I 'm not good enough...

You already have your answer. You'll give it to her if she wishes. I don't understand why you think so deeply and so much. You already made your decision to do what she wishes because of your love for her. Leave it that way and don't think about it. Carry on. :) PS - Easier done than said, haha.

To be honest, you dont need to be good enough except for yourself. The only reason someone should fall in love with someone is because you love them for who you are. This is why if someone wants to leave you, you should never beg for them back. They want to leave you because there is something wrong for who you are. You should alwaysbe yourself, and if they dont like you for that, then they are not right for you.

if you think like that, then you'll probably become one. love yourself a little bit more by believing in your self some more. don't demoralize yourself. it will just add to pain. and "don't put out the light when you already know you can't see in the dark". i don't know if this makes sense but thinking negatively is bringing the pain much earlier coz you already know that the negative outcome will really hurt you. why not hang on a little bit more to faith? to hope? even if you have decided to give her freedom (if ever), don't deny yourself the right to hope and believe in something positive. even if it's just a mere ray of light in the darkest of rooms.

Hi HelScream, so, you are now facing the bitter really of love. Now, just in case for a moment, did you every think of giving pain to her because she left you? I mean she is the one who left you, it is not you who left her, were you? So, even for a moment, did you ever think that you will make her life face an every bitter reality? just curious!

Don't think of it that way. You aren't any more or less than anyone else; you just need to accept the fact that if the relationship isn't going to work - it isn't going to work. It doesn't have anything to do with you being "not enough". Don't punish yourself too much; everything happens for a reason and whatever the reason behind this relationship breaking up is more than likely not your fault.

Every person has many people that are compatible with them. Whether it is a friend, or more than that. There is somebody out there for every one of us. It is just finding those people. Just keep on living through life and try to be as positive as possible. Eventually you will find somebody that you can share your life with.

oh i am so sorry to hear that your relationship is ending. but that doesn't mean that you are not good enough. that means there is something and one better coming along. and in order to get ready you need not be in a relationship. don't you ever put yourself down like that! you are good enough. and just because one person can't see it that's their lost

Hi Dan! If she does not want you, it is her loss. There are more women out there. You will find one that deserves your love. Until then enjoy your freedom. Once you lose it, you don't get it back, hahaha! I hope you are feeling better. Wishing you all the best. Take care, my friend.

It has always been my belief that love cannot be forced. It can be nurtured but it cannot be forced. Not everyone will love us and we don't love everyone in a romantic way. That's how nlife is! So if this relationship doesn't work, don't think it's the end of the world and that no one else will ever love you. There will be others!

Not good enough... Dear not good enough, you need to get a grip. Realize that people do whatever they want to do. If she wants to be with you she would be. Let her go and if she love you she will return. In the meantime you need to man up and quit being so hard on yourself. Just try to see this situation as you didn't have what she wanted. Not all of us can please everybody and if you really loved her you'd only want the best for her. Let her go so that she can find the one that makes her happy and then you can do the same. Don't worry, you'll be fine all by yourself for a while b/c it seems like you need to do a lot of growing up. Maybe that's the reason why she is choosing to leave. Sorry if it sound like i"m being kind of hard on you but it doesn't make any sense for a man to be falling apart like over a break up like you're doing.

hmmm.no one is good enough just try to be better in life.don't force anyone who didn't love you anymore .you are right to give her freedom i think.good luck

You can't hang on to someone if they don't want the same thing. The relationship will not work. Either you hurt now, or you will hurt later. You can't make her love you if she doesn't. If it is meant to be, then maybe one day she will come back to you. She has come into your life for a reason. Maybe you two met in order to show you how to love. Maybe the reason hasn't been revealed yet. Maybe you are parting ways with her because someone even better suited for you is going to come your way. You will eventually stop hurting and move on with your life. Sometimes it takes a lot longer than you want it to, but things always work out in the end. If it isn't meant to be, then it isn't meant to be. Don't fight it. Both people have to be in it heart and soul for it to work. You wouldn't be happy knowing that she wasn't happy, would you?

HelScream, please don't think low about yourself, that way you are only making your life worse like everyone else. Things happen for some reasons and maybe there is a thing called destiny. Do try to get what you want but if things doesn't work...don't blame yourself for that. Maybe you deserve something better than that. Always be positive and hopeful :) I wish you the very best life can offer.

hey, just like in a dance... it takes two to tango...unfortunately, your partner has stopped dancing... you cannot do the tango alone. Maybe she doesn't know how to dance at all that's why she stopped... but that doesn't mean there will be no more dancing... your task is to find a better partner or the best and be the best partner you could ever be. you said you've done everything too make the relationship work... I'm glad you did... at least that way, you will not regret and say "what if" because you already did your best. yes, it's painful but time heals all wounds. add love to that and in no time you will find love again and by then, you will have already learned how to make your relationship work. God bless you!

you can love anyone but you can't make them stay not only love, this goes with friendship too you can choose between being angry and seek revenge, to accept and move on or to accept and keep loving but none of them guarantees they will come back and stay so choose wisely since you will have to live with your decision all your life in my case, marrying my hubby is the best decision I've ever made in my whole life if this relationship should fail, I will let him go and still love him he is the only one in the world I will love even after breaking my heart everyone else, my heart won't rest until it's avenged that's my choice. what is yours?

Everything that happens has a reason. You may not good enough for her but you may be the best for someone else. God may have someone more deserving for you in the same way that you maybe much deserving for her. So if can no longer do something to patch the relationship, let go and move on. I wish you good luck and happiness.

No doubt your pain is real and rejection is never easy, but you have said several times that you are not good enough because of the rejection of one person who is probably not for you. You have a rating of 10 after only 295 posts, which tells me somebody thinks very highly of you, in fact quite a few people. I am sure if you try you will see many things about yourself that are positive and lovable. I bet you have family and friends who love you. Do not let the opinion of one person (who I know you have deep feelings for) make you think so lowly of yourself. As you say you did your best, maybe she did her best and now it is time for you both to move on and fine people who are right for both of you. I am sure you would rather be set free to find the right person rather than spending years trying to make a relationship with the wrong person work. It may be painful now, but you will get through it and things will get better in time.

hi, Helscream! Will everyone of us is not good enough. it also depends upon the situation. Base in your situation., you know all of your effort to make your relationship strong and long last. but both of you know what is really going on. now, If you tried your best to make it the best, ask your gf why she did it to you? what is the reason behind her decision?. The best thing to do is to talk with her and try to recover with you self. Happy Mylotting!

hey my fellow mylotter, i know how u feel but u got to let her go ...i was in similar situation ...yrs has pass since then and still;.. i'm tryin to enjoy the best of my single life...yes i was like i'm not good enough still think so sometimes...but if God has design this particular path for me i'm welcome to take it..!!... hope all turns out well ...good luck..!!..

It will really hurt but you have to accept her decision.I know you can handle it because you want her to be happy.Pray for strength and guidance.It will help you a lot.Take care!