you will do in life and her mother needs to know that you will be able to take care of her daughter as well as love her. This may be where her statement came from. There is so much more to marriage than love. Love is only one component to a successful and happy marriage. Do you think these things are not important? To a mother who wants only the very best for her daughter this is very important. So even though you may not have a chance with this one you need to answer your own questions. Why? When you find that out you will have the tools you need to begin to get it right. And once that happens, and if your girl friend loves you she may very well come back. Don't work for that however, do it for yourself.

maybe she means you should be financially stable. it's usually what most moms look for in their future in laws especially if the have the girls. you can't blame her if that's the problem. she just want her daughter to be financially secure especially in this height of time. try to resolve the problem in that aspect. i hope this helps. good luck.

I am sorry. I am not sure why your girlfriend's mom is against you two being together, but you are right, your girlfriend needs to fight for you as well. And if she has given up there is very little to do for the moment. She might change her mind tho. I wish you good luck.

Hi, HelScream. I agree with mike9 up there. Do things that would please the mom. It would do no good to antagonize your girlfriend's mother. We have to understand that a mother wants only what is good for her child. Thus, she probably rejected you because she suspects that her daughter would have a hard time if she would be with you. Show her otherwise. Convince her. Take care

How old is she? If she is younger than it’s probably good she listens to her mom because her mom is much wiser and more experienced. If she is older than she needs to learn to think for herself and use her mom’s advice as guidance in making her own decisions. I got no clue about the love statement though…I don’t know what that means and I don’t think she does either. It sounds like she doesn’t even know what love is.

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe her mom would want to see you successful first before she allowed you to be her daughter's boyfriend. Her mom would want to be sure that you can take care of her daughter before letting you take care of her. Prove yourself to her mom that you can. If you really love her, you can do that, and I know you know what I mean.