Do you have the right to interfere on your bestfriends life?

Of course that whats best friend for, We as someone care about our friends have a right to interfere with them but not the only one who decide for their lives. We just give options and guides to them.

There are a lot of takes on this subject but in my opinion, you should let your best friend know what you think/know is going on. Your friend deserves to know what is going on. She will have to decide on her own what to do. You can only offer your take on what is going on but if she decides to stay with him, you need to respect her decision. We all learn from mistakes and experiences. There is that possibility of hurting her feelings and making her mad at you, but if it's the truth, she will soon find out. So by telling her the truth, at least she will know that you are an honest friend and that you are just looking out for her.

I think it depends on comfort level. still there is something like private thing.At some point even the best friend should be given some space.

As a friend, I think it's fine to offer an opinion, but you have to be aware that your friend may not want to take your advice - and may choose to side with her boyfriend. The best you can do is say that you have her best interests at heart, you want everything to work out for the best, and you will be there for her if something goes wrong. But once you've made your point, you need to back off - otherwise there's a risk she'll choose him over you.

well its okay to interfere, if you're saying the right thing and your major concerns is for her betterment. but if she refuse to listen, just remind to her that you are just doing your job as her best friend.at least you did your best and its up to her if she lend her ears and believe on what you say.

Christian, After reading your blog, i smiled because i feel the same way as you felt to your friend seven years ago. It is still fresh in my mind. I do hate my friend's suitor because i can feel that he will only keep my friend away from me as well as he will just hurt my friend's feelings. One day, i was surprised that she asked me if i would want to text him for us to know him well, if he would tell me the same name, address, work, age and everything about himself as he have told to my friend. I pause for a moment and think after that i agreed and accepted his offer. My purpose is to pissed him off! So, it was holy week then, and i decided to stay at my friend's house for a week. There, we both have enjoyed our plan. She is texting him and i am texting him as well. But, i don't know what happened. I was in loved with him already.... I was too foolish then that i was not able to control my emotion... You know what, because of him our friendship suffered a lot. I left my bestfriend's house without informing her because i got jealous already. It's too late that i realized that my friend hated me. Our gameplan was wrong. I should have not let myself get involved with my friend's personal life especially in terms of love. Because even if i do not want him for her she have fallen already, she insisted on what she want and one day i received an invitation..... a wedding invitation that they're getting married. I asked an apology to my friend, she understand me.... i accepted the invitation as a matter of fact i became one of her bride's maid. Since then, i we became friends again....friends forever no matter what.

This is a hard one. I think I would make sure my information was true first. Then contimplate what you are going to say. I would tell her you care about her and want the best for her and this is what you know. She probably wants to be happy and the news won't make her very happy. You will have to contend with whatever mood she takes on after the news. Be sure it is something you need to do and then go forward.

We have the right to give our advises to our friends and am sure they would apreciate us caring for them. We don't have to risk the frienship, however, if they take our advises fine but if they chooses to follow their own beliefs, let them. They are aware of our good intentions but maybe they believed that it's their decision no matter what. We are just here to guide and let them know how we feel for them but not to interfere. We can insist however what we think right but if they don't listen, we'll just think they may have other reasons doing so. Nothing to be upset of, let the friendship stay.

Well, we may have good intentions but I don't think we should 'interfere' in anyone's life, whether he/she is our best friend. In your case, if you think that your bestfriend's boyfriend is not right for her, I think you can tell her that, but don't hinder their relationship because that's crossing the line. If you've already told her that her boyrfriend is cheating on her, then it's up to her to decide what to do next, or whether to believe you or not. I mean, you can only make or give advices but the final decision will still lie to that person - your bestfriend. She's the driver of her life, you're just a passenger. Let her learn and make her own decision. You're there to support her anyways. ^_^

Best friends always let best friends know what is going on even at the risk of ending the friendship. After all, best friends are supposed to be there when the going gets tough. Why stop now??

My bestfriend named Lyca, and we've been together for so long now. We never see each other often right now because were too far away from each other but whenever we have a chance we see to it that we have quality time together, we shared the same secrets and some other stuff like you christian1 and your bestfriend. I also didn't like her boyfriend because he's a two timer and my bestfriend knows it. But still she's not listening to me, a very hard headed one..grrrr...makes me so mad at her but i still love her and try to understand her, when she cried I'm still there to comfort her no matter what. Sometimes when a person is so inlove, they tend to be blind by the reality of it until one day they realized he's / she's so stupid not to notice it right there and then. I keep on telling her that, " just feel the pain until it hurts no more " then she can move on ^_^ and I'm glad that she was able to get over it to that person she loves soooo dearly and found a new one who loved her so much and they are now happy together for a month now ehehe

Sadly no... its still their life. In my case though, I always tell my friends what I need to say, specially when they are asking, don't want to give unsolicited advice. Just make sure you'll be there when what you fear happens. I always tell, "as as you're happy, but i'll just be here if things don't work well..." its a sad role any friend will ever take. I know what you mean, coz it hurts me too when they get hurt, but that's life, everybody has a lesson to learn in order to grow. If you keep them from experiencing those things they will be overly dependent on you and they'll never learn a thing. Just be there, and watch... its a hard role, but that's how it is...

U can share anything with ur bestfriend but don't interfere her life. If u think her bf is just wanna fool her, you can tell her what u think and the proof,but let her decide what she should do next!

the good term is suggest not interfere, coz it differs . you can suggest and advise her what you would observe of his bf . you say it friendly and smoothly that you do it just for her own good .the important is you say what you have interpreted his boy friend. if she will ignore this just move on, stick to your hobbies, dont afraid of your relationship. it is the way to solid friendship if she feels that you really care for her.

I would take into consideration what the think and their advice, just as I would want them to do for me. But I wouldn't be able to tell her what makes her happy in her relationship. All I can say is to be there for her when the crap hits the fan and give her a shoulder to cry on and try not to say I told you so to many times. They feel bad enough usually and know.

Hello christian1!!! Well it is very necessary thing to do, if there is the possibility that our best friend can be in problem in the future. And regarding her boy friends, before you go on to take any step, you have to make it 100 percent sure that what you figured out is just accurately correct. Love makes people blind and it is very difficult to convince such person against her love. If you tell the thing about that to your best friend, she may surely get some weird feelings and still I guarantee that she will surely keep some sort of doubt on her boyfriend in the future. She will surely be careful with each step her boyfriend is taking and even try to find the out the truth. You can surely interfere for the goodness of your friend. And on doing this, if your friendship is in risk, then she doesn't really understand you if she reacts. The nice best friends just don't react though it may hurt them and instead keep them in their hurt. And if she didn't listen to you and instead go on with her boyfriend they she will surely remember what you said to you one day. But it is not the thing of concern that what we say come true in this case. It is the case of helping the friend and getting him/her in the right track. So my conclusion is that, we should always interfere for the betterment of our friends life. Rather than sitting quiet, trying to sort out the problem means the real friendship. I hope you got what I meant. Happy mylotting...

according to me.... the answer is No... How much closer a freind can be... but when it comes to personal life... I think it will not be right to interfere. May be a note of suggestion when asked or a piece of advice can be given when the friends life going out of track. But unless there is a definte need of interference in one's life... I feel that have one step back is good for everyone.

There is no harm in your voicing your opinion on her but do tred very careful.Sometimes it is a good idea if we all learn by our own mistakes and that way we try not to make the same mistake again.Live and learn is what i say.If you value your friendship with your friend that much just sit back and wait for her to realise about her boyfriend as then she will want your shoulder to cry on.

you're not really interfering, your bestfriend would most definitely understand where you are coming from (if you two are that close)... The best way would be to ask your friend to talk... and tell her how you feel about her boyfriend and what you know... at the same time let her know that you support whichever decision she makes, so it doesnt seem like you are just trying to ruin something... there shouldn't be any secrets between you guys so it'd probably be the best idea

We can surely ask for his/her attention but can never interfere. A person should always keep in mind that they also have a personal life which even we can not sneak in..