They Told You They Understood...

Not because she's giving so many other suggestions means she doesn't understand. Maybe she understands more than you do that's why she's able to come up with more ways to resolve whatever the problem is. You can't expect her to keep quiet while she's troubled with what situation you are in. Thing with girls, they talk a lot. They are very expressive. This is something you need to understand. If you think that all you need from her is for her to listen, then tell her that. Sometimes, men fail to express what they truly need to their girlfriends so their girlfriend go on doing things their way, thinking that it's just ok since the boyfriend's not complaining anyway. It's all a matter of being open to each other. Express how you feel. It can make a lotta difference.

Yes, I have been on that situation. You know what I did? I watch a movie without my partner. I thought that I need alone time with myself. I don't one someone dictating or suggesting to me what should be done. I just want to stop thinking. I just want to let time decide.

You post reminds me of a poem that I once read, it was written by an anonymous man/woman. It starts like this: When I ask you to listen to me And you start giving me advice, You have not done what I asked. When I ask you to listen to me And you begin to tell me ‘why’ I shouldn’t feel that way, You are trampling on my feelings. When I ask you to listen to me And you feel you have to do something to solve my problems, You have failed me, strange as that may seem. Listen! All I ask is that you listen; Not talk, nor do – just hear me. My husband is very understnading and a good listener, but in the past I have often been in a situation where my ex-boyfriend didn't understand my situation and tried to give me advice instead of just listening to me. I got frustrated when that happened, but I know that he did the best he could, and it is hard to really understand something when you haven't been through the same thing. Sometimes people think that they know how you feel, and sometimes they think that your situation is similar to theirs though it isn't. The feeling that the other person doesn't understand me always makes me frustrated, but I try to remember that they just want to help and that they mean well.

People think differently, and your partner may understand the situation better than you do as they are looking at it from the outside not the inside, it could give them better prospective. Remember your partner was only trying to help to the best of their ability and cannot read your mind. You have to tell them if you simply want to talk it through and for them to listen, because sometimes that is all you really want when your partner thinks you want their help and advice. Just because your partners ideas are different than yours does not mean that they do not care or that they do not understand. You may simply want them to validate your feelings and that is not always possible. Hang in there and God bless you both.

She may just be interpreting the situation differently. People have different ideas for different things. True, she may need to learn how to listen. Maybe she feels like if she gives you suggestions...it is her way of trying to help you. She in her heart may just be wanting to help you and that is the only way she knows how. If she loves you she will have your best interest at heart.