Will You Ever Get......

I NEVER plan to marry again. I love being single. That doesnt mean no dating. Just no marriage.

I married my childhood sweetheart whom I met at school at the age of fifteen. We dated for seven years and we married when I was almost twenty two. It lasted four and a half years and when we separated I was devastated; not only because my marriage was over but because I was alone after eleven and a half years with someone. I had no friends to speak of because the people in my life at the time were initially his friends so I found myself having to start over on my own. I vowed then never to marry again; the hurt and disappointed were so intense When I met my current partner it took a lot of work on his part to convince me to allow someone to get close. We've had our ups and many downs because he suffers from bipolar disorder (he was diagnosed on our first wedding anniversary) and there have been times that have been a tad difficult but I'm still here and at this time have no plans to go anywhere but I know that if I was ever single again I would not ever consider bothering with romance again. It is too easy to lose yourself in a relationship and I must say that is what I managed to avoid the second time around, I am still me as a whole instead of half of a couple.

I have been married twice and I would NEVER get married again. I have been married twice and prefer the single life. I am perfectly happy being my own boss, earning my own money and living my life the way I choose.

What a clever question! And of course, I would never fling mud at you for your musings. They are after all simply questions. If I were not already happily involved with my soul mate, then I imagine that I would want to have love in my life. Or, I'd devote my self to a new job or career to take the sting out of rejection and develop my life in other ways as you mentioned. Perhaps, I would have time to go back to college if not taking care of my spouse. But love does have it's good points, even if it's very time consuming!

No way I would ever marry again!! I never saw the need before and was in a relationship and wanted kids and he said I don't want to have kids if we aren't married. So I married him. Turned out what he really meant was "I don't want to be married or have kids but I am dishonest and you don't want to be married so I will say this and have it my way, but oops you married me and had a kid anyway, you witch...." well, DUH! So no way would ever do that again! Relationships are fine and long lasting would be wonderful, but I do NOT see the need for the piece of paper the legal ramifications and expense it brings if things don't work out. Not worth it to me ever again! PS my parents have been married for almost 60 years, so I know it works, but I just don't see the point anymore.

Will you ever get??? I'm just going to answer this discussion simply because........... Well now, let me think about that. Seems like whenever I have been in a marriage for the past two times it seem that the men want to control me. That is what things seem to ultimately come down to in marriage, so I would really think long and hard b4 I ever decide to go into another marriage b/c who wants to be controlled? All this says is that a man need a woman in order to feel like he is someone important. This is all that it's taught me in all two of my experiences and that is why I would have to think long deep and hard b4 I would make another commitment to be controlled by someone. This is not to say that I would not have a special friend somewhere who would give me the love, hugs and snuggles that I might be needing but to put his name on a piece of paper along with mine, just so that we could say , we r married now is not something that I'm in a real big hurry to do. I'm thinking that I would be cool just remaining single and learn from my past experiences...... Peace and love, happy weekend!

Way back wehn . I found someone new and it lasted till he passed away as you know. And Now I say never again will I marry. One thing I wouldnt get my SS check. another I just not open for another relationship and I am still pineing. But thats not to say I dont live a full life!. Yup there is that empty spot adn I dont think anyone could fill it up.

I'm not angry or fearful of getting hurt again. Still, I would never get married or live with a guy again. I date but I have no desire to tangle up my life financially with a guy ever again. Each time, I lost everything and had to start up all over again. I like being independent and on my own. I like having my own space. I don't think all of us who prefer staying single are doing so out of fear or are lonely and empty.

i believe if love comes on the right time then i will marry again..i'm not married but had been living in with my partner for 10 years but if ever i will be in this situation then i say it depends..depend on the time, with the person i am gonna marry again..if i am to marry the same old things i hated and suffered with the same marriage then i say i'll just drop it..i won't marry again for the same cross i will carry..and if ever i will marry again i'll make sure i won't let the same things to happen..once is enough twice is too much BS.

After my divorce from my first marriage, I thought that zandi. I really did. After a few months of dating, I met this man and we started dating. HE was the first to tell me that he loved me. I almost ran out the door! I didn't want to hear it. Eventually he won over my heart but it took some time. Then he asked me to marry him in which I said no. He kept asking and kept asking for months on end that I got tired of hearing it and thought if I said yes then he'd leave me alone about it so I did. I had no intention of marrying this man because I had been so hurt and let down before. We were together for 2 and a half years before he was killed. I thought I'd lose my damned mind! That's when I told my dad that if I had it my way, I'd want to marry someone who had money because love hurts too much and money would give me a sense of security and I'd want him to be in the Army to get out of the state and town that I was living so I could start anew. Well a month or two later, I met my husband now in which we've been together for almost 18 years. I must love him because he certainly doesn't have any money! lol He was in the Army and just retired a couple of years ago so that part I did get. It's funny how life hands you situations and changes our lives for the better. I never dreamed I'd be this happy but here I am, as happy as a woman can be. Now if the other things going on in my life would get better, I'd be a queen bee! lol

Hi zandi! I am divorced. It is 16 years since my marriage ended (plus a few more trying to make it work) and since then I have been in other relationships which have ended too, sometimes because I wanted them too and others because of the other person. I will not be marrying again ever and I am not wanting to be involved again either. I have thrown away too many chunks of my life into what I thought at the time was the story of my life. When I am in a relationship I am not half in but devote myself entirely to it and when it goes wrong and I pick up the pieces I realise that more years have passed. I will not let that happen again. When someone gets too close now I back off and i am aware that I do it too. Life is too short too waste it so I prefer it how it is now.

no, i have no desire to get married again not that anyone is beating down the door. i have been divorced for nearly 40 years so noone would put up w/me & vice versa. i have been in love since then but it wasn't a worlable situation to start with if u get my meaning. marriage is the nicest thing in the world if u can get along & be happy. there is nothing worse when u can't.

I have never been married once but as a twenty three year old I think it would be so hard to get over an actual spouse and start over. It’s like a completely different life. I would feel like I betrayed my husband if I was widowed. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it per say. I don’t think I could ever get a divorce…But that would definitely be easier to get married again afterwards I would think. My boyfriend of a year and a half (not the same I know) told me the other night how weird we would be around other people if we started dating around again because we are so used to each other and our little quirks. How much more different would it be for someone who had been married?!

I can't imagine getting married to begin with. The trade off of having that other person ruin your life, or ditch you for someone else, seems way to big a risk, for the temporary, short term pleasure of romance that often doesn't last, and end up a boring routine. Every marriage starts off hot... but I have yet to meet any couple that's been married more than 5 years that still has that sparkle and interest in each other they did at the start. Especially after the kids show up, it's often the guy over there watching TV or doing something else, and the girl over here messing with the kids or whatever makes her happy. Many still have that, I'm married to X feeling, but other than that, they seem completely uninterested in each other. Well heck, I can do that being single. A ton cheaper too.

I really am not sure if I could ever take that step again, marriage is huge and I have been burnt pretty bad in the past. I dont have any feelings for my ex. I have said that I will never get involved again and was really quite content being on my own but then I met someone and that all changed so it is possible that my idea on marriage could change too.

Hi zandi, I have been married twice but twice bitten twice shy, my first marriage ended amicably but my second was very bitter, personally I am now scared of any kind of relationship with a man let alone marriage so think that is the reason why a lot of women prefer their own company or perhaps just a very deep personal, friendship with a man who lives on his own and the woman has her home..for me that is a safer option...littleowl

I was divorced on November 15, 1989, and have remained single ever since. I can't imagine being married again and am quite sure I don't want to be. I like not being married. I like not having someone I have to cook for daily or who thinks they can tell me what to do. I guess you could say I had such a bad experience in marriage that it has tainted my perspective. I know that many marriages aren't at all like mine was, but even knowing that, I have no desire to try again.

Hello zandi458, I have no idea if I ever get married again. I have been divorced for really close to 13 years on the last of May. I am not attatched to my ex husband but I am not sure of getting married again. For personal reasons I have held back on marriage. My b/f knows all of this and he knows the reason. Some people feel incomplete without a partner but I have a partner only not married to him. Some people go from marriage to marriage to marriage and divorce after divorce and that is not me. I have been with my b/f since 2001 and I am not in to looking for someone new to replace him.

Though i'm single and don't have experience of marriage, i'm already aware that no one can say that she/he would never divorce all her/his life. One of my friend divorce,when i ask her why, she just told me that they just no longer love each other.Speaking frankly, i long for this kind of marriage“ to hold his hand and grow old together". Maybe someone laugh at me,it already disappers in this modern world,nowadays,the love is like fast food. That's why i fear marriage, i'm afraid i cann't find the right person to grow old with me.

yes why not if i will be given a chance to feel in love again. we cannot deny that our past will not be vanished right away but still we are living in the confusiong life. fear of getting hurt again will usually flashed in our minds for we really encountered this for how many years but if you have the strong will to fight and challenge it then its good. the anger of both parties depends on their situation happened whats the real cause of their break up. only the person can explain it well if she has the memories w/ it.